Like a friend who will give it to you straight, Babyproofing Your Marriage speaks to the listener with candor, humor, and empathy. The book explores many common frustrations, including division of labor disputes, the confusion of changing roles and expectations, the anxiety over sex (or lack thereof), and dealing with parents and in-laws.
Yet rather than just providing reassurance that such aggravations are common, the book offers insight into why marital problems occur and how they can be addressed. This analysis of marital issues is especially fascinating because it clearly demarcates the differences in male and female opinion. Explaining the deep divide between how men and women respond to parenthood, the authors provide a way to bridge the gap; they offer innovative remedies for the negative influence of young children on marriage.
Touching a raw nerve, the book strikes at the heart of who we are as individuals, couples, and families, by discussing subjects that are normally taboo. People don't want to appear disloyal to their spouse or seem resentful of their children, but at the same time, they are desperate to find solutions. With insightful analysis, unique advice, and a humorous tone, Babyproofing Your Marriage will become an indispensable guide for parents everywhere.
©2007 Stacie Cockrell and Cathy O'Neill; (P)2007 HarperCollins Publishers
"Will give you an honest look at how your marriage will forever change once baby makes three....The authors - all married, with seven children among them - don't have fancy initials after their names, and the book is all the better for it. Instead, readers will find funny, honest, and candid observations that will have you realizing: 'So, that's what my spouse is thinking.'" (The Fresno Bee)
My opinion: written by women for men. A little one sided. If your a dude buying a book for yourself - it was eye opening and surprisingly did vindicate a number of my wifes statements which made me certain I was being manipulated. (supporting documentation for things like my doing the dishes "turned her on").
The fact that I bought it and listened to it (and called my wife every night while travelling to discuss the subject matter) was beneficial and gave me an unemotional platform to suck some information out of her on her mental mechanics.
I think it meant something to her that with our impending baby that I cared enough to listen to a book on our marriage. She even laughed when I called to tell her that the three female authors (who are a little short on the male perspective) were driving me nuts and I wanted to throw my iPod out the car window.
There was about 45 minutes I was near throwing my iPod out the window of my car as I listened to three women who just couldn't agree with each other more. So brace yourself. Half of the recording is them repeating how many women attested to them that men "just don't get it".
In the end I decided that it was smart that as a man I get the female perspective. I would not suggest listening to this if you are a woman. The male viewpoint may not be represented enough for it to be of value to you. As a matter of fact it could be a detriment. Had my wife bought it for me it would not have had the same affect.
Overall, I did learn a few things and enjoyed using the subject matter to engage my wife and enjoyed relating a number of the topics to her.
Less sexist babbling. This book has very little to do with suggestions, recommendations, or useful advise. Its more a collaboration of pissed off bitchy wives looking to vent their frustrations.
Nothing by this author/authors.
I would burn the book/tape.
Don't waste your time.
This book was basically an angry mommy gripe fest. These women made their husbands and husbands in general sound like morons. The stories they relayed were of men that were so lazy that they'd go as far as lying to their wives and checking into a hotel than to be a father for the night. I was looking for proactive ways to improve my relationship or keep it alive during what has been a very tough transition for my marriage. I don't want to hear about the idiotic husbands out there and their even more moronic wives. Marriage is a partnership. There was nothing in this book to help the partnership grow and continue. It was just empowering angry women to treat their husbands even more like crap.
This book is nothing more than a men bashing fest! At one point it says "let's put it in a way that men can understand, football terms". The book says that women are perfect and any imperfection is justified and men are useless, lying, selfish and don't love their kids as much as women. It sounds like the authors are married to selfish pigs that only care about not having to be bothered by the kids and they assume all men are like that. It also says that men don't see how they can help because they are totally consumed by being the provider. This book is nothing more than insulting and offensive. I nor all my male friends with kids are anything like how this book portrays men. This book is a joke!
My wife read this book while I listened to this (abridged) version. Though I think that the compromises proposed in this book could be very useful to certain marriages, the book takes a comically anti-dude stance, mainly offering wives advice on how to train their lazy husband.
In its defense, the book is up-front about its unscientific and speculative nature. Also, the narration excellent, with quotes performed by other narrators to mix it up; it's consistently enjoyable to listen to.
Pregnant with my first child I've been reading all the how-to books I can get my hands on. Baby Proofing Your Marriage is unlike anything else I've read so far yet I think it's been the most important. Basically how can we expect to raise healthy, happy, functional children if our foundation crumbles i.e. the marriage. The authors take real world cases and commentary from both wives and husbands to narrow down the most common problems all new parents can expect to encounter. They don't choose sides and are straight forward and blunt with what's to blame for most marriage problems. But after all the hard to swallow truth they offer practical easy to follow advise. I'm sure my husband and I will fall into the same traps most new parents do but at least know we are equip to recognize them and have common sense solutions to save our marriage.
Having a baby changes your whole life and relationship. Things you never thought would become an issue - do. You are not alone. This book, although written by three women, takes a very fair and balanced approach to both the mother and the father's feelings and issues. As a woman, you may read it with the intention to understand your partner and end up understanding some things about yourself as well. Great book.
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