A groundbreaking approach to transforming traumatic legacies passed down in families over generations, by an acclaimed expert in the field.
Depression. Anxiety. Chronic Pain. Phobias. Obsessive thoughts. The evidence is compelling: the roots of these difficulties may not reside in our immediate life experiences or in chemical imbalances in our brains - but in the lives of our parents, grandparents, and even great-grandparents. The latest scientific research, now making headlines, supports what many have long intuited: that traumatic experience can be passed down through generations.
It Didn't Start with You builds on the work of leading experts in post-traumatic stress, including Mount Sinai School of Medicine neuroscientist Rachel Yehuda and psychiatrist Bessel van der Kolk, author of The Body Keeps the Score. Even if the person who suffered the original trauma has died or the story has been forgotten or silenced, memory and feelings can live on. These emotional legacies are often hidden, encoded in everything from gene expression to everyday language, and they play a far greater role in our emotional and physical health than has ever before been understood.
As a pioneer in the field of inherited family trauma, Mark Wolynn has worked with individuals and groups on a therapeutic level for over 20 years. It Didn't Start with You offers a pragmatic and prescriptive guide to his method, the Core Language Approach. Diagnostic self-inventories provide a way to uncover the fears and anxieties conveyed through everyday words, behaviors, and physical symptoms. Techniques for developing a genogram or extended family tree create a map of experiences going back through the generations. And visualization, active imagination, and direct dialogue create pathways to reconnection, integration, and reclaiming life and health. It Didn't Start With You is a transformative approach to resolving longstanding difficulties that, in many cases, traditional therapy, drugs, or other interventions have not had the capacity to touch.
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"Mark Wolynn does a masterful job of illuminating the ways in which our ancestors' unresolved suffering, often unknown to us, disables us and binds us painfully to them. He gives us the tools and skills - an approach that combines understanding, imaginative dialogues, and compassionate reconnection - to free and heal ourselves." (James S. Gordon, MD, author of Unstuck: Your Guide to the Seven-Stage Journey out of Depression)
"It Didn't Start with You takes us a big step forward, advancing the fields of trauma therapy, mindfulness applications, and human understanding. It is a bold, creative, and compassionate work." (Sharon Salzberg, author of Lovingkindness and Real Happiness)
"This groundbreaking book offers a compelling understanding of inherited trauma and fresh, powerful tools for relieving its suffering. Mark Wolynn is a wise and trustworthy guide on the journey toward healing." (Tara Brach, PhD, author of Radical Acceptance and True Refuge)
Do the work and this book will lead you to the tools you need to heal. As we can't solve what we can't (or refuse to) see, many of my patients and myself have tried to fix or treat the effects of illness with medication or therapies that miss the mark. Most therapies focus on bailing out water from a floundering ship, which can work for a time, but will never allow true forward movement or solve the underlying issue(s). The only way to stop the leak of mental or physical energy is to first find the hole and then patch it. Mark's book provides a map to repair the leak and move the ship forward to a new and fulfilling destiny. The negative energy seeks both expression and consciousness to resolve and this book is an expression of consciousness in itself. I can't recommend it enough.
Russell Kennedy, MD
The book is a very mixed piece of work, valuable as a manual on Hellinger family trauma work and very doubtful when it sets as an ultimate goal for adult children to understand the limitations of the parents, take responsibility for the break up in a relationship with their parents, and repent. The book recommends to all listeners as a resolution to contact their parents and tell them "Mom/Dad I miss you, I am sorry for not being more loving and pushing you away". The approach seems to work for the cases presented in the book. A serious flaw that I see comes from applying this advice to cases of child abuse that can and should be classified as criminal offence - rape, molastacion, severe/systematic beating. The author dose not talk about such cases but by coaching all childhood trauma survivors toward loving their parents and expressing remorse/responsibility for the break up in the relationship with them he inadvertently sends the victims down the path where they ae responsible for their rape/torture etc. The reason I think it's a very big flaw of this book is because it takes a lot of courage and coaching for such victims to overcome shame and properly direct their anger on the abusive parents and not on themselves and here the book can be potentially very misleading.
No, I would recommend something else on Hellinger therapy
I absolutely plan on listening again. There are activities and invitations to participate in the book that are guided and enforced with the accompanying PDF that will result in rich healing and growth. I listened the first time to get the overall viewpoint and was engaged through the entire book. I will go back and intentionally work each exercise, myself and may encourage others to do the same.
This book respected my story as a reader, challenged the more broken parts of my story with encouraging examples of other people's challenges and trauma and invited me into my own healing and transformation.
I haven't listened to any other of Mark's books but will be on the look out for more of his work.
Profound more so than extreme. I had just completed a workshop the week before listening to this book and it continued the process of experiencing the trauma's of family members well beyond the 7 days that followed the workshop. I felt an entire spectrum of emotions, I was surprised at how many deep and longtime emotional responses were not even originated in me and my direct experience as well at the ease at which I was able to walk through them and leave them where they belong.
This book is an incredible work, created out of real experience. It invites us all to explore these experiences in our own lives so that we can know life and health in a way we have never known.
I had the pleasure of attending Mark Wolynn's book signing at The Open Center, NYC. His story and technique were demonstrated to the audience, and I was hooked. I attended his 6 hr workshop the very next day at Open Center. I also downloaded this book after the book signing and have integrated many of his techniques described and have made huge strides with recognizes patterns and trends occurring in my life, helping me feel more at peace with myself. His voice is mesmerizing, his story compelling, and the impact of this combinstion is what you allow it to be.
I was a little skeptical at first however this is a very interesting book and really should be listened to.However I feel that not everyone will be messed up because their grandfather was...it's a bit generalized and a bit far fetched at times.I feel that a percentage of the population will repeat the patterns of their relatives but not everyone.Hes basically talking about intergenerational trauma.
Love this very effective and complex modality of Family Constellation. Mark Wolynn does a remarkable job to explain how it works, and why it is so valuable. Interesting and fairly easy to listen! A must buy if you are interested in learning about family constellation!
The book leads you through a very impressive way of releasing trauma and leading to an inner peace.
It is based on the discovery of the newest brain research (information destined to the more critical listeners) and even without doing the written exercises it clarifies a lot. The exercises lead you even a step further.
Highly recommended for those who want to change something in their lives, who are fed up with stumbling again and again over the same problems.
A must have for everyone
A whole new approach to experiencing past traumas in families
I want to share it with my family
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