Simon & Schuster Audio is proud to present one of the best-selling books of all time, Dale Carnegie's perennial classic How to Win Friends and Influence People, presented here in its entirety.
For over 60 years the rock-solid, time-tested advice in this audiobook has carried thousands of now-famous people up the ladder of success in their business and personal lives.
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There is room at the top, when you know...How to Win Friends and Influence People.
©1936 Dale Carnegie; ©1964 renewed Donna Dale Carnegie and Dorothy Carnegie; ©1981 Donna Dale Carnegie and Dorothy Carnegie, all rights reserved; (P)1988 Simon & Schuster Inc. All rights reserved. SOUNDIDEAS is an imprint of Simon & Schuster Audio Division, Simon & Schuster, Inc.
Here are the main points of the book.
Fundamental Techniques in Handling People
1. Don't criticize.
2. Give honest and sincere appreciation.
3. Arouse in the other person an eager want.
✦ Six ways to make people like you
1. Become genuinely interested in other people.
3. Remember a person's name.
4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
5. Talk in terms of the other person's interests.
6. Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.
✦ Win people to your way of thinking
1. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
2. Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never say, "You're wrong."
3. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
4. Begin in a friendly way.
5. Get the other person saying "yes, yes" immediately.
6. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
7. Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
8. Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view.
9. Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires.
10. Appeal to the nobler motives.
11. Dramatize your ideas.
12. Throw down a challenge.
✦ Be a Leader
1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
2. Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly.
3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
5. Let the other person save face.
6. Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement.
7. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
8. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
9. Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.
The fact that this book was published in 1936 and is still a top seller today says a lot more than I can manage to convey in this review.
The book is filled with sound practical advice. It is probably the best book ever written on human relations. Anyone and everyone should find it to be a valuable guide, whether in personal, family, or business relationships. Despite the title, which some may consider overly aggressive by todays'standards, the practices discussed in the book are in no way manipulative. To the contrary, this book helps you learn the art and skill of conversation and persuasion through attentiveness to, and consideration of others.
This is not a story that you listen to once and get rid of it. It is a reference manual that you will be able to use and refer to for years to come. I own it in hardback, as well as on cassette (remember those?) so I was excited to see a digital version made available from Audible. I bought it immediately and now look forward to being able to enjoy it again and again on my MP3 player.
The title doesn't do it justice. I was half expecting some slimeball manual of how to fake being a sympathetic person. On the contrary, this is a classic. Its message is that if you want to do well with people, you'd better become interested and considerate and pleasant to be around. The book tells you how, over and over, with principles and examples and anecdotes.
The book was written in 1936 and listening to the audio version is rather like watching an old black and white movie. It's a little corny nowadays, but in an extremely charming way. I found myself enjoying the politeness of a byegone age and looking forward to the next installment.
After listening once and becoming inspired, I requested a job upgrade, and my boss was smiling as he agreed. Wow! I was so shocked that I think I instantly forgot everything I learned. You bet I'll be coming back to study this one.
I've listened to over 30 audio books. This is the best most practical book I've ever listened to. It works and it is not manipulation--pure gold.
First published in 1936 and updated in 1981 (Stevie Wonder reference, etc).
I have read this book at twice before, back in the 90's. I picked it up now as an audio book for the first time. The reader sounds like a news caster from the 70's (and in his 70's) with a deep, clear voice. He speaks distinctly and is very good.
You will want to listen to this over and over again. It has some of the best advice on how to be a better husband, father, friend, manager, anything you want. The principles should be taught in schools or churches instead of half the useless stuff they teach there.
But since it isn't taught anywhere else, get the book now and learn it! You will never regret it. :)
I went into this book with high expectations, as several people have said how much it helped them socially. I can't yet say whether it lived up to its reviews.
I think the book had a lot of good ideas. I expect I will try to use some of them, and actually already have. I especially liked the section on arguing (or not), and think national debates (not to mention local) might go a lot better if people applied the principles from this book.
It did seem to have its faults though. For one thing, it seemed kind of dated... I realize it was written in the 1930s, but it seems like human nature shouldn't have changed much since then, yet it feels like it has. For example, it's hard to imagine an owner of a large company giving you lots of his time and choosing your product over your competitors' just because you commented on something of interest to him (something that happens in about 25% of the book's examples). I recognize that this might be my limited experience though.
Also, it's pretty clear that this book is intended to help people with their business relations, rather than close personal relationships and such, though there are some points that apply to the latter. But in most of the examples, someone gets another to like them and secures a business deal or something out of it.
Though Mr. Carnegie stresses that sincerity is essential for his principles to work, it's hard, with all the examples ending in someone making out well business-wise, to keep that in mind, rather than thinking, "Okay, I just have to say what people want to hear; flatter them, pretend I'm interested in their interests, and they'll be eager to help me and do what I ask!" That's just a matter of how it's written though, I guess.
I will end by saying, again, that there are good points to be distilled out of the book, but it's not a complete and perfect guide to social interaction.
You can tell from the stories that this book was written many years ago but the message is still very useful. Even following a few of the suggestions put forth by this book could alter your life for the better. I will likely listen to this several times over the next few years to refresh the ideas. Highly recommended.
Sometimes the classics just can't be beat. I took the Dale Carnegie course, and this book was required reading. It completely changed the way I deal with people, and the overall effect is astonishing. After reading the book, you'll be astonished as to how common-sensical the teachings are, but boy do they work.
I've had at least ten occasions over the past year where I had to deal with very difficult people who were bent on starting a fight or argument. When we were finished, in each case the other person heartily apologized for their behavior and thanked me for keeping a cool head about things. Most importantly though, is that I approached each of these encounters with the utmost confidence that I could handle this person, and this situation. I didn't feel even the slightest bit nervous or afraid. To encounter these types of situations feeling calm and confident is a rare gift that I now have. There is no way to put a price tag on that.
I plan to listen to, and read this book many times over my life. The lessons are invaluable. Don't wait another day before learning the secrets contained in this book.
I was given a copy of this book when I was 17 years old, by my friend "Mad Harry". In it he wrote "Call me when you are Famous". Well I am not famous, but did get to be a director of a large company in my mid 30's, and I have to say, without this book, I doubt if I would have made it. I am known for getting things done with minimum conflict. Listen to this, it is very polite and old fashioned now, but the principles of how to deal with people are every bit as valid as when this wonderful book was written.
Call me when you are famous!
If you don't need this book, then chances are you don't talk to people. You do talk to people right? This book is well worth your time, if you don't learn anything from it then you probably have people skills to rival those of Charles Schwab or Abe Lincon.
I had heard about this book for years in various circles, in fact, I was even amused when it was referenced in the game "Baldurs Gate". I knew about it, yet I never took the time to read it. Well, I have now listened to it twice, and it will certanly get a third listening. I can't believe that I got this far in life and was unaware of some of the simple people skills presented in this work. Fortunately, I have done some of them naturally, and some have developed over time as I have grown up - still, had I had this book 20 years ago my life would have been a whole lot easier.
This book is not filled with "tricks" to get people to like you, rather, it is how to develop your own character so that people like you naturally, and you like them naturally as well. No "tricks" involved, but it certanly gives you better insight into the nature of people, and I can testify that it works incredibly well.
"Good book, SHAME ON THE PRICING!"
This is one of those classic books that might have a life-changing effect on you. As a motivational material, it doesn't rely on fancy and marketing-based techniques that might seem artificial. Dale Carnegie mostly uses a basic ideology to help the reader, mostly based on his own experience and on successful people's life stories. Perhaps it is due to this level of authenticity that makes these Carnegie books essential. They might have been followed by a whole genre of self-help books with questionable use, but when Carnegie almost single-handedly created the genre, he had to rely on advise that really influenced people. It was actually surprising to discover, how many successful friend of mine admitted to have a strong influence from Carnegie's books. Please, for your own sake, read them both!
"Everyone should listen!"
This is a great book not only for the subject matter, but also the excellent narration.
While this book was written several decades ago, the principles are still as relevant now as they were back then. Some may say some of what Carnegie writes is common sense, but one could say the same thing about many self help books.
I have used many of the tips and techniques in the book and am enjoying a more comfortable time at work. Well worth a try!
"A MUST read..."
The language is somewhat dated and some of the examples are quite amusing! It's rather difficult to see how such a book could work in such a cynical world!!
However, it does!
It's a great book - I'm on my second listen...
You can take one or more of the 15ish principles to change how you work/play with people.
I've already started to use some of the principles and I've seen rewards, especially in recognising good the work I see staff doing.
It's NOT rocket science. It's all basic pysychology, but it's well written(and well spoken!).
Give it a try!!
"Utterly absurd, but sort of quaint"
Anyone who actually takes this seriously as a self help book would do well in a 1950s Disney land of happy clappy mickey mouse type people, but come on.
This book is out of date, conservative and absurd. It should be renamed "how to live in a self created fantasy world where everyone you are nice to returns the favor as if by magic"
If the world were truly like this, I wouldn't need to read the damn book!
"Not For me"
I didn't enjoy this book, the message felt a bit oudated, classic often stand the test of time but in my opinion the book offered no new insight.
The Book presents many good dieas, but many have these have filtereed through to standard texts on the subject, so while the ideas and story would have added a lot of value 20 years ago, I feel this is not longer the case.
I havent listned to any other performances, but Andrew did a decent job
I wouldn't go and see the film
A good book with some great ideas, majority of the practical examples are very US centric, but i did not get any real value from the contents of the book. I would not reccommend this book. Not for me.
"Essentially a book about relating well with others"
The message is simple. Praise, acknowledge others strengths and do so sincerely. Unfortunately the narrator A MacMillan has failed to convey the core messages in this book in a sincere and respectful way. I felt like I had a school teacher talking down to me throughout the entire book. His tone lacked any genuine regard for the content of the book. Avoid this version of the audio book.
"Things To Do Before I Die"
Every human being on the planet should read this. After reading/listening and applying those teachings in everyday situations, I consider this book to be the most important book I've read. It's needless to say more, just listen to it. Again and again.
"A timeless classic"
This book has been around for some time now, but its content is still relevant today. Very many interesting anecdotes with very usefule advice. Very easy to listen to.
How to get to yes
"How can it still make sense?"
But it just does, I've gone through life noticing the odd thing here and there and presuming great insight but only to find that Dale Carnegie has got there already.
I bought this thinking it would be a cheesy reminder of the way we used to do business, but I couldn't have been more wrong. It all makes perfect sense and resinates today in all walks of life.
Well worth a listen.
I originally bought this book to read, but since I do not go by bus/train to work any more, the book I only read the introduction to is now gathering dust on my shelf. I am really glad that I bought this on Audible. Dale Carnegie is still inspirational today as he was over 70 years ago. I have caught myself using some of his techniques and have found it really useful. I will definitely have a listen to it again - you don't get everything the first time round...
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