All of these questions have answers that are based in science, and author Jena Pincott explains the reasons for love and attraction, and to what extent our dating and mating lives are controlled by urges and instincts. Organized into three sections---Behaviors, Bodies, and Brains---Do Gentlemen Really Prefer Blondes? provides useful, funny, and accessible answers to these questions.
©2008 Jena Pincott; (P)2008 Tantor
Jena Pincott uses scientific evidence, anecdotes and case studies to inform listeners about a the most interesting aspects of our daily lives. The book is fast moving, well written and well read. Pincott answers +/1 100 questions related to sex and sex related issues. Each is clearly presented and rooted in the literature. She never misses a beat, keeps the listener intereseted always, and informs everyone. If you are going to listen to this adio in the car, think about the age and attitudes of other passengers within ear shot. The book isn't "dirty" but it is adult.
Contrary to one review I read, the narrator is very good. But then... I'm a man. I guess you'll have to read the book to know why that is significant.
Read this if you love to learn why we are the way we are. The author has cobbled together many lines of research and presents the findings in a compelling, light-hearted way.
As a man, it is nice to hear lots of justification for why we prefer certain women and that personality is definitely not the only meaningful reason to prefer someone. That goes for women too. Women will learn why they love to bury their faces in their lover's pillow or t-shirts. Why are high heels sexy? And how to tell if your date is going well by looking into your date's eyes and listening to the way they speak.
It is fascinating to learn how much our subconscious and deep down brain functions play a role in what we consider to be beautiful. One group was shown pictures for 13 milliseconds and still "accurately" judged the attractiveness of the subjects. In that amount of time, they didn't really even get a look at the faces they were rating, but they still could tell if they were attractive.
I like to know the "why" behind the action, and this book explains it in a very entertaining way. The author cites a lot of studies. I know I will listen to it again!
mostly nonfiction listener
Bad title but pretty good book. Pincott, and her book, are smarter then her title - and you can learn some pretty good science from this slim, well-written and enjoyable volume.
20 seconds into the book I found myself wanting to throw my Ipod across the room. The narrator's voice is probably the most annoying sound I've heard in a long time. She should find another line of work. It was almost distracting from the content of the book. Vocal fingernails on a chalkboard - seriously.
As far as the book goes - interesting information, most of which I'm sure we've heard at some point in time already. Nonetheless, it was enjoyable and entertaining.
Very well written and well read study of all the various factors which contribute to people being attracted to each other. These include voice, hair, body mass and body ratios, and dozens of others.
While it does address the question in the title (using surveys and principles of evolutionary psychology, it explains what causes so many men to prefer blondes), the book goes way beyond that. In fact, the question about the preference for blondes is only one rather small part of this book. Instead, the book uses the field of evolutionary psychology to examine what some of the factors that determine mate selection and attraction are.
Not for me. While there were some interesting facts, I didn't learn too much that was new. And while it's nice to hear references for some of the facts, I think many seem somewhat self evident. In terms of evolutionary benefits or biological underpinnings for behaviors and reactions, there were no real "ah-HAs," as much as thinking "well, yeah, that makes sense."
If you think about these kinds of things much, you've probably already thought about most of them, and your thoughts might be validated. Or maybe it will be a real eye-opener for you...?
It wasn't for me.
And I felt that for all the slow, deliberate reading, and exaggerated inflection, the voice seemed to drag on. After a while, I was starting to find the reader to be a bit of a distraction.
I can't put my finger on it, but I had a sense of listening to "girl talk" as the book went on. Like I was eavesdropping on a woman at the next table giving advice to other women on how to land a mate.
There were interesting facts and figures. There was some engaging discussion about biological drive and evolutionary advantage behind human decision making and inter-gender activities. But ultimately, I found it disappointing. Undoubtedly, for someone who has not given these aspects of human biology much thought, this could be a highly informative and thought provoking book.
The book might be interesting and entertaining for you. And it might be just what you're looking for, but it wasn't for me.
I found the inflection pressed too hard. A combination of too careful with a bit of "let me tell you this secret." After a while, that started to wear on me. And I started to feel like I was listening to an advice column for women. And I felt as though the inflection kept the reading at "climax" pitch too often. As if each sentence was the big emphasis, rather than reading at a basic line and reaching a climax thought when one was appropriate.
I don't know exactly what I expected out of this book. I guess I didn't think it would be a guide for women to find mates. While it certainly had a scientific bent - discussing the role of chemistry, through hormones, pheromones, and other chemical influences on human (and animal) behavior - and giving biological and evolutionary rationales for how we behave and choose sex partners and/or mates.
But it kept falling into the realm of an advice column, or as someone else noted, seemed like it could have been written for Cosmopolitan Magazine. While it didn't seem to profess being written for women, there seemed to be a lot of places where it came down to... "Girls, if you're looking for a mate, try this." And it is addressed to women, not an inclusive audience of women and men. The audience is addressed specifically by gender. I felt a little like I was a sneaky interloper in a "how to" book for women.
Some interesting commentary on how women and men differ on the biological and behavior levels. Different signals that might attract, repel, or otherwise communicate between the sexes, and examples of how those compare with similar modes of communication among other members of the animal kingdom.
But after a while, I started to feel like it was dragging on. The references to Functional Magnetic Resonance Imaging to see what part of the brain reacted to these images, or those concepts, or this aroma all started to run together. So did the repetitive role of oxytocin (the cuddle hormone) or plasma levels of testosterone and estrogen in so many descriptions of how and why we do what we do when interacting with another person.
Much of the human behavioral pattern description was interesting. I guess for me, it just got bogged down. And then evolved into advice on how to use these biological cues and tricks to choose, attract, and hook a man. And woe to the woman who takes the advice too much to heart, treating prospective mates as biological machines, and trying to manipulate them through their, and her own chemistry.
Though, I must say, I liked how these descriptions sometimes provided possible biological, evolutionary and behavioral rationale behind some very common (conscious and/or unconscious) behaviors at a party or at a bar.
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