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The Tender Bar: A Memoir | [J.R. Moehringer]

The Tender Bar: A Memoir

Torn between the stirring example of his mother and the lurid romance of the bar, J.R. tried to forge a self somewhere in the center. But when it was time for J.R. to leave home, the bar became an increasingly seductive sanctuary, a place to return and regroup during his picaresque journeys. Time and again, the bar offered shelter from failure, rejection, heartbreak, and eventually from reality.
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Publisher's Summary

J.R. Moehringer grew up captivated by a voice. It was the voice of his father, a New York City disc jockey who vanished before J.R. spoke his first word. Sitting on the stoop, pressing an ear to the radio, J.R. would strain to hear in that plumy baritone the secrets of masculinity and identity. Though J.R.'s mother was his world, his rock, he craved something more, something faintly and hauntingly audible only in The Voice.

At eight years old, suddenly unable to find The Voice on the radio, J.R. turned in desperation to the bar on the corner, where he found a rousing chorus of new voices. Cops, bookies, soldiers, and stumblebums, all sorts of men gathered in the bar to tell their stories and forget their cares. The alphas along the bar, including J.R.'s uncle Charlie, a Humphrey Bogart look-alike; Colt, a Yogi Bear sound-alike and Joey D, a soft-hearted brawler, took J.R. to the beach, to ballgames, and ultimately into their circle. They taught J.R., tended him, and provided a kind of fatherhood-by-committee.

Torn between the stirring example of his mother and the lurid romance of the bar, J.R. tried to forge a self somewhere in the center. But when it was time for J.R. to leave home, the bar became an increasingly seductive sanctuary, a place to return and regroup during his picaresque journeys. Time and again, the bar offered shelter from failure, rejection, heartbreak, and eventually from reality.

In the grand tradition of landmark memoirs, The Tender Bar is suspenseful, wrenching, and achingly funny. A classic American story of self-invention and escape, of the fierce love between a single mother and an only son, it's also a moving portrait of one boy's struggle to become a man, and an unforgettable depiction of how men remain, at heart, lost boys.

©2005 J.R. Moehringer; (P)2005 Hyperion

What the Critics Say

  • 2005 Audie Award Winner, Narration by the Author
  • 2005 Audie Award Nominee, Biography/Memoir

"Funny, honest, and insightful." (Booklist)
"[Moehringer's] the best memoirist of his kind since Mary Karr wrote The Liars' Club." (The New York Times)
"In his gimlet-eyed memoir, The Tender Bar, J.R. Moehringer lovingly and affectingly toasts a boyhood spent on a barstool." (Vanity Fair)
"The Tender Bar will make you thirsty for that life: its camaraderie, its hilarity, its seductive, dangerous wisdom." (Richard Russo)

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    Jim E San Jose, CA, USA 09-15-05
    Jim E San Jose, CA, USA 09-15-05
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    "A Good Deal and a Good Deal More"

    "The Tender Bar" is that most elusive item today, a wonderful tale lovingly told. For any guy who has been lost and found this story connects on levels seldom touched today. Alternately plaintive and hard-boiled the story never slows or lessens its grip on us. It is real writing by a real writer. JR as the narrator only makes the listening that much richer carrying the words lovingly on his tongue. This is a 'must have.'

    16 of 16 people found this review helpful
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    Sandra Saint Augustine, FL, United States 11-04-05
    Sandra Saint Augustine, FL, United States 11-04-05 Member Since 2002
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    "This was outstanding, a treasure."

    My only complaint was that it was abridged. One has to wonder about what was omitted. I will probably read the unabridged book, having enjoyed this listen very much.

    5 of 5 people found this review helpful
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    Angela Santa Barbara, US, Canada 03-01-06
    Angela Santa Barbara, US, Canada 03-01-06 Member Since 2005
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    "LOVED IT!"

    This is an incredible story of stuggle and perseverance; from a life of poverty, questionable family members and a bar room full of men to call friends, to incredible success. But it wasn't in spite of those hurdles that he succeeded, it seems that it bas because of them. He writes honestly and with emotion of his failures as well as his achievements. There are plenty of lessons you could take away from this book to be sure, but also, its just a really wonderful, sad, funny, entertaining story about a boy coming of age. Definitely I would recommend.

    4 of 4 people found this review helpful
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    Pamela 5799 regency circle west, Boca Raton, Florida 33496 11-23-08
    Pamela 5799 regency circle west, Boca Raton, Florida 33496 11-23-08 Member Since 2007
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    "The Tender Bar"

    A wonderfully insightful book about one boy's navigation towards adulthood! Listened while driving and the normally exhausting 6 hours passed very pleasantly!

    3 of 3 people found this review helpful
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    Kathleen Branford, CT, USA 11-28-05
    Kathleen Branford, CT, USA 11-28-05 Member Since 2005
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    "beautifully crafted."

    JR has clearly finally "gotten in". This is a beautiful piece that manages to show-case his tremendous skill at crafting a story (albeit true) while sounding like he is just speaking with you (probably helps that he is reading it). In league with "the kite runner", this memoir reaches out and touches your heart without leaving the feeling that you have been forced into an experience like a puppet! I was truly impressed by the author's ability to present very complex characters without conveying any animosity. I truly enjoyed this book!

    3 of 3 people found this review helpful
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    Patricia Finnessy Hanover, PA 04-18-13
    Patricia Finnessy Hanover, PA 04-18-13

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    "I loved this book."
    Would you consider the audio edition of The Tender Bar to be better than the print version?

    Not necessarily


    What did you like best about this story?

    It was so real and true. I loved the characters.


    What does J.R. Moehringer bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?

    It was as if he was actually telling me his story while I was driving to work each day.


    Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

    I looked forward to hearing it on my 40 minute drive to work


    Any additional comments?

    I am looking forward to reading Sutton.

    2 of 2 people found this review helpful
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    Thomas Norfolk, VA, USA 04-15-10
    Thomas Norfolk, VA, USA 04-15-10
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    "Like having a beer with an old friend"

    This book was just a joy to listen to. We listened while we were painting our house, and it was like listening to a friend tell us a story.

    2 of 2 people found this review helpful
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    Elizabeth Bellevue, WA, United States 07-03-14
    Elizabeth Bellevue, WA, United States 07-03-14 Member Since 2007

    A school administrator and avid reader and listener of books. At least an hour of every day is spent in the car, and that's where the bulk of my listening is done. I tend to listen to books on "faster" mode so I can get through more books!

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    "Mostly intriguing"

    Interesting memoir of a man and his bar. Moehringer shares his upbringing and the influence of the local bar on his life, the examples (both positive and negative) that were offered there, the encouragement and discouragement he received, and his longing for belonging. It certainly offered an interesting social commentary about the sense of belonging in our society and it encourages me to think about where we might find that outside of a bar.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
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    Jennifer H. Abraham Minnetonka MN 01-29-14
    Jennifer H. Abraham Minnetonka MN 01-29-14 Member Since 2011

    Jenn

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    Would you listen to The Tender Bar again? Why?

    Yes - I love JR Moehringer's writing. Didn't realize before I listened to this book that he co-wrote Andre Agassi's memoir, which I also enjoyed so much.


    What other book might you compare The Tender Bar to and why?

    I just love memoirs - they comprise 90% of the books I read and listen to. This book is among my favorites. I listened to Patti Smith's "Just Kids" just previous to this one and I thought they were both so fantastic.


    Have you listened to any of J.R. Moehringer’s other performances before? How does this one compare?

    No - but he's great. I often look for books that are read by the author - makes such a difference.


    Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

    OMG - I laughed and cried. I just loved the descriptions of the men at the bar and the loving portrayal of Moehringer's relationship to his mom. Very very touching, so thoughtful and sometimes hilariously funny.


    Any additional comments?

    I give this one my highest recommendation.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
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    Prashant Yorktown, VA, United States 10-22-13
    Prashant Yorktown, VA, United States 10-22-13 Member Since 2012
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    Would you consider the audio edition of The Tender Bar to be better than the print version?

    Yes


    What did you like best about this story?

    It's not an extra ordinary story and yet the author gets you curious about how things are going to end up for little JR.


    What about J.R. Moehringer’s performance did you like?

    Excellent performance.


    Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

    Oh yes.


    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
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