Most personal and organizational problems are the result of a little-known phenomenon called "self-deception". We deceive ourselves into thinking we're doing the right thing for the right reason, but people won't follow a leader whose motives are selfish. The tricky thing is, we don't know that our motivation is flawed.
Through an entertaining and highly instructive story, this audiobook explains what self-deception is, how people get trapped in it, how it undermines relationships and organizational achievement, and - most importantly - the surprising way to solve it. A new edition of a customer favorite!
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I can has read
This has been my favorite. Now, that is only out of four books, but I liked it a lot.
I didn't have a favorite Character.
He gives a particular voice and personality to the characters that I wouldn't have given them while reading the book.
There were parts that tugged at my heart strings.
I would recommend this book for people who have negative attitudes about coworkers. I might even require it if I had that kind of power.
Leaders are readers. Audiobooks count as reading right?
I heard a speaker say "if you are pointing your finger at someone else, you need to realize that three fingers are pointed back at yourself." That might be the best way to describe this book. It constantly turns it back on the reader to seriously examine their own problems and areas of self deception.
This book was recommended to me from a speaker and author whose focus is leadership.
I think it is a great listen for all developing leaders (which is hopefully every leader).
Great ideas. The only small problem is that the conversations in the book are a little repetitive, but it also helped memory and retention.
I have been stuck in the box with my wife and many of my employees at work for years. This has been my fault. I love what this book has taught me. I may hire the coach to hold me accountable so that I stay on this track.
This book is the best leadership book I have ever read. It's amazing how as you read this book you can recognize how we put ourselves in the box and how we invite others to stay in the box.
I would recommend that everyone read this book. I plan on recommending it to my boss. And I plan on getting copies of the book for members of my team.
This will be one book that I read over and over.
Quit killing relationships
Helped me see how lucky I am up to this point in my life to have any relationships at all!
There are no new skills taught here, just an eye opening experience of seeing people for their Human qualities and not their performance of associated rolls in life. Very, very good for not just leaders of organizations but anyone who interacts with others...ever!
A real look at the core of the issues we all face and the tools to see them correctly. Without the lies that we all seem to find ourselves comfortably nestled in.
Do yourself and everyone you care about, at home and work, a favor and read, learn, study, live this book!! It is going to be required reading in my company moving forward....
Training by story. The examples make it real because you can project yourself into those situations. By picturing my fails I can see the application of the principle and get out of the box.
I'll listen again. Very practical.
"An excellent book given a second life on Audible"
I've read this book and recommended it to a number of others. The Audible format gives it a new lease of life and I will be recommending it again.
I don't often give 5 stars which for me should be reserved for things you rave about and recommend unprompted.
Up there with 7 Habits in my book ;)
The structure of a story helped keep you engaged on the points it's kept repeating. Would recommend to help change the way your deal with people.
"Struggled to listen through attentively"
I struggled to listen through the countless short stories of examples written in the book.
"A Life Changing Masterpiece"
This book got me out of my box. It made me rethink my relationships with many important people in my life.
The narrator delivers the message in a warm and comforting tone, kind of like a caring father or grandfather.
A must read for anyone!
"My first Audible disappointment"
I've recently got the bug for the fable style of business book having read or listened to all of Patrick Lencioni's books but in the case of Leadership and Self-Deception (The Arbinger Institute NOT Patrick Lencioni) there just isn't enough content to make a story from. The basic concept is sound but the authors have turned it into a Hollywood style tale of "everything will be wonderful in the end" and this book will solve all the world's problems courtesy of Tom (the world's slowest learner) and Bud (fortunately for Tom, the world's slowest teacher). They also dedicate the last 30 minutes or so telling you how fabulous the book is and how widely it's used, how many companies it's saved, how many marriages it's saved , and how aspiring CEOs would be foolish to contemplate not reading it before taking up their appointment. I found this especially irritating! The basic concept would make for a thought provoking essay but I don't see it as ground breaking or life changing; Empathy has been around for a long while!
Not in a hurry. His characters all seemed to be "Bud".
No, not really relevant for this sort of book.
I don't think so - sorry, this book just didn't do it for me.
"I don't normally review books but this one's great"
Yes - directly applicable to your whole life
Easy to absorb the information
It probably helps to listen to it in a few sessions.
"Thought Provoking and moves you to Action"
Its is the way the message unfolded, Knowing that everyone has this problem.
The realisation of the Problem
This Book will move you to action.
"Waste of time"
patronizing, idiotic story... just down right waste of time ... I most definitely would not recommend.... and to put the salt on to the wound.... at the end the toot their horn how good the book is and how many lives it changed... forget about competence and being humble, won't find it here
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