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Leadership & Self-Deception Audiobook

Leadership & Self-Deception: Getting Out of the Box

Most personal and organizational problems are the result of a little-known phenomenon called "self-deception". We deceive ourselves into thinking we're doing the right thing for the right reason, but people won't follow a leader whose motives are selfish. The tricky thing is, we don't know that our motivation is flawed. This audiobook explains what self-deception is, how people get trapped in it, how it undermines relationships and organizational achievement, and - most importantly - the surprising way to solve it.
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Most personal and organizational problems are the result of a little-known phenomenon called "self-deception". We deceive ourselves into thinking we're doing the right thing for the right reason, but people won't follow a leader whose motives are selfish. The tricky thing is, we don't know that our motivation is flawed.

Through an entertaining and highly instructive story, this audiobook explains what self-deception is, how people get trapped in it, how it undermines relationships and organizational achievement, and - most importantly - the surprising way to solve it. A new edition of a customer favorite!

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    Amazon Customer IVINS, UTAH, United States 12-27-12
    Amazon Customer IVINS, UTAH, United States 12-27-12 Member Since 2016
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    If you could sum up Leadership & Self-Deception in three words, what would they be?

    Quit killing relationships


    What did you like best about this story?

    Helped me see how lucky I am up to this point in my life to have any relationships at all!


    Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

    Yes.


    Any additional comments?

    There are no new skills taught here, just an eye opening experience of seeing people for their Human qualities and not their performance of associated rolls in life. Very, very good for not just leaders of organizations but anyone who interacts with others...ever!

    8 of 8 people found this review helpful
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    Trace A Welch EDMOND, OK USA 12-09-15
    Trace A Welch EDMOND, OK USA 12-09-15 Member Since 2015
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    "EVERYONE NEEDS TO READ THIS BOOK"

    Do yourself and everyone you care about, at home and work, a favor and read, learn, study, live this book!! It is going to be required reading in my company moving forward....

    7 of 7 people found this review helpful
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    Joseph Ivy USA 10-13-12
    Joseph Ivy USA 10-13-12 Member Since 2012

    I can has read

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    "Good content, great presentation"
    Where does Leadership & Self-Deception rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

    This has been my favorite. Now, that is only out of four books, but I liked it a lot.


    Who was your favorite character and why?

    I didn't have a favorite Character.


    What does Peter Berkrot bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?

    He gives a particular voice and personality to the characters that I wouldn't have given them while reading the book.


    Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

    There were parts that tugged at my heart strings.


    Any additional comments?

    I would recommend this book for people who have negative attitudes about coworkers. I might even require it if I had that kind of power.

    6 of 6 people found this review helpful
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    LEONARDO 09-12-15
    LEONARDO 09-12-15 Member Since 2015
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    "Should be a require read to every human"



    Great ideas. The only small problem is that the conversations in the book are a little repetitive, but it also helped memory and retention.

    4 of 4 people found this review helpful
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    Ben Vancouver, BC, Canada 07-12-13
    Ben Vancouver, BC, Canada 07-12-13 Member Since 2012

    Leaders are readers. Audiobooks count as reading right?

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    "Like staring into a microscopic mirror."

    I heard a speaker say "if you are pointing your finger at someone else, you need to realize that three fingers are pointed back at yourself." That might be the best way to describe this book. It constantly turns it back on the reader to seriously examine their own problems and areas of self deception.

    This book was recommended to me from a speaker and author whose focus is leadership.

    I think it is a great listen for all developing leaders (which is hopefully every leader).

    4 of 4 people found this review helpful
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    Allen 09-23-15
    Allen 09-23-15
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    "Exactly what I needed."

    I have been stuck in the box with my wife and many of my employees at work for years. This has been my fault. I love what this book has taught me. I may hire the coach to hold me accountable so that I stay on this track.

    3 of 3 people found this review helpful
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    Chris Parker 08-26-15 Member Since 2016
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    "Great read"

    Great paradime changing, life changing book I've applied things taught in my marriage, and it works. I highly recommend it.

    3 of 3 people found this review helpful
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    sean obrien 08-12-15
    sean obrien 08-12-15 Member Since 2015
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    "Awesome book!"

    This book is the best leadership book I have ever read. It's amazing how as you read this book you can recognize how we put ourselves in the box and how we invite others to stay in the box.

    I would recommend that everyone read this book. I plan on recommending it to my boss. And I plan on getting copies of the book for members of my team.

    This will be one book that I read over and over.

    3 of 3 people found this review helpful
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    John Funatake Portland, OR 09-16-15
    John Funatake Portland, OR 09-16-15 Member Since 2014

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    "Not what I expected ...in a good way"

    Training by story. The examples make it real because you can project yourself into those situations. By picturing my fails I can see the application of the principle and get out of the box.

    I'll listen again. Very practical.

    2 of 2 people found this review helpful
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    Jared Cambra 08-22-15
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    "Great book"

    This is a great book to help you learn how to become a better leader.

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  • Huw Bowles
    5/13/15
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    "An excellent book given a second life on Audible"

    I've read this book and recommended it to a number of others. The Audible format gives it a new lease of life and I will be recommending it again.
    I don't often give 5 stars which for me should be reserved for things you rave about and recommend unprompted.
    Up there with 7 Habits in my book ;)

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
  • Anthony
    2/3/15
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    "Great format"

    The structure of a story helped keep you engaged on the points it's kept repeating. Would recommend to help change the way your deal with people.

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
  • Abdul
    4/13/16
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    "A Life Changing Masterpiece"

    This book got me out of my box. It made me rethink my relationships with many important people in my life.

    The narrator delivers the message in a warm and comforting tone, kind of like a caring father or grandfather.

    A must read for anyone!

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  • A. L. Howell
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    1/15/15
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    "My first Audible disappointment"
    What did you like best about Leadership & Self-Deception? What did you like least?

    I've recently got the bug for the fable style of business book having read or listened to all of Patrick Lencioni's books but in the case of Leadership and Self-Deception (The Arbinger Institute NOT Patrick Lencioni) there just isn't enough content to make a story from. The basic concept is sound but the authors have turned it into a Hollywood style tale of "everything will be wonderful in the end" and this book will solve all the world's problems courtesy of Tom (the world's slowest learner) and Bud (fortunately for Tom, the world's slowest teacher). They also dedicate the last 30 minutes or so telling you how fabulous the book is and how widely it's used, how many companies it's saved, how many marriages it's saved , and how aspiring CEOs would be foolish to contemplate not reading it before taking up their appointment. I found this especially irritating! The basic concept would make for a thought provoking essay but I don't see it as ground breaking or life changing; Empathy has been around for a long while!


    What was your reaction to the ending? (No spoilers please!)

    Relief!


    Would you listen to another book narrated by Peter Berkrot?

    Not in a hurry. His characters all seemed to be "Bud".


    Could you see Leadership & Self-Deception being made into a movie or a TV series? Who would the stars be?

    No, not really relevant for this sort of book.


    Any additional comments?

    I don't think so - sorry, this book just didn't do it for me.

    1 of 2 people found this review helpful
  • PeterJHills
    8/24/14
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    "I don't normally review books but this one's great"
    Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

    Yes - directly applicable to your whole life


    What did you like best about this story?

    Easy to absorb the information


    Have you listened to any of Peter Berkrot’s other performances? How does this one compare?

    No


    Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

    It probably helps to listen to it in a few sessions.


    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
  • Michael
    7/7/14
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    "Thought Provoking and moves you to Action"
    What did you like most about Leadership & Self-Deception?

    Its is the way the message unfolded, Knowing that everyone has this problem.


    What was one of the most memorable moments of Leadership & Self-Deception?

    The realisation of the Problem


    Which character – as performed by Peter Berkrot – was your favourite?

    Buck


    Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

    Yes


    Any additional comments?

    This Book will move you to action.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
  • Lina Brooks
    London
    1/22/16
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    "Waste of time"
    What disappointed you about Leadership & Self-Deception?

    patronizing, idiotic story... just down right waste of time ... I most definitely would not recommend.... and to put the salt on to the wound.... at the end the toot their horn how good the book is and how many lives it changed... forget about competence and being humble, won't find it here


    0 of 1 people found this review helpful

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