How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less

By: Nicholas Boothman

Narrated by: Nicholas Boothman

Length: 3 hrs and 10 mins

Publisher's summary

Whether meeting a new client or bumping into a potential mate, you only have a few seconds to make a favorable impression. Is that really possible? Author Nicholas Boothman, a lecturer and licensed master practitioner of neurolinguistic programming, believes yes! He introduces a revolutionary approach to face-to-face communication that will help anyone succeed at making meaningful, and immediate, connections.

Whether selling, managing, job hunting, negotiating, pitching an idea, applying for law school, joining a new group, or on your knees with a marriage proposal, the secret of success is based on connecting with other people. And the most powerful new idea for making connections is revealed, step by step, in Nicholas Boothman's breakthrough program of rapport by design. Easily learned, it will help you make the best of any relationship's most important moment: those first 90 seconds.

Never again let shyness get in the way of an appointment or interview. Or leave the making of an important contact to chance. Or find yourself tongue-tied or distracted in social situations. The key, according to Boothman and his plan for face-to-face communication, is simple: the way to make a person like you is to make yourself be like that person, if only for the 90 seconds or less it takes to establish rapport. Learn the power of a Really Useful Attitude, the secrets of voice tone and body language, the difference between "opening up" words and "closing down" words. And reinforcing all of these skills is knowing how to read another person's sensory preference; most of us are Visual people, some are Kinesthetic, and a few are Auditory. So when you say, "I see what you mean" to a Visual, you're really speaking his or her language. And then you're on your way.

©2000 Nicholas Boothman (P)2001 Listen & Live Audio, Inc.

Critic reviews

"Boothman enthusiastically shares strategies for establishing rapport, building interpersonal relationships, gaining a competitive edge, and making favorable impressions." (Booklist)

Short and Interesting

This audio book is short, interesting and offers practical insight regarding how we communicate and the nuisances involved. I enjoyed Boothman's book.

Good examples

This was a good follow up to "Instant Rapport", which was a bit too short for me.

Great little book

Would you consider the audio edition of How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less to be better than the print version?

Different media, I find it difficult to compare. The audio book is excellent.

What about Nicholas Boothman’s performance did you like?

Clear and easy to listen to.

What did you learn from How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less that you would use in your daily life?

Learning to pick up on people's sensory preferences and speak to them using those preferences.

Any additional comments?

A really worthwhile book.

BEST book on connecting EVER

This book will truly change your life! It can take a person with little to no people skills, and by reading this book, applying the lessons and techniques, and become an amazing connector!

I own a few companies, that require a lot of networking, this book has elevated my skills to such a level that connecting with others is fun now!

Would recommend to any and all who want to build trust faster, connect better and enhance their lives with other!

It give great insight into the way we unconsciously interact with others.

First, I love the narrator's accent. But what I enjoyed most was the information given in the book. I feel more empowered in how I can better deal with others and I'm anxious to implement what I've learned in my everyday interactions. Being an introvert, I've never been one to want to mirror or synchronize with others. I always felt, "you either like me or you don't. I won't be something I'm not, just to be accepted." But I now understand that "synching" with others isn't being fake, it's putting others at ease during the initial interaction between you and that's a great place to start.

Some good advice but don't expect too much.

Boothman does a good job reading his book and he presents his ideas in a well thought out and easily understandable way. He definitely has some good ideas and give some good techniques to increase your likeability. They are, however, only techniques. If you think you can learn a few techniques to instantly 'make people like you' I think you will be a little disappointed. The book is worth a listen but don't expect it to be a magic wand that will turn you into a likeable person that everyone loves. I believe to truly improve yourself you have to start from the inside out. Do the hard work of actually becoming the best person you can be, someone with honesty, integrity, compassion, forgiveness, love, etc. You will then be someone that naturally draws people to you; you become naturally likeable and will no longer need techniques to 'make' people like you.

Wonderful

Great audio book. I usually do not like books read by the author this guy is fantastic narrator but the information in the book is also vital and useful. Well presented

Great book, short sharp and VERY useful

Would you listen to How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less again? Why?

I really enjoyed the book. it was written vividly, read very well and really effectively and efficiently gave me new tools AND they work..

I have listened to it twice and it helps to absorb what you started practicing...
REALLY GOOD :)

What’s an idea from the book that you will remember?

ask more questions about other people

Eyes opener

Really opened my eyes to things i have never though of!!

How to understand people is hard at times but really really fun to do!!

Fantastic for interviews, presentations, clients..

Would you listen to How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less again? Why?

Yes. It's a perfect compliment to "charisma myth". Applicable for anyone dealing with the public, interviewing, presenting, or meeting new clients.