What traumatized children can teach us about loss, love, and healing.
What happens when a young child is traumatized? How does terror affect a child's mind---and how can that mind recover? Child psychiatrist Bruce Perry has treated children faced with unimaginable horror: genocide survivors, witnesses to their own parents' murders, children raised in closets and cages, the Branch Davidian children, and victims of family violence. In The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog, he tells their stories of trauma and transformation. Dr. Perry clearly explains what happens to the brain when children are exposed to extreme stress. He reveals his innovative methods for helping to ease their pain, allowing them to become healthy adults. This deeply informed and moving book dramatically demonstrates that only when we understand the science of the mind can we hope to heal the spirit of even the most wounded child.
©2007 Bruce Duncan Perry and Maia Szalavitz (P)2011 Tantor
"Readable, informative about the workings of language, memory, trust, and choice, and ultimately optimistic---while critical of a society that exudes violence and ignores prevention---this book demands and deserves attention from parents, educators, policymakers, courts, and therapists. Highly recommended." (Library Journal Starred Review)
I had this book on my wish list for a long time not sure if I should get it or not. I was afraid that the book would be graphic like "Sybil" or "The Burning Bed". It's not. It's very insightful.
Dr. Perry is very good at explaining the cycle of abuse and neglect. He is vary compassionate about the children's stories At the same time he also shows compassion for the abusers and puts the emphases of child rearing not just on the parents, but the extended family and community.
It takes a community to raise a child.
I listened to this book over two days, and at the end of it I felt pretty depressed. The many stories of neglect, abuse and trauma were overwhelming, but I could not stop listening, and alternately felt anger, disbelief, sadness and hope.
The brain science, I admit, went over my head in several places, but the ultimate message of the book (that relationships are the agents of change) rang true. The final hour or so is a plea for stronger communities, better support for families and education about children and their development, cooperation over competition, and a parenting style that allows kids to take risks, make decisions and experience the world.
The authors' theory that solid relationships can go a long way to preventing problems, or fixing them once they've happened, makes a lot of sense to me. And I appreciate that while medications are sometimes necessary for these kids, they are by no means the most important part of their therapy. The authors also reject the notion that we are all slaves to our genes and that these kids turned out the way they did because they were programmed to do so. I feel there is some hope in these messages.
It really made me take a look at "WHY" people do the things they do. I always knew that people are molded into who they are by the environment they are raised in, but this book really allowed me to see just how much things could impact your life and why.
I feel like this is a must read if you have ever gone through anything really traumatic in your life, ESPECIALLY if you have never sought out therapy for it. It helps you to make the connection in how past events in your life could still be presenting affecting you.
I am in the counseling field, and this book gave me a deeper understanding into trauma that I would not be able to receive through my classes. I really loved how the author explained how trauma affects the brain and how the environment can alter the mind and behavior of a child. The stories were heart wrenching but fascinating.
I loved that the author was able to look outside of the box for solutions to issues these clients were experiencing and worked hard to help them be successful in the end
I think this was more which case study was more intriguing to me and that would have to be the title...the boy who was raised as a dog. It was fascinating to see his progression to becoming a functioning young man. I could not get over someone raising a child by keeping him in a dog cage! Another one that stuck with me was the child basically screaming for help because his foster mother was trying to make him sick or kill him (mauchausen) to get attention from others.
I think the book would have been overwhelming to listen to in one sitting because it's filled with so much knowledge and wisdom. A reader needs time to soak in the information.
I loved the narrator! He was very pleasant to listen to and I felt so easily drawn into the case studies.
Yes, if they are interested in what can go wrong in childhood and how we can serve the person to move forward.
This was a series of stories about different children. I don't have a favorite. They were all informative and interesting.
An Audible FANATIC, brazilian writer, father of two and also a doctor. My passions are neuroscience and fiction, but I don't stop there.
Listen to this book! There are many amazing stories about traumatized children, most of them with a happy ending. But foremost, you will learn a lot about kids' psychology and what you should and shouldn't do to your kid, even if he/she never suffered any trauma. The author, Dr Bruce Perry is a psychiatrist that first learns and then teaches how to see the world through the child's point of view, and of course, solves their problems and help them to be accepted in the society.
This book was incredibly fascinating. The author did a nice job of balancing the case studies with facts about the way the brain receives and interprets information. It was interesting how trauma or neglect at early ages had different effects on how the children's brains developed. If anything, this book was an instruction manual for how I can raise happy healthy kids depending on how their brain develops at any given time. The only part that was hard to listen to was Dr. Perry's analysis at the end of the book which got very preachy. I understand it's necessary to conclude this book with the authors summation of the stories and what they mean, but I feel like that was done so well throughout the book that the end was just redundant.
Yes. This reader has the perfect voice for this subject, and I believe gives the correct nuances.
Everyone should understand the forces that shape our relationships and society as a whole. By teaching us the roots of empathy vs the roots of sociopaths, the author creates a powerful tool in the reader.
Hmmm, I have two....the interactions with the Raven, and how the author first approaches the boy in the cage.
No, because each case sparked very interesting family discussions.
I want to encourage, no...IMPLORE, everyone who works with children to read it. The author explores how our brains develop sequentially, how this is affected by life experiences, and how those effects shape our personalities. Reading this should be a requirement for teachers, and parents will find it fascinating. If you think your kids are being given too much homework, your gut is right and he explains why....and so much more! The true case stories he relates will grip you.
This book has a very engaging style which alternates between stories and scientific information. The scientific information is relevant and understandable and very interesting for anyone who is interested in how the brain development effects the way a person thinks and responds to the world around him. The stories are riveting and even made me cry a couple times. I highly recommend this book for social workers, CPS workers, parole officers, those in the medical field, teachers, daycare workers, and anyone who works with children. It should be a must read for child development classes.
This book inspired me as a parent. I'd listen again just to re-enforce what I can provide for my family.
Many of the stories about the children were heart breaking but uplifting in the end. Very inspiring.
The stories in this book are really well written and narrated. I was left wanting more.
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