Psychotherapist Terrence Real offers an important and compelling look at the silent epidemic of depression among men and shows, with compassion and clarity, what can be done to break this vicious cycle.
©1997 Terry Real (P)2011 Tantor
"Offers not only crucial insights to men suffering from depression but also comfort and guidance to the women who love them." (John Bradshaw)
We have gained a great deal of knowledge in the last few decades on the subject of depression. From what I have learned from other sources I think this book is a bit dated in its approach to depression.
The author takes a Freudian approach to the subject that basically blames depression on your parents treatment of you. The overall theory of the book is that depression in men is rampant, hidden, and passed on generation to generation. The author tells story after story of what seem to me to be "worst-case-scenario" cases that are very extreme. He gets the people in the office with their family, they talk or re-enact, and then a break through happens when the man realizes its all because his dad beat him or his mom was a drunk and now he is hurting his children in the same manner. Oh, and the author admits that the stories are "composite" from various patients, so its hard to tell how much he is sensationalizing. There is a lot of cursing in these tales, such as a son repeatedly telling his dad, "F*** you" in a role play scenario.
If someone is a hard case that wouldn't read a more traditional self-help sort of book, then this book could possibly scare or shock them enough into reading it. Otherwise I do not see any reason for choosing it above any other book on depression. I don't see how I could recommend it.
I really loved this book. for the last few years I've been diving into psychology and spirituality and emotional development. looking at stuff from my childhood. the feeling of discontentment it was eating at me. although I do not fully wish to accept I am covertly depressed, going through this book has allowed me feel a big part of the sadness that I was trying to pretend was not there. very well written. very well written and very well read.
I truly find it amazing how Dr Real seems to portray so many life experiences as commonplace and simply needing fresh perspective to heal. Thank you
Good but considers all depression comes from childhood. Some very good lessons learned. Beginning and end r the best
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