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She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman | [Ian Kerner]

She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman

As women everywhere will attest, when it comes to understanding female sexuality, most guys know more about what's under the hood of a car than under the hood of a clitoris. And while it seems that men have struggled valiantly since the dawn of time to find ways to reliably elicit the female orgasm, rare is the guy who has the modesty to ask: "What do I do?" Ironically, the answer has always been right there on the tip of his tongue.
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As women everywhere will attest, when it comes to understanding female sexuality, most guys know more about what's under the hood of a car than under the hood of a clitoris. And while it seems that men have struggled valiantly since the dawn of time to find ways to reliably elicit the female orgasm, rare is the guy who has the modesty to ask: "What do I do?" Ironically, the answer has always been right there on the tip of his tongue.

Welcome to the world of She Comes First, where the mystery of female satisfaction is solved and the tongue is proven mightier than the sword. According to Ian Kerner, clinical sexologist and evangelist of the female orgasm, oral sex has long been deemed an optional aspect of foreplay, but, in fact, it's coreplay: simply the best way for leading a woman through the entire process of sexual response.

Fun, informative, and easy to read, She Comes First is a virtual encyclopedia of female pleasure, detailing dozens of tried-and-true techniques for consistently satisfying a woman and step-by-step instructions to ensure success. These simple methods represent a new era in sexual intimacy, one in which the exchange of pleasure occurs on a level playing field and fulfillment is mutual.

She Comes First exuberantly offers a fresh new sexual philosophy that inspires every man to make a mantra of Rhett Butler's infamous line to Scarlett O'Hara, "You should be kissed, and often, and by someone who knows how."

For Adults Only: You must be 18 years or older to purchase.

Find out what else is on Ian Kerner's mind in this interview with the author.

©2004 Ian Kerner; (P)2005 HarperCollins Publishers, Inc.

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"An entire book written strictly for the pleasure of women by a man. Hallelujah!" (Playgirl)

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    Dave Maddock Bellevue, WA United States 10-28-11
    Dave Maddock Bellevue, WA United States 10-28-11 Member Since 2015
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    "Awesome"

    This book has amazing detail. It sort of moves slow - so you have to be OK with that. Some times I found myself laughing out loud. The reader is so seriouse, but sometimes he has to say some pretty funny stuff like "Sit on my face method" etc. I highly recommened it to anyone who wants to improve their abilities.

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    Adam Houston, TX, United States 08-29-11
    Adam Houston, TX, United States 08-29-11 Member Since 2009
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    "She Comes First... Period!"

    Hi all,
    I must admit was a little hesitant on reading / listening to this book.
    Like most men (at least I like to think anyway), we want and enjoy pleasing our woman (for some of you women). And if there is a technique other than trial and error that would guide us, I'm willing to listen.

    That being said...
    The book starts off Ok to slow then it moves to the juicy parts.

    General in some areas, while the medical terms of the female anatomy were interesting (still cannot recall the names (smiling)) I was more interested in the meat of the subject (excuse the pun).

    Finally, we got there... Some of the information I knew but there was quite a bit I did not know and recalling conversations in the past with some of the boys they didn't know either.

    If you know you're good now, this book will make you a Force!
    It's worth the buy for anyone who wants to make sure his/ her lady comes first.... Period!
    In short...
    After practicing /executing some of the techniques mentioned, you and your partner will not be disappointed. ;-)

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
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    jacob jacksonville beach, florida, United States 08-16-11
    jacob jacksonville beach, florida, United States 08-16-11
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    "Hard to listen to"

    May i suggest a woman narrator for this book? While the material it's self is informative, it's hard to listen to the narration. The mans voice isn't exactly befitting for a sex manual. More like a biology lecture.

    1 of 2 people found this review helpful
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    Scott Nelson Dallas, TX 08-20-10
    Scott Nelson Dallas, TX 08-20-10 Listener Since 2004

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    "I have been told that my lessons learned are great"

    Listen and practice what Ian teaches and you will be amply rewarded. Women talk and my girl friend actually brags now about what I've learned and put into practice. Even some of the husbands have asked what I am doing different.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
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    Ben Phillips Bend, Oregon 10-02-08
    Ben Phillips Bend, Oregon 10-02-08 Member Since 2014

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    "One of The Best Sex Education Books I have Read"

    More detailed than most and dares to go against popular convention

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
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    M. C. Auburn, AL, USA 05-25-06
    M. C. Auburn, AL, USA 05-25-06
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    "Information is good..."

    I did't particularly mind the recurring literary allusions in the book, as did several of the reviewers, nor did I mind the extension background information in the early parts (even though it was mostly a review). I enjoyed the book. However, I did *not* particularly care for the author's reading voice; it would have been better read by someone with a "professional" voice. If I had it to do over, I would have bought the actual book, rather than the audiobook version.

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    Tak rego park, NY, USA 06-10-05
    Tak rego park, NY, USA 06-10-05
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    "Useless facts, no technique"

    Just like all similar books on the market, almost the entire book focuses on the anatomy of the female body and statistics on how many women orgasm during sex and how many don?t. The book tells you very little on what to do. So after you?ve lost 5 hours of listening time, you are left with tons of useless facts and you still have no idea what to do with a woman.

    If you want to learn the make up of the female anatomy, pick up a real biology book. If you want to learn how to make your woman happy, pick another book with real techniques.

    6 of 15 people found this review helpful
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    Todd Charlotte, NC, United States 01-20-06
    Todd Charlotte, NC, United States 01-20-06 Member Since 2014

    Tell us about yourself!

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    "Lickity Split (tastes like chicken)"

    First hour of book is like listening to the New Yorker magazine being read aloud. Snore. Does author have hatred for men's bodies? (How dare you stick that thing into a woman, bow down and worship the all mighty pink winkie.)
    This guy should have his genitals revoked. He actually quotes Loraine Bobbitt to make a point about oral sex. (Better start licking or I’ll start clipping).
    Down load a copy of How to Make Love to a Woman All Night. It will teach you excellent techniques in lovemaking.
    You CAN glean some useful information from this book, but if you buy into all of this guys thinking, he will turn you into a lap dog, literally.

    5 of 13 people found this review helpful
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    Andy Milford, NY, USA 04-11-05
    Andy Milford, NY, USA 04-11-05
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    "Was like reading a how-to manual"

    I "came" across this audio book and thought it sounded intriguing and could not wait to try out what I learned on my wife, although she prefers regular activity to the oral variety (according to Ian Kerner she is an aberration because most of the nerves are in the front and most women only enjoy the pressure in the front from regular activity). Anyway, it got a bit too technical and he seemed to hang up on proving that this form of activity is as good or better than (superior to) the regular thing for women (even if they don't articulate it, get more out of this type of thing). It seemed to bog down in explaining the female anatomy and the actual purpose of each of the parts. (In this case, diagrams and pictures would have made sense.) Maybe he knows his stuff (he has a new best-selling book out now), but to me it seemed like he was having a problem making his point and doing it in an interesting way. Also, it seemed like his voice changed pitch/level/volume as though the book was narrated over a period of days, weeks and at different times of the day. I am sure I could convince my wife to submit to this sort of activity, if only I had better materials, a better presentation and it was easier to follow. He seemed convinced it was a good way to go (I have no qualms about doing it) but he was not effective enough, IMHO.

    8 of 24 people found this review helpful
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    ~Red HoneyB~ 11-27-06
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    "Awesome!"

    I have been trying to take time to sit down and read this book but now that I have it on my iPOD, I have completed the book in two day! Thanks! It is wonderful to be able to listen and do other things at the same time! Keep them coming!

    1 of 4 people found this review helpful
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