Do fear and doubt hinder your progress in life? Are you paralyzed at key moments by your insecurities? Millions of smart people are held back from achieving their potential by a fear of failure. Many of them don't even realize that this recognized condition is limiting their progress. Based on extensive research, recognized science, and stark reality, this book will help listeners navigate the barriers that hold them back: at work, with people, and in life.
By finally understanding what's stopping you, you can calculate your true goals and take small, practical, and sustainable steps towards a more positive future.
Included is a foreword by Financial Times columnist and serial entrepreneur Luke Johnson and a conclusion from the London Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy.
©2011 Robert Kelsey (P)2012 Audible Ltd
If you have a high fear of failure, you may be choosing tasks at which you are either certain to fail or certain to succeed. That is, if you're throwing rings at a peg, you will either stand so close that you can just lean over and lay down the rings, or you will stand so far back nobody will laugh at you when you miss the target.
There exists, Kelsey argues, a dichotomy between those who fear failure and those who don't. Most self-help books are aimed at the latter, because this phenomenon is so poorly understood. Which is why most of these books don't help any of those who feel inclined to read them.
Those with High Fear of Failure (High FF's) must recognize their disability, then accept it for what it is, and finally plan for how to achieve great things despite of it -- or perhaps with its aid.
In fact, when doing it right, High FF's may have better chances of becoming extraordinary leaders and successful entrepreneurs than others.
Kelsey's book is both personal, instructional and philosophical. Chances are high you will recognize yourself in his anecdotes, and find inspiration in his advise.
It is presented very well, yes
He gives it a 'mentor' approach. He's not rousing you, just guiding
Just every-time he does the summary and says 'what's stopping you'?
Put this on your ipod or iphone and listen on train or bus or car.
Kelsey's honest and forthright examination of his own self-diagnosed Fear of Failure is a rich and well researched summary of relevant tips from the best of the self-help books on this subject. He puts forward that "self-help" is an industry based on the modern quick fix solution that, of course, cannot provide the long term fix promised. Kelsey then proceeds to share the best of the advice found from his own professional and personal experience and research into curing himself. I would summarize his conclusion as: 1) Recognize your own Dragon 2) Realize there is no way to slay it, it is your own Dragon 3) Learn to use the power of that Dragon. And if you are an HFF, use it to assist and teach others instead of fearing the Dragon or yourself.
This book brings together the best and brightest ideas regarding self-development and balance. Helps you realize that progress is made in small increments thru self reflection and learning from mistakes
"Lacking in substance, superficial insights."
I empathise with the author and really would like to be more generous, but this book just wasn't worth the running time. The book spends a great deal of time making the point that "some people are afraid of failure and sabotage themselves to avoid risk". Beyond that, the book offers little in the way of specific, actionable advice.
I've read a lot of self-help books over the years, but this one is different in the fact that Kelsey actually deals with the subject from a user perspective. He takes you through all the litterature - including the more scientific stuff and relates it to a normal persons difficulties of obtaining goals.
Easy read, great stuff, lots and lots of good references to further study if you so desire.
"Very difficult to get in to"
I found this book incredibly hard to get into. It uses lots of acronyms and short forms of things that I found really hard to follow.
I liked this book for its contents ability to stimulate thought, offering suggestions allowing the reader an unbiased comparison with their own situation present and past.
I bought this a while back and never quite got around to listening to it. Now having listened to it I can honestly say this is one of best self-help books I have ever came across and I am listening to it again for a second time in a week.
Robert Kelsey is so open and honest about his fear of failure, his is my story, everything he said resonated with me.
Matt Addis narrates this story as if it is his own, connecting the listener to the story and the author.
Having recently set up my own business, and for the most part wondering what on earth I was thinking, this book has been an inspiration and motivator. I have embraced my fears of failure and have turned procrastination into action.
I would highly recommend this book
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