Psychotherapist Terrence Real offers an important and compelling look at the silent epidemic of depression among men and shows, with compassion and clarity, what can be done to break this vicious cycle.
©1997 Terry Real (P)2011 Tantor
"Offers not only crucial insights to men suffering from depression but also comfort and guidance to the women who love them." (John Bradshaw)
We have gained a great deal of knowledge in the last few decades on the subject of depression. From what I have learned from other sources I think this book is a bit dated in its approach to depression.
The author takes a Freudian approach to the subject that basically blames depression on your parents treatment of you. The overall theory of the book is that depression in men is rampant, hidden, and passed on generation to generation. The author tells story after story of what seem to me to be "worst-case-scenario" cases that are very extreme. He gets the people in the office with their family, they talk or re-enact, and then a break through happens when the man realizes its all because his dad beat him or his mom was a drunk and now he is hurting his children in the same manner. Oh, and the author admits that the stories are "composite" from various patients, so its hard to tell how much he is sensationalizing. There is a lot of cursing in these tales, such as a son repeatedly telling his dad, "F*** you" in a role play scenario.
If someone is a hard case that wouldn't read a more traditional self-help sort of book, then this book could possibly scare or shock them enough into reading it. Otherwise I do not see any reason for choosing it above any other book on depression. I don't see how I could recommend it.
also an author
I'm one of the people that he refers to because I am a depressed man. This book helped me a lot and it would do anyone who has depression as well, but be careful - some parts of it are very emotionally draining and so you should be careful.
great book. Thisnhas helped me to understand what I need to do to heal myself
Absolutely loved everything about this book. As a female therapist working mostly w/ male patients- This book taught me a great deal about depressive men. I particularly enjoyed Terrys usage of Pt vignettes & inclusion of his own personal life story which gave the reading a much genuine effect to it.
I can't say enough about how much I also loved Adam Verners delivery. Loved it!
Material is good if you can get past the fact that the name version of SIRI is reading you the book. Narrator started out very robot-like in his reading but eventually started sounding more human as the book moved along. Pretty difficult to follow at first, but he gets better. Material of the book is good and worth a listen
I truly find it amazing how Dr Real seems to portray so many life experiences as commonplace and simply needing fresh perspective to heal. Thank you
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