Psychotherapist Terrence Real offers an important and compelling look at the silent epidemic of depression among men and shows, with compassion and clarity, what can be done to break this vicious cycle.
©1997 Terry Real (P)2011 Tantor
"Offers not only crucial insights to men suffering from depression but also comfort and guidance to the women who love them." (John Bradshaw)
Unbiased interpretation of relevant data! The author has an agenda. Very disappointing.
Performance was fine, but like a poorly written play, an actor can only do so much with the material he is given.
This is simply a terrible book. As a research scientist, I work hard at being open-minded, waiting until I have all the facts before I pass judgment. Listening to this book, waiting for the "other side" became physically difficult. The book just gets darker and darker. The author has a very clear agenda. His selection of data, and his interpretation is terribly skewed and one-sided. Attacking genderfication is the new thing! Trendy psycho-babble....suggest you move along and listen to something else.
We have gained a great deal of knowledge in the last few decades on the subject of depression. From what I have learned from other sources I think this book is a bit dated in its approach to depression.
The author takes a Freudian approach to the subject that basically blames depression on your parents treatment of you. The overall theory of the book is that depression in men is rampant, hidden, and passed on generation to generation. The author tells story after story of what seem to me to be "worst-case-scenario" cases that are very extreme. He gets the people in the office with their family, they talk or re-enact, and then a break through happens when the man realizes its all because his dad beat him or his mom was a drunk and now he is hurting his children in the same manner. Oh, and the author admits that the stories are "composite" from various patients, so its hard to tell how much he is sensationalizing. There is a lot of cursing in these tales, such as a son repeatedly telling his dad, "F*** you" in a role play scenario.
If someone is a hard case that wouldn't read a more traditional self-help sort of book, then this book could possibly scare or shock them enough into reading it. Otherwise I do not see any reason for choosing it above any other book on depression. I don't see how I could recommend it.
Good material, but most of the book is about the narcissism of the author. If you can get past him telling you how great he is, there's some useful stuff here.
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