Most personal and organizational problems are the result of a little-known phenomenon called "self-deception". We deceive ourselves into thinking we're doing the right thing for the right reason, but people won't follow a leader whose motives are selfish. The tricky thing is, we don't know that our motivation is flawed.
Through an entertaining and highly instructive story, this audiobook explains what self-deception is, how people get trapped in it, how it undermines relationships and organizational achievement, and - most importantly - the surprising way to solve it. A new edition of a customer favorite!
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I can has read
This has been my favorite. Now, that is only out of four books, but I liked it a lot.
I didn't have a favorite Character.
He gives a particular voice and personality to the characters that I wouldn't have given them while reading the book.
There were parts that tugged at my heart strings.
I would recommend this book for people who have negative attitudes about coworkers. I might even require it if I had that kind of power.
Quit killing relationships
Helped me see how lucky I am up to this point in my life to have any relationships at all!
There are no new skills taught here, just an eye opening experience of seeing people for their Human qualities and not their performance of associated rolls in life. Very, very good for not just leaders of organizations but anyone who interacts with others...ever!
This book is all about how we miss treating others in the ways we should. If we treated others right and they were able to reciprocate our world would be a very different place.
I will work to make sure that I am aware of being in the box and try hard to get back out.
no I did not care for the storyline at all. I found it boring and repetitive.
Leaders are readers. Audiobooks count as reading right?
I heard a speaker say "if you are pointing your finger at someone else, you need to realize that three fingers are pointed back at yourself." That might be the best way to describe this book. It constantly turns it back on the reader to seriously examine their own problems and areas of self deception.
This book was recommended to me from a speaker and author whose focus is leadership.
I think it is a great listen for all developing leaders (which is hopefully every leader).
Points about self retreat and self deception are very powerful
All of them are good
what does it means to be in the box and how to get out
I like to think that the book is about which perspective are you taking: Ego or Soul.
If it's from closed, self defensive, justifying, blaming, me against all, dog eat dog, then you are in the box or you are all your Ego.
The golden rule.
Absolutely, he was an excellent reader.
Yes, it was very entertaining at times and thought provoking at others.
Began this thinking it was a simple-minded exercise in the obvious. If you can prevail upon yourself to acknowledge that most relationship problems stem fundamentally from our natural disinclination to recognize the truth about ourselves, you will find the material accessible and illuminating. May save my marriage.
Say something about yourself!
A new way of presenting an old truth - the family, the business, the world - are more livable, productive and fun IF people focus on the "other" rather than on themselves. This easily understood, but difficult to achieve, truism is restated every generation and rightly so, we need reminding on a regular basis.
I wasn't impressed. The story format was intriguing and I was looking forward to some valuable insights delivered with authenticity, What I heard was forced inanity. I found little that was sincere or realistic and I felt ripped off, so I quit listening after the 2nd or 3rd chapter/story.
I'd like to read Ursula K. Le Guin's The Dispossessed, but it doesn't seem to be available on audio.
Sounded like a Used Car Salesman at times. Felt it was 'acted' rather than delivered with feeling.
"I don't normally review books but this one's great"
Yes - directly applicable to your whole life
Easy to absorb the information
It probably helps to listen to it in a few sessions.
"Thought Provoking and moves you to Action"
Its is the way the message unfolded, Knowing that everyone has this problem.
The realisation of the Problem
This Book will move you to action.
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