• Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder

  • How to Keep Out-of-Control Emotions from Destroying Your Relationship
  • By: Shari Y. Manning PhD
  • Narrated by: Angela Brazil
  • Length: 10 hrs and 53 mins
  • 4.7 out of 5 stars (419 ratings)

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Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder

By: Shari Y. Manning PhD
Narrated by: Angela Brazil
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People with borderline personality disorder (BPD) can be intensely caring, warm, smart, and funny, but their behavior often drives away those closest to them. If you're struggling in a tumultuous relationship with someone with BPD, this is the book for you. Dr. Shari Manning helps you understand why your spouse, family member, or friend has such out-of-control emotions and how to change the way you can respond. Learn to use simple yet powerful strategies that can defuse crises, establish better boundaries, and radically transform your relationship. Empathic, hopeful, and science based, this is the first book for family and friends grounded in dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), the most effective treatment for BPD.

©2011 Guilford Press (P)2015 Tantor

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"Research based, clearly written, and practical, this guide to a complex disorder is highly recommended." ( Library Journal)

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fantastic

this is without a doubt the best book on borderline personality disorder. I have read at least 15 books on BPD and this is by far the best. I would recommend to anyone with a loved one that is struggling with this disorder to read this book. the book is very insightful and has real life techniques that you can use in your daily interactions with your loved one with BPD.

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So helpful. Practical advice for all!

So helpful. Full of practical advice for everyone whether or not your loved one has an official diagnosis. The book is also applicable to all relationships not just the one who may have BPD. The narration, however is robotic and distracting.

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This book changed my life in ways I didn't expect

I started listening to this book for one purpose. I purchased this book for my boyfriend when he found out he had Borderline. I found out I had Borderline as well while listening to this book. Now with the information that I learned, my emotional intelligence grew tremendously. I haven't yelled at my kids since I've read this book. I haven't invalidated anyone like I used to. I do not judge anyone, and I changed my way of reacting. I highly recommend this book to anyone, not just people associated with BPD.


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Helpful information, presentation is stilted

This book contained a lot of good information and I'll probably end up buying the Kindle version so that I can refer back to it frequently. The style of the narrator was irritating to me. She seemed almost robotic at times. I think it was because there was so much clinical information. She was easier to listen to during the case study portions because she seemed more animated. I think this was appropriate, it's just not the most enjoyable listening. In any case, I feel like my retention of lists of helpful strategies, lists of the criteria for diagnosing this condition and so on will be greater if I have a chance to look at the lists. Listening to this book gave me a great overview. I might have had a hard time getting through the whole thing reading it myself. Now I'll want to go back and read certain portions in order to help them stick.

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very useful book

This book has helped me a lot. i am surely going to buy it in paper form to study it better. It helped me to understand my loved ones with BPD. It is nice to have a book that has a positive attitude towards people with this disorder.

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Good book but focused on extremes

Great insights into how BPD comes about and what it's like for someone to live with. Would have appreciated a chapter on dealing with splitting and how to manage the attack that comes with it.

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Suffering with borderline personality disorder

I do suffer from this disorder. I have done so many horrible things after drinking too much and calling or texting people. I have said disgusting things I have felt regretful and shameful almost daily. I still hate myself. I have alienated myself. I never had a good support system. Listening has clarified so much and given me a view of what everyone around me has had to deal with. I wish I could apologize to everyone I have hurt but unfortunately most have died due to cancer and natural causes. I’m self sabotaging and hurt everyone around me. I do not post this for sympathy I deserve everything that has come by way. But I love that the author shows compassion for the person with bpd.

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good for family members

This author will provide you with a definition and understanding of borderline. more importantly how to cope with them and what to do.

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great help and tool lie within

chapter 4 is very helpful, loved it overall. I would recommend to anyone wanting to know more about BPD.

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I think this will save my relationship

I think this will save my relationship. I am deeply in love with someone who suffers from some of the painful feelings and situations outlined in this book. Through the course of our relationship I have also found myself to have some of the same sufferings. This book will help us support each other and go into a positive support system rather than escalating disagreements and seriously wounding ourselves over and over again.

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