Is there a science to love? In this groundbreaking audiobook, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Amir Levine and psychologist Rachel S. F. Heller reveal how an understanding of attachment theory - the most advanced relationship science in existence today - can help us find and sustain love.
Attachment theory forms the basis for many best-selling books on the parent/child relationship, but there has yet to be an accessible guide to what this fascinating science has to tell us about adult romantic relationships - until now. Attachment theory owes its inception to British psychologist and psychoanalyst John Bowlby, who in the 1950s examined the tremendous impact that our early relationships with our parents or caregivers has on the people we become. Also central to attachment theory is the discovery that our need to be in a close relationship with one or more individuals is embedded in our genes.
In Attached, Levine and Heller trace how these evolutionary influences continue to shape who we are in our relationships today. According to attachment theory, every person behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways: "anxious" people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back. "Avoidant" people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness. "Secure" people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving. Attached guides listeners in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mates) follow. It also offers a wealth of advice on how to navigate relationships more wisely, given a listener's attachment style and that of his or her partner. An insightful look at the science behind love, Attached offers a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections.
©2010 Amir Levine, M.D., Rachel Heller, M.A. (P)2010 Gildan Media Corp
The case examples made the science come alive. We listened as a couple and sparked good conversations. We recommend this book for anyone who has or will have an intimate partner!
I was already familiar with adult attachment theory. I have an anxious attachment style. This book described the attachment styles well but didn't (in my opinion) really provide a clear path to ameliorating said attachment style. To fix the problem, try Steven Stosny's Soar Above.
I recently ended a 10 year relationship which has been painful. I also started a new relationship which quickly ended and left me confused. This book ended the confusion and the pain and the hurt. It brought me a profound understanding of my past relationships while at the same time giving me hope as well as tools to move on and find someone more compatible and caring of my attachment/relationship needs. I was afraid of rebounding back to my ex because the breakup has been so hard for me but after listening to this book that ache to return has now left. Maybe it won't mean the same for everyone but listening to the book was like a huge epiphany. Also the narrator, Walter Dixon, was very good and easy to listen to. His voice had warmth and gentleness to it which is what I needed as I listened to some hard truths. I am actually thinking of buying a few copies of this book and audiobook and gifting them to my friends. I think everyone could benefit from reading this. Everyone.
Was really nice being able to listen to the audio version during my commute. There were exercises in the book, however, that would have been more helpful to complete with the print version. The audio version did have a great narrator, and am glad I purchased it.
This book is full of practical advice on how to enhance relationships. It's for those who are single as well as those already in a relationship. Consider this a must-read if you want to have healthy, secured relationships.
I recommend this book to my client's who are single and looking for a healthy relationship
The most insightful relationship book I have ever read. It cuts through all the "crap" out there written about love and attachment, and gives real clarity to behaviors and relationships based on science.
I was hesitant at first because the title seemed limiting, but I was instantly impressed at the deep insights this book has into the psyche of many relationships. I've read dozens of relationship books, but this one stands out!
I'm a Book Nerd for sure!!
This book has opened my eyes to so many things. I actually can't wait to go on a date so I can surmise whether the person I'm with has an anxious, avoidant, or secure attachment style. I am so glad I read this book. It answered so many questions. If you've ever struggled with relationships and felt you were always giving more than you were getting then read ATTACHED. It explains so much.
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