Some people - a sizeable minority - prefer to avoid the limelight, tend to listen more than they speak, feel alone in large groups, and require lots of private time to restore their energy. Often they feel different, not right, less than. But as Marti Olsen Laney proves, that is far from the truth.
The Introvert Advantage dispels common myths about introverts - they’re not necessarily shy, aloof, or antisocial - and explains how they are hardwired from birth to focus inward, so outside stimulation such as chitchat, phone calls, parties, or office meetings can easily become "too much". Most importantly, it thoroughly refutes many introverts’ belief that something is wrong with them. Instead, it helps them recognize their inner strengths - their analytical skills, ability to think outside the box, and strong powers of concentration. It provides tools to improve relationships with partners, kids, colleagues, and friends, while offering dozens of tips, including eight ways to showcase their abilities at work and strategies for socializing. In short, The Introvert Advantage shows introverts how to take advantage of their special qualities not only to survive in an extrovert-oriented world, but to thrive.
©2002 Marti Olsen Laney (P)2013 HighBridge Company
This book was such an encouragement! Often times growing up I have felt like I was "different" or "off" for not enjoying what others kids enjoyed or acting the same as them. As I got older, I learned to accept who I am, even if I didn't like it. This book assured me that my thoughts and actions are indeed normal, and encouraged me in my introversion, giving me advice on how to manage more successfully in my daily life. Just hearing the author list emotions or actions I have found myself feeling or doing in the past and felt strange about have taken a burden off my mind. I definitely recommend this book to those who feel insecure about their more internal thoughts and lifestyles.
She starts out with family advice, which felt slow. It's difficult to make family advice that's detailed but general. It moves on to topics of socialization and finally gets good around the last two chapters.
I'm single with no kids, so large sections of this book felt totally irrelevant to me.
I am an introvert, and this book has allowed me to gain a much better understanding of how my brain works and what it is that has been making me feel different my entire life. Even before finishing the book I had begun to see the entire world with new eyes, and understand people better.
I highly recommend this book to any introvert, and also to any extroverts whom are interested in gaining an understanding of the other 20% of people and why they act the way they do.
I will also write, for the first time in my life, I can say, honestly, that I will no longer try to hold myself up to the extrovert's standards for socializing and interaction, for which I've always strode. I feel much better about myself in knowing there is a physiological reason for me not to meet these standards, and going forward, I will cut myself some slack rather than beat myself up so much for not fitting my complex polygon into that circle.
I enjoyed this book immensely! As an "innie", I gained tremendous insight about myself and about "outies". I appreciated the advice about how to interact productively with the extroverts at work where I spend most of my time. This book equipped me for coping with individuals who are different from myself. An excellent and soothing reader!!
This book has been a tremendous help in reminding me of the awkwardness of being a young introvert. I remember discovering this personality label in my twenties, but I don't think that there was the research about how that plays out in life that Dr. Marti Olsen has studied and has eloquently detailed in her book. Having aged, thankfully my introverted "thinking" self has helped me gain confidence to live in my own skin. I have especially appreciated the tools that she offers to help those just learning about their personality to navigate life as an introvert. I think my family of five are all introverts at different levels; I am highly recommending this book to my kids to encourage them to see the gift being introverted is. Dr. Olsen is a great cheer leader for "innies", I am grateful to how she shares the relief her clients have had in finally discovering there isn't something wrong with them, it's just their hard-wired nature and that we bring something special and very good to our world. Great read for introverts and extroverts in order to gain understanding of each other and live side by side!
There is a section on identifying your kids personality and how to help introverted children...I wish I'd had this read as a young parent, it may have helped me be a more sensitive parent to my introverted kids.
I enjoyed the book and it provided valuable insight to myself. Of course not all.aspects were applicable to my personality because people are so amazingly complex, but generally this book pegged introverts. I especially appreciated howMarti explained that introvert doesn't mean shy; an important distinction.
I might recommend the book if someone had little previous knowledge about introversion and extroversion as well as their temperament. It provides a lot of information about each and the differences. However, it doesn't provide a lot of insightful information about introverts dealing with extroverts or as the title suggests "advantages".
"Hit the mark!"
Thoroughly enjoy this. As an introvert myself found it helped me greatly in my journey to understand how to live my life in a more fulfilled way now that I am in my late fortys.
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