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The Commitment Audiobook

The Commitment: Love, Sex, Marriage, and My Family

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Publisher's Summary

In a time when much of the country sees red whenever the subject of gay marriage comes up, Dan Savage—outspoken author of the column Savage Love—makes it personal.

Dan Savage’s mother wants him to get married. His boyfriend, Terry, says “no thanks” because he doesn’t want to act like a straight person. Their six-year-old son, D.J., says his two dads aren’t “allowed” to get married but that he’d like to come to the reception and eat cake. Throw into the mix Dan’s straight siblings, whose varied choices form a microcosm of how Americans are approaching marriage these days, and you get a rollicking family memoir that will have everyone—gay or straight, right or left, single or married—howling with laughter and rethinking their notions of marriage and all it entails.

©2005 Dan Savage (P)2011 Blackstone Audio, Inc.

What the Critics Say

“The strongest argument here, which [Savage] brilliantly plays down, is that family means everything to these people: married, not married, blended, gay, straight, whatever.” (Washington Post)

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    Michelle Thunder Bay, Ontario, Canada 09-21-11
    Michelle Thunder Bay, Ontario, Canada 09-21-11
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    "Amusing, but missed Dan's voice"

    A very funny, honest accounting of a little slice of Dan Savage's life. I enjoyed it a lot, but missed Dan's characteristic voice. I know he's busy these days, but I would have liked to have him read this himself.

    11 of 13 people found this review helpful
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    Carla Burnaby, British Columbia, Canada 10-24-12
    Carla Burnaby, British Columbia, Canada 10-24-12 Member Since 2015
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    "Entertaining, but not life changing"

    I like Dan Savage, so I enjoyed the book and found it entertaining. I could see that some might find it a bit preachy. My main gripe is that Dan didn't read the book himself. The narrator did a fine job, but didn't sound anything like Dan which was just strange to listen to.

    4 of 5 people found this review helpful
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    Nichole 01-13-16
    Nichole 01-13-16 Member Since 2013
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    "Always a good listen"

    I missed Dans voice but still enjoyed the book. As always his books are funny, smart, and incredibly entertaining.

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
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    Christopher 09-19-15
    Christopher 09-19-15 Member Since 2015
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    "Good book; prefer a Savage narration"

    I enjoyed the book as I have all of Dan's books, but this is the only one I heard with a different narrator. The characters (Dan's family members) come across much differently in his voice.

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
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    Brittany 05-31-15
    Brittany 05-31-15 Member Since 2013
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    "Thought provoking for anyone thinking of marriage"

    Whether you're gay or straight (or somewhere in between) this book is a good read for an objective look at what it means to be married from someone who isn't allowed.

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
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    Briana Melissa Ford Lewisville, TX 04-08-14
    Briana Melissa Ford Lewisville, TX 04-08-14 Member Since 2015

    Book nerd for life!

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    "Hilarious and Thought Provoking"

    I bought this audiobook back in 2012 but just now listened to it. I had no idea what to expect, and I think it actually worked out better that way. Dan Savage wrote about his partner Terry, his son DJ, his loving family, and how marriage does and doesn't work for some couples. His commentary was hilarious, and his conversations with others (mainly his family members) about marriage made great points, for both, straight and same-sex couples. The narrator, Paul Michael Garcia, made the audiobook even more enjoyable. I'm glad I got it and glad I read it. Recommended for anyone who isn't too serious, as I can see some of Dan's writing rubbing the far right the wrong way (especially DJ's opinion of George W. Bush haha)

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
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    Christine Orrey 12-02-16 Member Since 2013
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    "Laugh Out Loud Funny!"

    What a joy this book was! The trip down gay-civil-rights-memory-lane, the touching moments amongst family, the hilarious exchanges between Dan and Terry and their son, DJ....Dan Savage wrote a gem for anyone with an interest in marriage, gay or straight. And the narrator was superb. Nailed DJ's quips, Terry's sarcasm, and Dan's wit. Loved it!!!!

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    V Helmbreck Mascitti Delaware USA 09-17-16
    V Helmbreck Mascitti Delaware USA 09-17-16 Member Since 2014
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    "Miss Dan's voice, love his message"

    Always enjoy Dan's writing. His honesty and reason are clear and refreshing. He writes in a conversational style that's well suited to audio books. I missed hearing him read this important book. Anyone - gay or straight-- should read what he writes here about the idea of commitment. I'd like to read an update of this book now that marriage equality is the law of the land in these United States. Did Dan and Terry take out those platinum bands and family porcelain cake toppers? Does DJ have fond memories of the Canadian nuptials? Did Dan's sister ever marry her son's dad? Does Terry still wear a speedo? So many questions. So few savage books....

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    Raleen 07-07-16
    Raleen 07-07-16 Member Since 2016
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    "LOVE HIM"
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    Dan Savage has always been one of my favorite authors. podcaster, columnist, and advocates.. He has a way with words and a very direct approach.. I would definitely recommend this and any of his other books!

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    Marian Parksville, BC, Canada 06-23-16
    Marian Parksville, BC, Canada 06-23-16 Member Since 2012
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    "Marriage: an anti-climatic event!"

    This memoir was at times very entertaining, but too often lapsed into repetitive lecturing. I am straight, but I wouldn't have chosen this book if I disagreed with gay marriage. So on a number of occasions I felt like protesting, "you're preaching to the choir here!" But, all in all, Savage is an engaging writer and storyteller.

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    12/6/14
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    "Entertaining essays"
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    This is much more a sequence of connected essays than a novel or story, centred around Dan Savages and his male partner Terry's plans for a 10 years together celebration.

    There were a few chapters in the middle where the serious overtook the fun and non US readers may find the references to various political names a little glazing, but for the most part there is a great deal of humour and a lot of insight into being gay in the US and into getting married.

    At the time of writing (2004) the US legislature at least, in many, perhaps most of its states regarded homosexuals as second class citizens, and that is probably being generous. I don't know how much has changed there. This is one of those books that would really benefit from a few minutes of appendix at the end with an "update" from the author. Perhaps Audible could note that this sort of "add-on" could be a much more realistic feature in the online downloadable world they trade in.

    Well worth the read. If you are in Western Europe, it will certainly leave you wondering why the US thinks of itself as the land of the free, at least for some 10% of if citizens!

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
  • markj
    12/5/14
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    "A great insight into gay parenting!"
    What was the most interesting aspect of this story? The least interesting?

    This is a book of three parts. The first is a bit dull, outlining the circumstances of Savage's life leading up to the 'big question' after ten years with his partner: Should we marry? The vignettes about Savage's family aren't hugely interesting, but they're valuable for context. The middle section is Savage talking about the 'gay marriage debate' in the US, and is interesting as it shows the fire in his argument, and the final section - the most entertaining - tells us 'what happened next'. All in all, worth reading.


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  • Mrs. REP
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    7/29/12
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    "Brilliant!"

    I'm a huge Dan Savage fan anyway, but I really loved this book. Something to make you think and to make you laugh.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful

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