Simon & Schuster Audio is proud to present one of the best-selling books of all time, Dale Carnegie's perennial classic How to Win Friends and Influence People, presented here in its entirety.
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Here are the main points of the book.
Fundamental Techniques in Handling People
1. Don't criticize.
2. Give honest and sincere appreciation.
3. Arouse in the other person an eager want.
✦ Six ways to make people like you
1. Become genuinely interested in other people.
3. Remember a person's name.
4. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
5. Talk in terms of the other person's interests.
6. Make the other person feel important - and do it sincerely.
✦ Win people to your way of thinking
1. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
2. Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never say, "You're wrong."
3. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
4. Begin in a friendly way.
5. Get the other person saying "yes, yes" immediately.
6. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
7. Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
8. Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view.
9. Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires.
10. Appeal to the nobler motives.
11. Dramatize your ideas.
12. Throw down a challenge.
✦ Be a Leader
1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
2. Call attention to people's mistakes indirectly.
3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
5. Let the other person save face.
6. Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement.
7. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
8. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
9. Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.
The fact that this book was published in 1936 and is still a top seller today says a lot more than I can manage to convey in this review.
The book is filled with sound practical advice. It is probably the best book ever written on human relations. Anyone and everyone should find it to be a valuable guide, whether in personal, family, or business relationships. Despite the title, which some may consider overly aggressive by todays'standards, the practices discussed in the book are in no way manipulative. To the contrary, this book helps you learn the art and skill of conversation and persuasion through attentiveness to, and consideration of others.
This is not a story that you listen to once and get rid of it. It is a reference manual that you will be able to use and refer to for years to come. I own it in hardback, as well as on cassette (remember those?) so I was excited to see a digital version made available from Audible. I bought it immediately and now look forward to being able to enjoy it again and again on my MP3 player.
Sometimes the classics just can't be beat. I took the Dale Carnegie course, and this book was required reading. It completely changed the way I deal with people, and the overall effect is astonishing. After reading the book, you'll be astonished as to how common-sensical the teachings are, but boy do they work.
I've had at least ten occasions over the past year where I had to deal with very difficult people who were bent on starting a fight or argument. When we were finished, in each case the other person heartily apologized for their behavior and thanked me for keeping a cool head about things. Most importantly though, is that I approached each of these encounters with the utmost confidence that I could handle this person, and this situation. I didn't feel even the slightest bit nervous or afraid. To encounter these types of situations feeling calm and confident is a rare gift that I now have. There is no way to put a price tag on that.
I plan to listen to, and read this book many times over my life. The lessons are invaluable. Don't wait another day before learning the secrets contained in this book.
I am an avid eclectic reader.
I remember back in the 1950's the seminars held by Carnegie, they were very popular. I saw the book off and on over the years and thought to myself I should read this, then I saw it on the Audible list and said okay now is the time. I am glad I did. Most of the book is common sense but stated in an easy acceptable manner, the examples given demonstrate each point and make it more enjoyable and understandable. The book was written in 1936 and examples of what was current events or people at the time the book was written is history today which I enjoyed. I saw in myself some bad habits I should correct to become a better listener. Overall this is a enjoyable self help book, I wished I had read it years ago. I noted most of the information is aimed at sales people, but everyone that interacts with people can benefit.
The title doesn't do it justice. I was half expecting some slimeball manual of how to fake being a sympathetic person. On the contrary, this is a classic. Its message is that if you want to do well with people, you'd better become interested and considerate and pleasant to be around. The book tells you how, over and over, with principles and examples and anecdotes.
The book was written in 1936 and listening to the audio version is rather like watching an old black and white movie. It's a little corny nowadays, but in an extremely charming way. I found myself enjoying the politeness of a byegone age and looking forward to the next installment.
After listening once and becoming inspired, I requested a job upgrade, and my boss was smiling as he agreed. Wow! I was so shocked that I think I instantly forgot everything I learned. You bet I'll be coming back to study this one.
If you don't need this book, then chances are you don't talk to people. You do talk to people right? This book is well worth your time, if you don't learn anything from it then you probably have people skills to rival those of Charles Schwab or Abe Lincon.
I had heard about this book for years in various circles, in fact, I was even amused when it was referenced in the game "Baldurs Gate". I knew about it, yet I never took the time to read it. Well, I have now listened to it twice, and it will certanly get a third listening. I can't believe that I got this far in life and was unaware of some of the simple people skills presented in this work. Fortunately, I have done some of them naturally, and some have developed over time as I have grown up - still, had I had this book 20 years ago my life would have been a whole lot easier.
This book is not filled with "tricks" to get people to like you, rather, it is how to develop your own character so that people like you naturally, and you like them naturally as well. No "tricks" involved, but it certanly gives you better insight into the nature of people, and I can testify that it works incredibly well.
I went into this book with high expectations, as several people have said how much it helped them socially. I can't yet say whether it lived up to its reviews.
I think the book had a lot of good ideas. I expect I will try to use some of them, and actually already have. I especially liked the section on arguing (or not), and think national debates (not to mention local) might go a lot better if people applied the principles from this book.
It did seem to have its faults though. For one thing, it seemed kind of dated... I realize it was written in the 1930s, but it seems like human nature shouldn't have changed much since then, yet it feels like it has. For example, it's hard to imagine an owner of a large company giving you lots of his time and choosing your product over your competitors' just because you commented on something of interest to him (something that happens in about 25% of the book's examples). I recognize that this might be my limited experience though.
Also, it's pretty clear that this book is intended to help people with their business relations, rather than close personal relationships and such, though there are some points that apply to the latter. But in most of the examples, someone gets another to like them and secures a business deal or something out of it.
Though Mr. Carnegie stresses that sincerity is essential for his principles to work, it's hard, with all the examples ending in someone making out well business-wise, to keep that in mind, rather than thinking, "Okay, I just have to say what people want to hear; flatter them, pretend I'm interested in their interests, and they'll be eager to help me and do what I ask!" That's just a matter of how it's written though, I guess.
I will end by saying, again, that there are good points to be distilled out of the book, but it's not a complete and perfect guide to social interaction.
Like most children I ignored my father's advice, given years ago, that I should read this book. At age 45 I picked it up and can see Dad was (once again) right and I was wrong. Some of these ideas will sound familiar to you because you may already practice them. Old ideas like personal integrity, connecting with people on a thoughtful and personal level, being able to admit your mistakes, being forthright, candid and authentic in your dealings and being actually interested in people and what they want (instead of just what you want!) are powerful and timeless. Read this book with an open mind, noting that it is an old book and the references are from a man's world of old - but the principles apply to all genders. I apply these concepts to my law practice every day and find they have increased my income and grown my referral network. Put this one on your shelf, it is worth the subscription price.
You can tell from the stories that this book was written many years ago but the message is still very useful. Even following a few of the suggestions put forth by this book could alter your life for the better. I will likely listen to this several times over the next few years to refresh the ideas. Highly recommended.
I was given a copy of this book when I was 17 years old, by my friend "Mad Harry". In it he wrote "Call me when you are Famous". Well I am not famous, but did get to be a director of a large company in my mid 30's, and I have to say, without this book, I doubt if I would have made it. I am known for getting things done with minimum conflict. Listen to this, it is very polite and old fashioned now, but the principles of how to deal with people are every bit as valid as when this wonderful book was written.
Call me when you are famous!
This book is amazing. It gives you examples of how people have managed different situations successfully and unsuccessfully. It explains the ways to influence people without being false but just being nice. I wish I had listed to this book 20 years ago. I have been captivated. I find myself unconsciously changing my behaviour, what a difference it has made when working with my staff or playing with my children.
This is one of those books that you will hear people talking about and this is also one of those books that it took me 30 years to get round to reading. I wish that I had done so earlier. This book has greatly improved my outlook on life and I can handle situations in a far slicker and more helpful way than before. excellent book, I would recommend it to everyone.
Everyone should read this book - parents and children, managers and employees. Excellent and enjoyable.
"Read every 10 years for an optimal life"
I read this originally well over 30 years ago, and it is one of the books that has profoundly influenced my life. The essence is simply the golden rule: Do as to others as you would be done by. In a world where every one is (whether we like to admit it or not) out for themselves, it is still optimal to be loving and co-operative if you understand that life is essentially win-win: we gain ourselves by giving to others what they most want. And if they only give us back 80% of what they get, we are still both better off, because a lot of what we want (recognition, respect, affection) is FREE. So once this 'enlightened self-interest' gets a hold, out of the crooked stuff that man is made of, we find...we can all be happy! Read it, DC explains it better than I do.
This book is inspirational and still as amazingly relevant today as when it was written about 80 years ago!
People skills are understated and this book helps you realise how important they really are.
You must listen to this book!
"An American Classic"
It is important to say that Old Dale?s book does exactly what it says on the tin and really does work. However,read from the point of view as a work of narrative fiction, this book also functions perfectly well and is hugely enjoyable. It presents as a work of early twentieth century Americana as much as the novels of Scott Fitzgerald or Upton Sinclair and presents a picture of American Society and in particular American corporate life that will be very familiar to anyone who has either worked with or visited the United States. I kept returning time and time again to a mental picture of an American corporate mentor of mine ? comfortable in his late middle age with all the assumptions of middle class life and, no doubt, many of its frailities?and heard his voice speaking from within these pages. ?How to win friends? informs so much of American Literature ? John Updike and Richard Yates are two particular but not exclusive examples ? so the book also becomes a valuable work of reference to the modern American psyche and the cultural revolution that has and is taking place in that great country.
"I tried to be cynical...."
...but after reading this book I realise that most of my failings in business and personal life are easily-explained. Within a week I have already seen positive changes in my relationships with people. It can't be this easy can it?
this book is timeless. it offers great insights and examples of human behaviour. the only criticsm would be that it mainly deals with office and business. otherwise a great suggestion from a friend
One of the most important non-fiction books in your life. Whether you are self development junkie or not you have to read it/listen to it. The earlier in your life the better. Not sure why I was not introduced to it earlier in school...
This book should be used in schools to show people how to deal with each other. Absolutely fantastic!
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