At eight years old, suddenly unable to find The Voice on the radio, J.R. turned in desperation to the bar on the corner, where he found a rousing chorus of new voices. Cops, bookies, soldiers, and stumblebums, all sorts of men gathered in the bar to tell their stories and forget their cares. The alphas along the bar, including J.R.'s uncle Charlie, a Humphrey Bogart look-alike; Colt, a Yogi Bear sound-alike and Joey D, a soft-hearted brawler, took J.R. to the beach, to ballgames, and ultimately into their circle. They taught J.R., tended him, and provided a kind of fatherhood-by-committee.
Torn between the stirring example of his mother and the lurid romance of the bar, J.R. tried to forge a self somewhere in the center. But when it was time for J.R. to leave home, the bar became an increasingly seductive sanctuary, a place to return and regroup during his picaresque journeys. Time and again, the bar offered shelter from failure, rejection, heartbreak, and eventually from reality.
In the grand tradition of landmark memoirs, The Tender Bar is suspenseful, wrenching, and achingly funny. A classic American story of self-invention and escape, of the fierce love between a single mother and an only son, it's also a moving portrait of one boy's struggle to become a man, and an unforgettable depiction of how men remain, at heart, lost boys.
©2005 J.R. Moehringer; (P)2005 Hyperion
"Funny, honest, and insightful." (Booklist)
"[Moehringer's] the best memoirist of his kind since Mary Karr wrote The Liars' Club." (The New York Times)
"In his gimlet-eyed memoir, The Tender Bar, J.R. Moehringer lovingly and affectingly toasts a boyhood spent on a barstool." (Vanity Fair)
"The Tender Bar will make you thirsty for that life: its camaraderie, its hilarity, its seductive, dangerous wisdom." (Richard Russo)
Very insightful and interesting story of a young boy growing up without a father. I really enjoyed his style of writing and all of the bar stories.
When he spend the night at Sydney's house - you realize he's in for a complicated journey
No, I have not.
Excellent read, great format.
A school administrator and avid reader and listener of books. At least an hour of every day is spent in the car, and that's where the bulk of my listening is done. I tend to listen to books on "faster" mode so I can get through more books!
Interesting memoir of a man and his bar. Moehringer shares his upbringing and the influence of the local bar on his life, the examples (both positive and negative) that were offered there, the encouragement and discouragement he received, and his longing for belonging. It certainly offered an interesting social commentary about the sense of belonging in our society and it encourages me to think about where we might find that outside of a bar.
Yes - I love JR Moehringer's writing. Didn't realize before I listened to this book that he co-wrote Andre Agassi's memoir, which I also enjoyed so much.
I just love memoirs - they comprise 90% of the books I read and listen to. This book is among my favorites. I listened to Patti Smith's "Just Kids" just previous to this one and I thought they were both so fantastic.
No - but he's great. I often look for books that are read by the author - makes such a difference.
OMG - I laughed and cried. I just loved the descriptions of the men at the bar and the loving portrayal of Moehringer's relationship to his mom. Very very touching, so thoughtful and sometimes hilariously funny.
I give this one my highest recommendation.
It's not an extra ordinary story and yet the author gets you curious about how things are going to end up for little JR.
This book was recommended to me by and friend and Im glad he did. A very well written and narrated book that was simple but compelling. I was really bummed when it was over. What was really interesting was all of the people that came into JR's life that seemed to pave the way to his path to becoming a terrific writer.
JR of course
He offers a very authentic performance as he tells his own story.
This is a beautiful memoir filled with a cast of rich and interesting real life characters. I laughed and cried many times throughout the story. Even though I initially read it when it was first released, I enjoyed it every bit as much, listening to it on audio.
This one felt like a poem to me. A sweet little gem. I loved the tone and the feel of the story. It really transported me. And the use of the background music really added to the overall experience. Kudos to Mr. Moehringer as both the author and narrator of this terrific book.
I like crafts, gardening, reading and camping.
This was very different from what I like to read/listen to - Mysteries and Thrillers - but I enjoy the story of a boy becoming a man. If anyone can recommend anything else like it let me know.
Counselor with eclectic taste, I enjoy all types of fiction, dark, strange and twisted things, humor and explicitly.
This is a pleasant listen, I liked the narration. I was a little disappointed in the content and felt it was lacking and a bit miss leading; endearing none the less. What I must say is that it was not what I expected based on the reviews and descriptions. What I did like was that it was a smooth and enjoyable listen, if you like memoirs I recommend it.
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