A haunting debut novel about a mixed-race family living in 1970s Ohio and the tragedy that will either be their undoing or their salvation.
Lydia is dead. But they don't know this yet.…
So begins the story in this exquisite debut novel about a Chinese American family living in a small town in 1970s Ohio. Lydia is the favorite child of Marilyn and James Lee; their middle daughter, a girl who inherited her mother's bright blue eyes and her father's jet-black hair. Her parents are determined that Lydia will fulfill the dreams they were unable to pursue - in Marilyn's case that her daughter become a doctor rather than a homemaker, in James' case that Lydia be popular at school, a girl with a busy social life and the center of every party.
When Lydia's body is found in the local lake, the delicate balancing act that has been keeping the Lee family together tumbles into chaos, forcing them to confront the long-kept secrets that have been slowly pulling them apart. James, consumed by guilt, sets out on a reckless path that may destroy his marriage. Marilyn, devastated and vengeful, is determined to find a responsible party, no matter what the cost. Lydia's older brother, Nathan, is certain the neighborhood bad boy Jack is somehow involved. But it's the youngest of the family, Hannah, who observes far more than anyone realizes - and who may be the only one who knows the truth about what happened.
A profoundly moving story of family, history, and the meaning of home, Everything I Never Told You is both a gripping pause-resister and a sensitive family portrait, exploring the divisions between cultures and the rifts within a family and uncovering the ways in which mothers and daughters, fathers and sons, and husbands and wives struggle, all their lives, to understand one another.
©2014 Celeste Ng (P)2014 Blackstone Audiobooks
I would with the caveat that this is not a plot driven novel although it revolves around the mysterious death of a teenage girl. It's a character driven novel that examines in minute detail, and with lovely language, the dynamics within a mixed race family of five. It's mostly about what happens when parents project their own failed aspirations onto their children.
Cassandra is one of my favorite narrators. Her voice is buttery and smooth. I could listen to her recite the phonebook! Although other narrators have a more dramatic range hers is more subtle and highly effective.
This is a sad and bleak story of the price that narcissitic and poisonous parents exact on their children. There was was good writing and some good insights until the end. But it was so, so sad.
These parents care only for themselves. They supposedly care for each other, but neither gives even a single second's thought to what the other needs or wants.They care only for Lydia to the extent each parent believes she will live out their, impossibly conflicting, fantasies of the lives they wish they had had. They care for their two other children not at all. The story paints a bleak and believable picture of how it is as impossible to be the chosen child as it is to be the neglected ones. More so, because the neglected ones have a chance to escape, whereas the chosen one is doomed. The metaphor of the prehistoric fly trapped in amber is apt. The story marches, sadly, toward its seemingly inevitable end.
SPOILER ALERT. But the author must believe in magic. Because everyone, including the poor, dead girl, is transformed in the end---all in one one day, no less. However, the parents haven't really changed. Their "transformation" is just an opportunity to exercise more of their own self-absorption. There is not a moment's guilt for what they eventually, and implausibly, realize they did to Lydia, or for the price she paid for their now, supposedly, functional family, cleansed magically of its toxicity.
I give the story 2 stars, because I did care enough to read through and find out what happened. But I don't give it 3 because of the ridiculous and unbelievable ending.
I did not like the narrator at all. Her voice was fake: all smarmy and soothing and pregnant with feeling.
Disclosure: I received this audiobook free through the Ford book club; there was no requirement to review this audiobook in exchange for the freebie.
This is the debut book by this author, and I really enjoyed it. The characters were well developed, and the family dynamics were well told from the perspectives of the various characters. I particularly enjoyed the parts about the dynamics of a Chinese man marrying a non-Asian woman and the effects of the bigotry that existed at the time they were married on the family relationships. I wasn't sure until the end what happened to Lydia, and I was surprised by the ending. I had my suspicions throughout the story, but I was completely wrong - which is a good thing, as the author didn't tip her hand.
I listened to this on audio, and enjoyed it but found that I had to pay very close attention as the characters' perspectives changed without much notice. Once in awhile, I had to try and remember what perspective we were in. The narrator was very good, but I wish there had been some changes to the different character's voices to help differentiate when the perspectives changed. This may be a better read in print if your mind tends to wander at times when listening to audio books. It is also a good book to discuss in a book club, as there are a lot of interesting questions that can be raised.
An old broad that enjoys books of all types. Would rather read than write reviews though. I know what I like, and won't be bothered by crap.
This is not the kind of book I usually read, but as a member of the Ford Audiobook club I was given a copy.
The story revolves around a family that tragically fails to express their feelings and beliefs and when a horrible calamity ensues they are all tested beyond all boundaries.
We have James, the father, a Chinese American who just wants to fit in.
Marilyn, the mother, a woman who yearns for more than being a mother.
Nathan, the son, a disappointment to his father because James is reminded of himself.
Lydia, the cherished daughter, a blue eyed girl that both parent's pin all of their hopes on.
Hannah, the youngest, hiding in the shadows of a family that doesn't have room for anyone else.
Jack, the bad boy, neighbor fits into the story as the one that may have all the answers.
It's a beautifully, haunting story with a definite ending that some newer novels lack. At times, you find little love for these people that are operating at cross purposes, but in the end you come to love them all and mourn their tragedy with them.
I cried openly in the last two chapters and it was a catharsis cry that brings you to a feeling of promise and hope for a better day.
Hug your near and dear ones, you never know what tomorrow will bring.
People say I resemble my dog (and vice-versa). He can hear sounds I can't hear, but I'm the one who listens to audiobooks.
We know from the opening line of Everything I Never Told You that Emily, a high school student in Ohio in 1977, is dead. In the next ten-plus hours, the mystery behind her death unfolds. We learn many things about her immediate family -- her Chinese father, American mother, envious brother, little sister -- as well as her only friend, a potentially dangerous boy who lives next door.
This is not a murder mystery. This is a character study of a family, of each individual in that family. This is an exploration of family ties -- parents projecting the burden of their dreams on their children, children trying to live up to their parents' expectations of them, the sibling rivalries that result, the secrets and lies they try to protect themselves with, albeit futilely.
But it's more than that. Without ever hitting us over the head with the bigger picture, always staying within the lines of this particular family's dysfunction, first-time novelist Celeste Ng also tackles the subjects of gender roles and racial equality, loneliness and alienation. Yet it does so without the turbulence of the outside world intruding (quite the opposite of the similarly set and similarly themed Ice Storm) -- that's how turbulent this family's life has become.
This book's emotional punch is aimed straight at the solar plexus. It is not for the faint of heart. My wife couldn't take it -- it was too depressing for her. I found it to be pitch perfect. Especially since some of these same issues dogged my own family in the exact same ways -- assimilation, expectation, emotional manipulation, sublimation, isolation, favoritism and disapproval, and most of all the necessity of lying to keep your true feelings hidden (though for us there was no tragic ending).
Which came first... the books or the glasses?
I hung in there for 4 hours (of a 10 hour story) and gave up. This author really drags this story out and goes over territory that has already been gone over. I was going to return this book and get my credit back but I had already returned several books because I could not get into them so I decided to just eat this one. I have noticed lately that a lot of authors seem to like to drag out a story instead of just get on with it. I think I probably need to stick with books that are around 8 hrs because those books don't usually ramble unnecessarily.
Only choose this if you desire sadness in your life. This story absolutely was not necessary in my life. I have a plethora of sadness, in addition to lots of blessings, however a distraction is what I had wished for. Not more misery. Not some redundant sadness. And in addition, to building up the characters to show how sad their lives really are, the narrator is absolutely annoying. I had high hopes for this book, but it was not for me.
This is a story that reminds me of something a very bright high school student would write: A caricature of parents who put too much pressure on a child. That's pretty much where this story begins and ends. I think it's supposed to be about feminism, the dangers of parents placing pressures on children, racism . . . But it's such an immature narrative that it's hard to care. My recommendation is to skip it.
This is beautifully written with an honest voice that shares the most vulnerable moments of human behavior. Multiple points of view show the varying perspectives of the family in a skilled and insightful manner. It's sad, but not in a melodramatic way, which rendered it even more poignant.
I did feel it ended a little bit abruptly, but that could be because I didn't realize that was the ending.
she doesn't do a flawless job of separating characters but she brings them a life that you couldn't get from print.
at first this audiobook gave me some pause. it was halting, disjointed, and confusing. when I realized the format it made much more sense. the story is told through all eyes of the family, and I found myself eager to get back and figure out what happened. there's no great mystery, really, but I thought the ending was brilliant. this is a book I might not have enjoyed in high school but that I adore now.
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