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The Tender Bar: A Memoir | [J.R. Moehringer]

The Tender Bar: A Memoir

Torn between the stirring example of his mother and the lurid romance of the bar, J.R. tried to forge a self somewhere in the center. But when it was time for J.R. to leave home, the bar became an increasingly seductive sanctuary, a place to return and regroup during his picaresque journeys. Time and again, the bar offered shelter from failure, rejection, heartbreak, and eventually from reality.
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Publisher's Summary

J.R. Moehringer grew up captivated by a voice. It was the voice of his father, a New York City disc jockey who vanished before J.R. spoke his first word. Sitting on the stoop, pressing an ear to the radio, J.R. would strain to hear in that plumy baritone the secrets of masculinity and identity. Though J.R.'s mother was his world, his rock, he craved something more, something faintly and hauntingly audible only in The Voice.

At eight years old, suddenly unable to find The Voice on the radio, J.R. turned in desperation to the bar on the corner, where he found a rousing chorus of new voices. Cops, bookies, soldiers, and stumblebums, all sorts of men gathered in the bar to tell their stories and forget their cares. The alphas along the bar, including J.R.'s uncle Charlie, a Humphrey Bogart look-alike; Colt, a Yogi Bear sound-alike and Joey D, a soft-hearted brawler, took J.R. to the beach, to ballgames, and ultimately into their circle. They taught J.R., tended him, and provided a kind of fatherhood-by-committee.

Torn between the stirring example of his mother and the lurid romance of the bar, J.R. tried to forge a self somewhere in the center. But when it was time for J.R. to leave home, the bar became an increasingly seductive sanctuary, a place to return and regroup during his picaresque journeys. Time and again, the bar offered shelter from failure, rejection, heartbreak, and eventually from reality.

In the grand tradition of landmark memoirs, The Tender Bar is suspenseful, wrenching, and achingly funny. A classic American story of self-invention and escape, of the fierce love between a single mother and an only son, it's also a moving portrait of one boy's struggle to become a man, and an unforgettable depiction of how men remain, at heart, lost boys.

©2005 J.R. Moehringer; (P)2005 Hyperion

What the Critics Say

  • 2005 Audie Award Winner, Narration by the Author
  • 2005 Audie Award Nominee, Biography/Memoir

"Funny, honest, and insightful." (Booklist)
"[Moehringer's] the best memoirist of his kind since Mary Karr wrote The Liars' Club." (The New York Times)
"In his gimlet-eyed memoir, The Tender Bar, J.R. Moehringer lovingly and affectingly toasts a boyhood spent on a barstool." (Vanity Fair)
"The Tender Bar will make you thirsty for that life: its camaraderie, its hilarity, its seductive, dangerous wisdom." (Richard Russo)

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    Prashant Yorktown, VA, United States 10-22-13
    Prashant Yorktown, VA, United States 10-22-13 Member Since 2013
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    Would you consider the audio edition of The Tender Bar to be better than the print version?

    Yes


    What did you like best about this story?

    It's not an extra ordinary story and yet the author gets you curious about how things are going to end up for little JR.


    What about J.R. Moehringer’s performance did you like?

    Excellent performance.


    Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

    Oh yes.


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    keith Howell, Michigan, United States 07-12-13
    keith Howell, Michigan, United States 07-12-13 Member Since 2012
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    "A Great Memoir"
    Would you consider the audio edition of The Tender Bar to be better than the print version?

    Great Recommendation


    Which character – as performed by J.R. Moehringer – was your favorite?

    Uncle Eddie


    Any additional comments?

    This book was recommended to me by and friend and Im glad he did. A very well written and narrated book that was simple but compelling. I was really bummed when it was over. What was really interesting was all of the people that came into JR's life that seemed to pave the way to his path to becoming a terrific writer.

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    Carolyn Zahnow 12-24-12

    I listen to audio books on my M-F 40 minute commute into Raleigh NC. I am the founder of The Shore Grief Center, a nonprofit.

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    "Excellent voice!"
    Is there anything you would change about this book?

    It's a memoir so nothing to change.


    Would you recommend The Tender Bar to your friends? Why or why not?

    Not really. It's not a very unique nor exciting story.


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    Holly San Juan Capistrano, CA, United States 08-21-12
    Holly San Juan Capistrano, CA, United States 08-21-12 Member Since 2011
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    "One of my favorite all time reads!"
    Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

    Absolutely


    Who was your favorite character and why?

    JR of course


    What about J.R. Moehringer’s performance did you like?

    He offers a very authentic performance as he tells his own story.


    Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

    This is a beautiful memoir filled with a cast of rich and interesting real life characters. I laughed and cried many times throughout the story. Even though I initially read it when it was first released, I enjoyed it every bit as much, listening to it on audio.


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    Marilyn Oakland, CA, United States 06-05-12
    Marilyn Oakland, CA, United States 06-05-12 Member Since 2011
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    "Loved This Sweet Story"

    This one felt like a poem to me. A sweet little gem. I loved the tone and the feel of the story. It really transported me. And the use of the background music really added to the overall experience. Kudos to Mr. Moehringer as both the author and narrator of this terrific book.

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    Suzan United States 03-11-12
    Suzan United States 03-11-12 Member Since 2011

    I like crafts, gardening, reading and camping.

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    "Just a Good Story"

    This was very different from what I like to read/listen to - Mysteries and Thrillers - but I enjoy the story of a boy becoming a man. If anyone can recommend anything else like it let me know.

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    Melissa Dayton, OH, United States 03-03-11
    Melissa Dayton, OH, United States 03-03-11 Member Since 2010

    Counselor with eclectic taste, I enjoy all types of fiction, dark, strange and twisted things, humor and explicitly.

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    "Pleasant, just not excellent"

    This is a pleasant listen, I liked the narration. I was a little disappointed in the content and felt it was lacking and a bit miss leading; endearing none the less. What I must say is that it was not what I expected based on the reviews and descriptions. What I did like was that it was a smooth and enjoyable listen, if you like memoirs I recommend it.

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