To make an open marriage work, Franklin and Celeste knew they needed to make sure no one else ever came between them. That meant there had to be rules. No overnights, no falling in love, and either one of them could ask the other to end an outside relationship if it became too much to deal with. It worked for nearly two decades, and their relentless focus on their own relationship let them turn a blind eye to the emotional wreckage they were leaving behind them.
The rules did not prepare them for Amber.
"I have a question," Amber would say. And whatever came next would send a wrecking ball through Franklin and Celeste's comforting illusions. Amber was the first of Franklin s polyamorous secondary partners to insist on being treated like a person, and the first to peel back the layers of insecurity and fear that surrounded their relationship. Amber was a game changer.
A game-changing relationship is one that uproots and redirects your life. It overthrows your assumptions about who you are and why. It awakens you to possibilities you'd never conceived of. It disrupts. And it is the unspoken elephant in the attractive showroom of polyamorous relationships.
This book is the true story of a game-changing relationship that changed not only Franklin and Celeste's lives, but the face of the modern polyamory movement.
A game-changing relationship can happen to anyone. How will you handle it when it happens to you?
©2015 Franklin Veaux (P)2015 Thorntree Press
This is one tough book to read. I cringed as it reminded me of painful episodes in my own life. Yet the book is one amazing story. It makes me wonder a lot more about my own terms and how I want to live my life.
As much as I enjoyed More Than Two, it often read like a textbook for new polys. That's not a bad thing, of course. But, it was awesome to hear a story that was 100% from the lived experience of the author. I'm biased in that I learn more from real occurrences (my own and that of others) than theory. Either way, this book is incredibly valuable and should be recommended to anyone who insists on having rules-based polyamory. In some cases, rules can be important to enforce personal boundaries. In other cases, rules are just used to hide away from insecurities and fears you never intend on confronting or processing through.
For me, this book did two things. First, it explains many of Veaux's thoughts on polyamory and the importance of respecting the secondary partner(s). I had read many pages of his website, and had some intellectual understanding of his ideas. It was nice to get a fuller, in-depth examination of what led to those ideas, and how things could play out in real life.
Next, the book may inform my own relationships and my expectations as a secondary partner. I'm not yet sure how these issues might play out in my own life. However, this book has given me a great deal to think about. On one hand, it makes sense to me that my partner's marriage should take priority over my more casual relationship with my partner. OTOH, my needs and opinions matter too, right? Hmm.
Read and enjoyed this author's practical book: More Than Two. This honest and intimate look into the author's life is grounding and inspiring for me, and I hope provides similar thoughts and emotions to others. Glad I listened :)
I've read a number of books on open relationships and polyamory over the past year this book has provided me with a more honest and open glimpse into the life and help me further understand my own thoughts and feelings on the subject. Congratulations sir on a great book.
"More Than Two" came out in 2014 and was one of my favorite books for 2015, so perhaps I came to The Game Changer expecting too much and a bit too optimistic. I was hoping that it would cover more about the nature of game-changing relationships in general. Instead, it was a fairly straightforward memoir. It filled in background biography which Franklin Veaux had mentioned in More Than Two, but on the whole was uninteresting. Privileged forty-something men are, for the most part, fairly dull. A pleasant book, and pleasantly short: Background material for poly nerds, and not of general interest.
The only problem I had was at 2h:12min part the reader loses track repeats and literally coughs (?!) on the audio track?!
Please edit that out. It makes it a very difficult section to follow the story.
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