As a teenager and young man, Justin Lee felt deeply torn. Nicknamed "God Boy" by his peers, he knew that he was called to a life in the evangelical Christian ministry. But Lee harbored a secret: He also knew that he was gay. In this groundbreaking book, Lee recalls the events - his coming out to his parents, his experiences with the "ex-gay" movement, and his in-depth study of the Bible - that led him, eventually, to self-acceptance.
But more than just a memoir, Torn provides insightful, practical guidance for all committed Christians who wonder how to relate to gay friends or family members - or who struggle with their own sexuality. Convinced that "in a culture that sees gays and Christians as enemies, gay Christians are in a unique position to bring peace," Lee demonstrates that people of faith on both sides of the debate can respect, learn from, and love one another.
©2012 Justin Lee (P)2013 Hachette Audio
i loved it.. this book really helps not only straight but gays that are struggling with their attractions and as the author it can go both ways but i choose to be as christ like and loving as possible and not blame either party.
As a man that's always been torn between these two worlds, Lee's book gives me both hope and a voice. This is something I've always wanted to explain to my fellow Christian, as well as, my fellow LGBT community members, but could never formulate the ideas into words. Justin does it very well.
I was looking for information that would help me be able to understand and support my teenage gay daughter.
I am so dreading the prejudice and heartache she will encounter as she lives her adult life as an openly gay woman.
While I still don't have all the answers, this book has given me so much hope, peace, and has made me feel more confident about standing up for my daughter in front of people who will unavoidably judge her.
Thank you, Justin for this book.
A good friend of mine came out to his family last week. He is in his late 20's. He was raised in a family that is very strongly Christian. His Dad told him that he is no longer allowed in their home, the house he was raised in. I'm so sad for him because of this. I couldn't imagine hearing a parent say this to me. He asked me to read this book and tell him what I thought of it before he gives it to his parents to read. Justin's story so closely resembles what he is going through. I just hope that his parents take the time to read this book and change their attitudes toward their son.
I just find it incredibly sad that good people like Justin Lee have to research so much in order to try and justify themselves...they do not need justification, they are being who they were created to be, they are fearfully and wonderfully made...same as anyone else. It is sad that Christians need to be reminded of some basic facts like: love one another, unconditional love, judge not...even if they disagree...oh, and that I love them but hate the sin thing disagreeing Christians always say...well, that is seen as a hateful statement right there except by themselves and others equally blind to their own sin.
This is not only a great comprehensive treatment of the issue of the need to re-think what it means to be gay and Christian, but also makes some poignant spot-on observations about the church in general. This is a game changer, life altering read!
Long commutes need something to remove the boredom! Love history, mysteries/thrillers, scifi and bios, but read a little bit of everything.
This is a great book from a man, Justin Lee, who was born Gay and is a Christ-Follower. He writes about his life to where he is today, Founder and Head of the Gay Christian Network. What I like most about the book is how he talks about his experience of the tension Christians have when dealing with LGBT community, who more often than not, act in a condemning rather the graceful way to those people. He describes both what he experienced but also the tension he felt as he tried to resolve his understanding of being Gay and what that meant in light of his Christian beliefs.
Being a Christ-follower myself and "straight", I saw some of myself in both the bad and good responses to the LGBT community. I disagree with his theological position, but understand how he got there. What I most like is how he is trying to break down the walls between the Church and the LGBT community so that we can actually talk to each other without throwing condemnation or angry words around.
No matter what side of the conversation you are on, this book is well worth the read/listen.
Although I disagree with viewpoint Justin provides on same-sex committed relationships, it is refreshing to hear an earnest struggle to maintain himself and not give up on God. Justin convicts us to treat the LGBT community with more love and grace and encourages us that more will see the kingdom of God because of it. This book was difficult for me to listen to at certain points because of the theological evidence I have concerning this issue but it is no doubt that Justin is concerned not only with the LGBT community but with Christians as well. By reading this book, I have been convicted by the Holy Spirit in many ways to be more understanding, loving, and accepting of the gay community, even though my "Side B" ness never went away. ;)
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