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Leadership & Self-Deception: Getting Out of the Box | [The Arbinger Institute]

Leadership & Self-Deception: Getting Out of the Box

Most personal and organizational problems are the result of a little-known phenomenon called "self-deception". We deceive ourselves into thinking we're doing the right thing for the right reason, but people won't follow a leader whose motives are selfish. The tricky thing is, we don't know that our motivation is flawed. This audiobook explains what self-deception is, how people get trapped in it, how it undermines relationships and organizational achievement, and - most importantly - the surprising way to solve it.
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Publisher's Summary

Most personal and organizational problems are the result of a little-known phenomenon called "self-deception". We deceive ourselves into thinking we're doing the right thing for the right reason, but people won't follow a leader whose motives are selfish. The tricky thing is, we don't know that our motivation is flawed.

Through an entertaining and highly instructive story, this audiobook explains what self-deception is, how people get trapped in it, how it undermines relationships and organizational achievement, and - most importantly - the surprising way to solve it. A new edition of a customer favorite!

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    Amazon Customer IVINS, UTAH, United States 12-27-12
    Amazon Customer IVINS, UTAH, United States 12-27-12 Member Since 2014
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    If you could sum up Leadership & Self-Deception in three words, what would they be?

    Quit killing relationships


    What did you like best about this story?

    Helped me see how lucky I am up to this point in my life to have any relationships at all!


    Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

    Yes.


    Any additional comments?

    There are no new skills taught here, just an eye opening experience of seeing people for their Human qualities and not their performance of associated rolls in life. Very, very good for not just leaders of organizations but anyone who interacts with others...ever!

    3 of 3 people found this review helpful
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    Ben Vancouver, BC, Canada 07-12-13
    Ben Vancouver, BC, Canada 07-12-13 Member Since 2012

    Leaders are readers. Audiobooks count as reading right?

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    "Like staring into a microscopic mirror."

    I heard a speaker say "if you are pointing your finger at someone else, you need to realize that three fingers are pointed back at yourself." That might be the best way to describe this book. It constantly turns it back on the reader to seriously examine their own problems and areas of self deception.

    This book was recommended to me from a speaker and author whose focus is leadership.

    I think it is a great listen for all developing leaders (which is hopefully every leader).

    2 of 2 people found this review helpful
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    Joseph Ivy USA 10-13-12
    Joseph Ivy USA 10-13-12 Member Since 2012

    I can has read

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    Where does Leadership & Self-Deception rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

    This has been my favorite. Now, that is only out of four books, but I liked it a lot.


    Who was your favorite character and why?

    I didn't have a favorite Character.


    What does Peter Berkrot bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?

    He gives a particular voice and personality to the characters that I wouldn't have given them while reading the book.


    Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

    There were parts that tugged at my heart strings.


    Any additional comments?

    I would recommend this book for people who have negative attitudes about coworkers. I might even require it if I had that kind of power.

    2 of 2 people found this review helpful
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    Stephen Michael Gayle Camarillo, CA USA 04-02-15
    Stephen Michael Gayle Camarillo, CA USA 04-02-15 Member Since 2015

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    "A long winded advice on not being a jerk"

    The book consisted of a long-winded account on how not to be a jerk. Struggled to get through it.

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
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    John Tallahassee, FL, United States 12-06-12
    John Tallahassee, FL, United States 12-06-12
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    "Words to live by"
    If you could sum up Leadership & Self-Deception in three words, what would they be?

    The golden rule.


    What about Peter Berkrot’s performance did you like?

    Absolutely, he was an excellent reader.


    Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

    Yes, it was very entertaining at times and thought provoking at others.


    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
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    Bass 05-11-15
    Bass 05-11-15 Member Since 2013
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    "Great book with excellent life lessons"

    Excellent story helps understand how we can get better in our personal and professional lives. Definitely worth reading and re-reading.

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    M. Smith Seaside, CA USA 05-07-15
    M. Smith Seaside, CA USA 05-07-15 Member Since 2014

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    "Perfect timing"

    As a leader I have been struggling for many months, feeling conflicted at every decision I made, ever action I took. It wore me down. This book provided me some much needed clarification as to why I was feeling the way I was. I had live 'in the box' for too long and it was affecting every aspect of my life. Now to learn to get out of the box, become a better husband, father, and leader.

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    J. Wolter 04-25-15
    J. Wolter 04-25-15 Member Since 2015
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    "Best leadership book ever"

    The core principle is so true everywhere that I will be sharing this story with many people!

    Well written, well read and it will help you see how relationships matter.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
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    Melissa Tully, NY 04-23-15
    Melissa Tully, NY 04-23-15 Member Since 2009

    inspire*innovate*impact

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    "Classic that brings instant value at work and home"

    I have read and listened to this leadership fable multiple times, and recommend it often to my clients. The book uses story and repetition to help us look at our role in creating unnecessary and unproductive pain in the workplace in our everyday interactions with other people. The basic premise is simple. We often treat others (and are treated by others!) as objects in 1 of 3 ways. We see and treat each other as vehicles, obstacles or irrelevant. It's usually unintentional, and it results in workplaces that are not as vibrant, collaborative, and creative as we want them to be. This book helps us see reality and how we can change it by changing ourselves.

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    Scott 04-14-15
    Scott 04-14-15 Member Since 2014
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    "Stay out of the box"

    Good book on staying honest with yourself and staying accountable. Support your greatness and that of others.

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  • Huw Bowles
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    "An excellent book given a second life on Audible"

    I've read this book and recommended it to a number of others. The Audible format gives it a new lease of life and I will be recommending it again.
    I don't often give 5 stars which for me should be reserved for things you rave about and recommend unprompted.
    Up there with 7 Habits in my book ;)

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
  • Anthony
    2/3/15
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    "Great format"

    The structure of a story helped keep you engaged on the points it's kept repeating. Would recommend to help change the way your deal with people.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
  • A. L. Howell
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    "My first Audible disappointment"
    What did you like best about Leadership & Self-Deception? What did you like least?

    I've recently got the bug for the fable style of business book having read or listened to all of Patrick Lencioni's books but in the case of Leadership and Self-Deception (The Arbinger Institute NOT Patrick Lencioni) there just isn't enough content to make a story from. The basic concept is sound but the authors have turned it into a Hollywood style tale of "everything will be wonderful in the end" and this book will solve all the world's problems courtesy of Tom (the world's slowest learner) and Bud (fortunately for Tom, the world's slowest teacher). They also dedicate the last 30 minutes or so telling you how fabulous the book is and how widely it's used, how many companies it's saved, how many marriages it's saved , and how aspiring CEOs would be foolish to contemplate not reading it before taking up their appointment. I found this especially irritating! The basic concept would make for a thought provoking essay but I don't see it as ground breaking or life changing; Empathy has been around for a long while!


    What was your reaction to the ending? (No spoilers please!)

    Relief!


    Would you listen to another book narrated by Peter Berkrot?

    Not in a hurry. His characters all seemed to be "Bud".


    Could you see Leadership & Self-Deception being made into a movie or a TV series? Who would the stars be?

    No, not really relevant for this sort of book.


    Any additional comments?

    I don't think so - sorry, this book just didn't do it for me.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
  • PeterJHills
    8/24/14
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    "I don't normally review books but this one's great"
    Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

    Yes - directly applicable to your whole life


    What did you like best about this story?

    Easy to absorb the information


    Have you listened to any of Peter Berkrot’s other performances? How does this one compare?

    No


    Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

    It probably helps to listen to it in a few sessions.


    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
  • Michael
    7/7/14
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    "Thought Provoking and moves you to Action"
    What did you like most about Leadership & Self-Deception?

    Its is the way the message unfolded, Knowing that everyone has this problem.


    What was one of the most memorable moments of Leadership & Self-Deception?

    The realisation of the Problem


    Which character – as performed by Peter Berkrot – was your favourite?

    Buck


    Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

    Yes


    Any additional comments?

    This Book will move you to action.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
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