Simon & Schuster Audio is proud to present one of the best-selling books of all time, Dale Carnegie's perennial classic How to Win Friends and Influence People, presented here in its entirety.
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©1936 Dale Carnegie; ©1964 renewed Donna Dale Carnegie and Dorothy Carnegie; ©1981 Donna Dale Carnegie and Dorothy Carnegie, all rights reserved; (P)1988 Simon & Schuster Inc. All rights reserved. SOUNDIDEAS is an imprint of Simon & Schuster Audio Division, Simon & Schuster, Inc.
Here are the main points of the book.
Fundamental Techniques in Handling People
1. Don't criticize.
2. Give honest and sincere appreciation.
3. Arouse in the other person an eager want.
✦ Six ways to make people like you
1. Become genuinely interested in other people.
3. Remember a person's name.
4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
5. Talk in terms of the other person's interests.
6. Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.
✦ Win people to your way of thinking
1. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
2. Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never say, "You're wrong."
3. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
4. Begin in a friendly way.
5. Get the other person saying "yes, yes" immediately.
6. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
7. Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
8. Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view.
9. Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires.
10. Appeal to the nobler motives.
11. Dramatize your ideas.
12. Throw down a challenge.
✦ Be a Leader
1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
2. Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly.
3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
5. Let the other person save face.
6. Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement.
7. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
8. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
9. Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.
The fact that this book was published in 1936 and is still a top seller today says a lot more than I can manage to convey in this review.
The book is filled with sound practical advice. It is probably the best book ever written on human relations. Anyone and everyone should find it to be a valuable guide, whether in personal, family, or business relationships. Despite the title, which some may consider overly aggressive by todays'standards, the practices discussed in the book are in no way manipulative. To the contrary, this book helps you learn the art and skill of conversation and persuasion through attentiveness to, and consideration of others.
This is not a story that you listen to once and get rid of it. It is a reference manual that you will be able to use and refer to for years to come. I own it in hardback, as well as on cassette (remember those?) so I was excited to see a digital version made available from Audible. I bought it immediately and now look forward to being able to enjoy it again and again on my MP3 player.
The title doesn't do it justice. I was half expecting some slimeball manual of how to fake being a sympathetic person. On the contrary, this is a classic. Its message is that if you want to do well with people, you'd better become interested and considerate and pleasant to be around. The book tells you how, over and over, with principles and examples and anecdotes.
The book was written in 1936 and listening to the audio version is rather like watching an old black and white movie. It's a little corny nowadays, but in an extremely charming way. I found myself enjoying the politeness of a byegone age and looking forward to the next installment.
After listening once and becoming inspired, I requested a job upgrade, and my boss was smiling as he agreed. Wow! I was so shocked that I think I instantly forgot everything I learned. You bet I'll be coming back to study this one.
Sometimes the classics just can't be beat. I took the Dale Carnegie course, and this book was required reading. It completely changed the way I deal with people, and the overall effect is astonishing. After reading the book, you'll be astonished as to how common-sensical the teachings are, but boy do they work.
I've had at least ten occasions over the past year where I had to deal with very difficult people who were bent on starting a fight or argument. When we were finished, in each case the other person heartily apologized for their behavior and thanked me for keeping a cool head about things. Most importantly though, is that I approached each of these encounters with the utmost confidence that I could handle this person, and this situation. I didn't feel even the slightest bit nervous or afraid. To encounter these types of situations feeling calm and confident is a rare gift that I now have. There is no way to put a price tag on that.
I plan to listen to, and read this book many times over my life. The lessons are invaluable. Don't wait another day before learning the secrets contained in this book.
If you don't need this book, then chances are you don't talk to people. You do talk to people right? This book is well worth your time, if you don't learn anything from it then you probably have people skills to rival those of Charles Schwab or Abe Lincon.
I had heard about this book for years in various circles, in fact, I was even amused when it was referenced in the game "Baldurs Gate". I knew about it, yet I never took the time to read it. Well, I have now listened to it twice, and it will certanly get a third listening. I can't believe that I got this far in life and was unaware of some of the simple people skills presented in this work. Fortunately, I have done some of them naturally, and some have developed over time as I have grown up - still, had I had this book 20 years ago my life would have been a whole lot easier.
This book is not filled with "tricks" to get people to like you, rather, it is how to develop your own character so that people like you naturally, and you like them naturally as well. No "tricks" involved, but it certanly gives you better insight into the nature of people, and I can testify that it works incredibly well.
I went into this book with high expectations, as several people have said how much it helped them socially. I can't yet say whether it lived up to its reviews.
I think the book had a lot of good ideas. I expect I will try to use some of them, and actually already have. I especially liked the section on arguing (or not), and think national debates (not to mention local) might go a lot better if people applied the principles from this book.
It did seem to have its faults though. For one thing, it seemed kind of dated... I realize it was written in the 1930s, but it seems like human nature shouldn't have changed much since then, yet it feels like it has. For example, it's hard to imagine an owner of a large company giving you lots of his time and choosing your product over your competitors' just because you commented on something of interest to him (something that happens in about 25% of the book's examples). I recognize that this might be my limited experience though.
Also, it's pretty clear that this book is intended to help people with their business relations, rather than close personal relationships and such, though there are some points that apply to the latter. But in most of the examples, someone gets another to like them and secures a business deal or something out of it.
Though Mr. Carnegie stresses that sincerity is essential for his principles to work, it's hard, with all the examples ending in someone making out well business-wise, to keep that in mind, rather than thinking, "Okay, I just have to say what people want to hear; flatter them, pretend I'm interested in their interests, and they'll be eager to help me and do what I ask!" That's just a matter of how it's written though, I guess.
I will end by saying, again, that there are good points to be distilled out of the book, but it's not a complete and perfect guide to social interaction.
You can tell from the stories that this book was written many years ago but the message is still very useful. Even following a few of the suggestions put forth by this book could alter your life for the better. I will likely listen to this several times over the next few years to refresh the ideas. Highly recommended.
I've listened to over 30 audio books. This is the best most practical book I've ever listened to. It works and it is not manipulation--pure gold.
First published in 1936 and updated in 1981 (Stevie Wonder reference, etc).
I have read this book at twice before, back in the 90's. I picked it up now as an audio book for the first time. The reader sounds like a news caster from the 70's (and in his 70's) with a deep, clear voice. He speaks distinctly and is very good.
You will want to listen to this over and over again. It has some of the best advice on how to be a better husband, father, friend, manager, anything you want. The principles should be taught in schools or churches instead of half the useless stuff they teach there.
But since it isn't taught anywhere else, get the book now and learn it! You will never regret it. :)
This book is a treasure trove of information that can truly change your life. If you're looking to improve your communication skills, and win the adoration of people in your life (even difficult people), then this is your book! The principles that it teaches are priceless. I have been trying them out in my personal life, and have been amazed by how much more effective I have become in my personal, and business relationships. WOW! This is a book that I plan to re-read (actually listen to) on a regular basis until I have it memorized!
This is absolutely a book that you NEED to own! You will not be dissapointed!
This book reminds you of the positive results of a restive and constructive approach to life. Highly recommendable to everyone struggling with relationships, whether at work or at home.
"Still as relevant today"
Why don't more people follow this advice in their daily lives? The world would be a much more beautiful place if they did. Do unto others...
"One of the modern classics"
Not what I thought it would be at all. Some great principles for life and happiness.
"Has changed my life"
It is true. It has changed my life. The very reason you are reading my review means, like me, you are looking to better yourself and gain some tips on how to develop yourself. I am a Director at a medium sized company and found techniques used in this book a massive help to me. Yes agreed, some language in it doesnt apply today and I did shout outloud 'that would never happen'. Take this book as a foundation, a reference point and have fun witg it. The principles are straight forward and as obvious or common sensical they may be, having someone tell you makes it all click into place. This is wonderfully read by the narrator and i really hope you give this book a chance.
One of the most important non-fiction books in your life. Whether you are self development junkie or not you have to read it/listen to it. The earlier in your life the better. Not sure why I was not introduced to it earlier in school...
It met my expectation, really made me aware of the little habits one might miss when trying to influence people. I like the fact that it is a practical book as well and I can see a lot of positive things happening to me since I read this book.
"A classic, a little dated, but enjoyable"
A little old fashioned, but some good advice and things to think about, glad I read it and would recommend.
nicely explained and full of tips. Suggest for anyone looking to improve their social skills
"Dated but Relevant"
Some books you buy purely based on others comments. This was one of them. In this case, the comments were pretty much bang on. This is an old, dated book but at its core, it is still very, very relevant in todays society.
It is a tome on human relations read expertly by Andrew MacMillan. I work with some challenging people and customers, this book has helped me to gain a better understanding of them and their reasons for acting in such a way. I guess a lot of people would call it common sense, but I think it's a little more than that. I like some of the stories that accompany the facts but some of them are a little overblown - or maybe in todays society I'm just being too critical.
Nevertheless, a fabulous book and one which I would recommend to just about everyone I know.
"Book worth your attention!"
This book teach you how to deal with people. Sometimes we are so keen to learn new skills and might forget how important are 'people skills'. It reminds you and teach you how to be a better personal, the simple is that. I would definitely recommend this book. We all deal with people weather its your family or people at work and the principles this book covers are of a major importance.
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