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How Can I Forgive You?

By: Janis A. Spring, Michael Spring
Narrated by: Coleen Marlo
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Until now, we have been taught that forgiveness is good for us and that good people forgive. Dr. Spring, a gifted therapist and the award-winning author of After the Affair, proposes a radical, life-affirming alternative that lets us overcome the corrosive effects of hate and get on with our lives - without forgiving. She also offers a powerful and unconventional model for genuine forgiveness - one that asks as much of the offender as it does of us.

This bold and healing book offers step-by-step, concrete instructions that help us make peace with others and with ourselves, while answering such crucial questions as these:

  • How do I forgive someone who is unremorseful or dead?
  • When is forgiveness cheap?
  • What is wrong with refusing to forgive?
  • How can the offender earn forgiveness?
  • How do we forgive ourselves for hurting another human being?

©2004 Janis Abrahms Spring (P)2016 Tantor

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“Clear, insightful...a thoughtful exposition on the nuanced role of forgiveness in relationships that goes beyond the average self-help book.” ( Publishers Weekly)

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guide to forgiveness and becoming forgivable

This book has been incredibly helpful. The most practical and comprehensive strategies to forgiveness I've come across in my 6 year journey after infidelity.

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It was challenging to finish reading considering I disagree with her theology on genuine forgiveness.

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