Most personal and organizational problems are the result of a little-known phenomenon called "self-deception". We deceive ourselves into thinking we're doing the right thing for the right reason, but people won't follow a leader whose motives are selfish. The tricky thing is, we don't know that our motivation is flawed.
Through an entertaining and highly instructive story, this audiobook explains what self-deception is, how people get trapped in it, how it undermines relationships and organizational achievement, and - most importantly - the surprising way to solve it. A new edition of a customer favorite!
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Quit killing relationships
Helped me see how lucky I am up to this point in my life to have any relationships at all!
There are no new skills taught here, just an eye opening experience of seeing people for their Human qualities and not their performance of associated rolls in life. Very, very good for not just leaders of organizations but anyone who interacts with others...ever!
Leaders are readers. Audiobooks count as reading right?
I heard a speaker say "if you are pointing your finger at someone else, you need to realize that three fingers are pointed back at yourself." That might be the best way to describe this book. It constantly turns it back on the reader to seriously examine their own problems and areas of self deception.
This book was recommended to me from a speaker and author whose focus is leadership.
I think it is a great listen for all developing leaders (which is hopefully every leader).
I can has read
This has been my favorite. Now, that is only out of four books, but I liked it a lot.
I didn't have a favorite Character.
He gives a particular voice and personality to the characters that I wouldn't have given them while reading the book.
There were parts that tugged at my heart strings.
I would recommend this book for people who have negative attitudes about coworkers. I might even require it if I had that kind of power.
The book consisted of a long-winded account on how not to be a jerk. Struggled to get through it.
The golden rule.
Absolutely, he was an excellent reader.
Yes, it was very entertaining at times and thought provoking at others.
Excellent story helps understand how we can get better in our personal and professional lives. Definitely worth reading and re-reading.
As a leader I have been struggling for many months, feeling conflicted at every decision I made, ever action I took. It wore me down. This book provided me some much needed clarification as to why I was feeling the way I was. I had live 'in the box' for too long and it was affecting every aspect of my life. Now to learn to get out of the box, become a better husband, father, and leader.
The core principle is so true everywhere that I will be sharing this story with many people!
Well written, well read and it will help you see how relationships matter.
I have read and listened to this leadership fable multiple times, and recommend it often to my clients. The book uses story and repetition to help us look at our role in creating unnecessary and unproductive pain in the workplace in our everyday interactions with other people. The basic premise is simple. We often treat others (and are treated by others!) as objects in 1 of 3 ways. We see and treat each other as vehicles, obstacles or irrelevant. It's usually unintentional, and it results in workplaces that are not as vibrant, collaborative, and creative as we want them to be. This book helps us see reality and how we can change it by changing ourselves.
"An excellent book given a second life on Audible"
I've read this book and recommended it to a number of others. The Audible format gives it a new lease of life and I will be recommending it again.
I don't often give 5 stars which for me should be reserved for things you rave about and recommend unprompted.
Up there with 7 Habits in my book ;)
The structure of a story helped keep you engaged on the points it's kept repeating. Would recommend to help change the way your deal with people.
"My first Audible disappointment"
I've recently got the bug for the fable style of business book having read or listened to all of Patrick Lencioni's books but in the case of Leadership and Self-Deception (The Arbinger Institute NOT Patrick Lencioni) there just isn't enough content to make a story from. The basic concept is sound but the authors have turned it into a Hollywood style tale of "everything will be wonderful in the end" and this book will solve all the world's problems courtesy of Tom (the world's slowest learner) and Bud (fortunately for Tom, the world's slowest teacher). They also dedicate the last 30 minutes or so telling you how fabulous the book is and how widely it's used, how many companies it's saved, how many marriages it's saved , and how aspiring CEOs would be foolish to contemplate not reading it before taking up their appointment. I found this especially irritating! The basic concept would make for a thought provoking essay but I don't see it as ground breaking or life changing; Empathy has been around for a long while!
Not in a hurry. His characters all seemed to be "Bud".
No, not really relevant for this sort of book.
I don't think so - sorry, this book just didn't do it for me.
"I don't normally review books but this one's great"
Yes - directly applicable to your whole life
Easy to absorb the information
It probably helps to listen to it in a few sessions.
"Thought Provoking and moves you to Action"
Its is the way the message unfolded, Knowing that everyone has this problem.
The realisation of the Problem
This Book will move you to action.
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