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The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World | [Marti Olsen Laney, PsyD]

The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World

The Introvert Advantage dispels common myths about introverts - they’re not necessarily shy, aloof, or antisocial - and explains how they are hardwired from birth to focus inward, so outside stimulation such as chitchat, phone calls, parties, or office meetings can easily become "too much". Most importantly, it thoroughly refutes many introverts’ belief that something is wrong with them. Instead, it helps them recognize their inner strengths - their analytical skills, ability to think outside the box, and strong powers of concentration.
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Publisher's Summary

Some people - a sizeable minority - prefer to avoid the limelight, tend to listen more than they speak, feel alone in large groups, and require lots of private time to restore their energy. Often they feel different, not right, less than. But as Marti Olsen Laney proves, that is far from the truth.

The Introvert Advantage dispels common myths about introverts - they’re not necessarily shy, aloof, or antisocial - and explains how they are hardwired from birth to focus inward, so outside stimulation such as chitchat, phone calls, parties, or office meetings can easily become "too much". Most importantly, it thoroughly refutes many introverts’ belief that something is wrong with them. Instead, it helps them recognize their inner strengths - their analytical skills, ability to think outside the box, and strong powers of concentration. It provides tools to improve relationships with partners, kids, colleagues, and friends, while offering dozens of tips, including eight ways to showcase their abilities at work and strategies for socializing. In short, The Introvert Advantage shows introverts how to take advantage of their special qualities not only to survive in an extrovert-oriented world, but to thrive.

©2002 Marti Olsen Laney (P)2013 HighBridge Company

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    Amazon Customer 11-07-14 Member Since 2014
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    "Finally, someone understands!"
    Would you listen to The Introvert Advantage again? Why?

    Yes, I have listened to it once so far but I need this ingrained in me so I will listen to it often


    Have you listened to any of Tamara Marston’s other performances before? How does this one compare?

    No, this is the first one


    What’s an idea from the book that you will remember?

    The tips and tricks to effective communication were excellent, how to maneuver relationships as an introvert was also an eye opener


    Any additional comments?

    I always thought there was something wrong with me. Why couldn't I be like the rest of my family? Everyone is outgoing, very talkative, always seem to come up with great ideas at the drop of a hat but I found I had to struggle to be like everyone else, at one point I thought I had some type of disorder but reading this book has cleared up so much confusion. This book should be used in schools especially those in the discipline of psychology. I think extroverts need to read this to better understand their introverted partners, family and friends.

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    Erin Charleston, SC, United States 11-06-14
    Erin Charleston, SC, United States 11-06-14 Member Since 2011
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    "Depressing as hell"
    Would you say that listening to this book was time well-spent? Why or why not?

    As an introvert, I found this book extremely depressing. It sent the message that extroverts are normal, fun party animals who want to be around people all the time and introverts are weird, sloth-like people who only go outside if forced.


    How would you have changed the story to make it more enjoyable?

    I would like less information on how special and delicate I am as an introvert and more information on how to get over my introverted tendencies.


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    Anita 09-27-14
    Anita 09-27-14
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    "Could have done without the "dating" guide"
    What did you like best about The Introvert Advantage? What did you like least?

    First part of the book was good but repetitive and there was not enough in-depth discussion of the points she made, so it comes off as shallow and merely an introduction into the topic. I guess it was written for extroverts with shallow or short attention spans. And then to add insult, Dr. Laney adds in a 'dating guide for introverts' - where did that come from?!? I stopped listening after suffering through much of the dating tips.


    Would you recommend The Introvert Advantage to your friends? Why or why not?

    Maybe for a young reader who needs affirmation about being an introvert, but for those of us who are older and have experienced introversion in real life, its a little shallow and trite.


    Did Tamara Marston do a good job differentiating all the characters? How?

    N/A


    Do you think The Introvert Advantage needs a follow-up book? Why or why not?

    No - she might think about doing another dating guide....lol.


    Any additional comments?

    This book should be better described and should definitely warn readers and listeners that the second half is dedicated to helping poor introverts learn how to date. I was very disappointed.

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    hannah jerusalem, Israel 09-03-14
    hannah jerusalem, Israel 09-03-14 Member Since 2011
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    "Lots of fluff.Get to the point already!"
    Any additional comments?

    I have been listening to this audio for 3 hours.No news yet!
    The author is still describing what in fact an introvert is.
    She goes on to give countless numbers of examples of famous introverts.
    Hey,I know I'm one and i don't need to be told lah di dah di dah.....
    This is one of those self-help books that relies on lots of FLUFF as a filler.
    There are very few helpful tips as to how to use being an introvert to your advantage.
    There are too many of these on the market.
    Stating the obvious and repeating it countless times.........
    A disappointment so far,very annoying.

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    Kim Drnec Washington DC 08-01-14
    Kim Drnec Washington DC 08-01-14 Member Since 2013
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    "Could be interesting...but isn't"
    What did you like best about The Introvert Advantage? What did you like least?

    The title, but it didn't really deliver


    Would you be willing to try another book from Marti Olsen Laney, PsyD? Why or why not?

    Probably not. It Is a little simple


    Could you see The Introvert Advantage being made into a movie or a TV series? Who should the stars be?

    It's not really that kind of book


    Any additional comments?

    No

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    Julie Hopkinton, MA, USA 03-20-14
    Julie Hopkinton, MA, USA 03-20-14 Member Since 2007
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    "What "advantage"?"
    Any additional comments?

    The author made some good points, but makes being an introvert sound like a disability, like a fragile child who has to be treated with kid gloves. "Quiet" by Susan Cain is a much better book on the subject.

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    Suzy Q 03-19-14
    Suzy Q 03-19-14 Member Since 2014

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    "This explained so much for me"

    I'm an introvert and bought this book to learn how to be less "shy". It doesn't teach that. Much better, it teaches you how to interact with the extroverts around you and how to take advantage of being an introvert rather than fighting to be something you are not.

    I highly recommend this book. I've already had my mother, the queen of extroverts, read this book and recommended it to several friends and other family members. My mother has also recommended it to friends.

    It not only helps introverts understand more about why we do what we do, and why we feel drained in situations that our more extroverted counterparts seem to thrive in, but also helps extroverts better understand how to work with us and allow us to complement their skills with our own, much different skill sets.

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    Omtomyheart 03-13-14
    Omtomyheart 03-13-14 Member Since 2014

    A mother, a wife, part-time professional trying to fit it all in...

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    "not much of an 'advantage' seen here"

    I thought this book did a good job regarding describing the differences between being an introvert and being an extrovert. I really liked how it illustrated the dynamics between an introvert-extrovert relationship. I thought this was the most useful and practical part of the book. In addition, it also helped me realize that what I had mistaken for my lack of confidence or self-esteem, was actually just my being an introvert. However, despite what the title professes, I felt it didn't really talk about the introvert 'advantage'. I felt like it was more of a pep-talk merely giving us 'permission' and justification to being an introvert. I think I'm interested in reading The Quiet by Susan Cain, and I will be able to give a better review after I 'read' that one. Please let me know if anyone has read both. It would be good to have a discussion. Thanks!

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    Sherry COLUMBIA FALLS, MT, United States 03-05-14
    Sherry COLUMBIA FALLS, MT, United States 03-05-14 Member Since 2014
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    "Good content, but I felt like I was in therapy...."
    Would you try another book from Marti Olsen Laney, PsyD and/or Tamara Marston?

    I would not buy another audible book from Laney and Martson, unless I had a printed copy to scan through beforehand. What I would be looking for to help me decide whether or not to buy the next book, is do I feel like I'm in therapy? If the answer was no, then I'd likely pick up another book from these authors. Their content is good and I certainly learned a great deal. What I struggled with is that the book is titled "Introverts Advantage" -- and with this title I was thinking it would be an uplifting and empowering book on how I could exploit my temperament to be a great advantage. Yes! Exciting!

    But, instead... the author spent a lot of time comforting the introvert that there isn't anything wrong with you, that it is okay to be an introvert, and sharing ways that you can cope... The problem for me with that approach is that I am comfortably an introvert. I know it's okay to be an introvert. And I want to do more than just cope, I want to thrive! I want to make being an introvert a competitive advantage!

    Now all that being said, the author does give great insights on common traits of introverts, some fascinating facts on physical and chemical differences in the brain, and she has some great tips on how to cope and how to recharge. I just wish she should have shared all this great information in a way that was more uplifting and empowering.

    So, in summary.... if you are uncomfortable/uneasy about being an introvert, it's a good book because it will lift you up. If you are trying to understand an introvert, it's a good book because it will well inform you on the differences between extroverts and introverts - and helps with many types of relationships (e.g. parentschildren; spousal, work, friends).

    If you are completely okay or better yet completely happy with being an introvert, then this book may not be for you.... because it spends little time making you feel that it is an advantage...or uplifting you on how to make it a great advantage.


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    Joe HOOVER, AL, United States 03-04-14
    Joe HOOVER, AL, United States 03-04-14 Member Since 2015
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    "Well that was a waste of time."
    This book wasn’t for you, but who do you think might enjoy it more?

    Laney specifically identifies the audience for her book as introverts, but I think it is better suited for introverts who aren't comfortable being introverts. For introverts who are asking the "why" question of themselves or are frustrated about their MO, this book may serve a real purpose. But if you are like me and have pre-identified yourself as an introvert and are perfectly ok with it, this book is highly repetitive and useless.

    FYI, Laney invites extroverts to read her book as a guide to understand the introverts in their life but she is very clear that she's writing to her own kind.


    What could Marti Olsen Laney, PsyD have done to make this a more enjoyable book for you?

    No comment.


    What aspect of Tamara Marston’s performance would you have changed?

    I have no comments on Ms. Marston's performance. She was competent and engaging.


    If you could play editor, what scene or scenes would you have cut from The Introvert Advantage?

    No comment.


    Any additional comments?

    In a word or two, this book boils down to common sense and good logical self-reflection - incidentally something Laney claims introverts are generally strong. I essentially learned nothing from this read and because of that it was a personal waste of time. Again I am vexed with giving a book a 1-star but I can't pull it here since I do fundamentally agree with Laney's description of how introverts and extroverts get recharged. My extroverted wife has never respected this idea (she claims I just want to be away from her so perhaps she'll give it a little more credit in the future.

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