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The Commitment Audiobook

The Commitment: Love, Sex, Marriage, and My Family

Dan Savage’s mother wants him to get married. His boyfriend, Terry, says “no thanks” because he doesn’t want to act like a straight person. Their six-year-old son, D.J., says his two dads aren’t “allowed” to get married but that he’d like to come to the reception and eat cake. Throw into the mix Dan’s straight siblings, whose varied choices form a microcosm of how Americans are approaching marriage these days, and you get a rollicking family memoir that will have everyone—gay or straight, right or left, single or married—howling with laughter.
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Publisher's Summary

In a time when much of the country sees red whenever the subject of gay marriage comes up, Dan Savage—outspoken author of the column Savage Love—makes it personal.

Dan Savage’s mother wants him to get married. His boyfriend, Terry, says “no thanks” because he doesn’t want to act like a straight person. Their six-year-old son, D.J., says his two dads aren’t “allowed” to get married but that he’d like to come to the reception and eat cake. Throw into the mix Dan’s straight siblings, whose varied choices form a microcosm of how Americans are approaching marriage these days, and you get a rollicking family memoir that will have everyone—gay or straight, right or left, single or married—howling with laughter and rethinking their notions of marriage and all it entails.

©2005 Dan Savage (P)2011 Blackstone Audio, Inc.

What the Critics Say

“The strongest argument here, which [Savage] brilliantly plays down, is that family means everything to these people: married, not married, blended, gay, straight, whatever.” (Washington Post)

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    Rebecca Busselle 02-19-13
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    "Disappointing but useful"

    I am a Dan Savage fan, having read his sex advice column for many years. He offers good information that other writers wouldn't dare publish. And like his columns, this book contains a core of thoughtful history and insights on marriage, gay and straight. I learned from him. But, alas, Savage's personal history and relationship with his husband wasn't one to which I could relate -- a series of argumentative, unpleasant encounters, especially when the two of them were on the road with their son. Since the memoir leads up to the decision of whether to get a tattoo or get married, Savage convinced me that they should have the right to the legal and social benefits of marriage, but I couldn't help feeling that perhaps marriage wasn't best for this couple, a feeling cemented by his description of the ceremony.

    Perhaps my negativity was compounded by the reader, who read slowly and with overly clear diction. I found him unable to convey the narrative voice and humor of the book in the spoken voice.

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    david Saint Louis, MO, United States 02-09-13
    david Saint Louis, MO, United States 02-09-13 Member Since 2013
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    "Heartwarming"

    I enjoyed listening to the snippets of Dan Savage and Terry Miller's perceptual evolution into the idea of marriage. I have considered some of the points mentioned by Dan and Terry and how they relate within the context of my own life. Which I believe is the mark of a good book and good author. Throw in the perfect narrator for the dialog at hand, and you have a mandala of the evolving family that Dan, Terry and D.J. are creating.

    I have listened to the book twice now, and had an even better experience the second time.

    Dan Savage is well known to me for his advice column, and his efforts to stop bullying. I often agree with what he has to say, and this book is just another example of his wit, grasp of social dynamics, solid emotional morality, and his willingness to drag poor Terry into the limelight! (You’re shameless on that one Dan!)

    This book left me with a stronger sense of family (no quotes needed there) and even helped me provide a framework for what exactly I'm trying to achieve with my own marriage.

    Absolutely wonderful book!

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    Kevin 12-24-12
    Kevin 12-24-12
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    "Great Story"
    What did you love best about The Commitment?

    Savage's personal story resonated with my own life story. He is a very funny and serious storyteller.


    What was one of the most memorable moments of The Commitment?

    His interactions with his son.


    Have you listened to any of Paul Michael Garcia’s other performances before? How does this one compare?

    No.


    Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?

    The ending.


    Any additional comments?

    No.

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    Franny B. 12-13-12
    Franny B. 12-13-12
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    "I wish Dan Savage had performed his own book"
    What made the experience of listening to The Commitment the most enjoyable?

    Laughter, tears, empathy, sympathy, deep thoughts.


    What was one of the most memorable moments of The Commitment?

    So many great moments - stories well told.


    How did the narrator detract from the book?

    Overly affected reading


    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
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    v. ericsen san anselmo, ca United States 10-07-12
    v. ericsen san anselmo, ca United States 10-07-12 Member Since 2012
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    "I love Dan Savage! Great book! thank you!"
    Where does The Commitment rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

    This is a tribute to love. As I see it anyone could benefit from listening to a successful person in relationship speaking from the heart and being humorous along the way.


    What did you like best about this story?

    the authentic way of writing that Dan does so well


    Have you listened to any of Paul Michael Garcia’s other performances before? How does this one compare?

    no


    1 of 2 people found this review helpful
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    Emily MINNEAPOLIS, MN, United States 11-22-11
    Emily MINNEAPOLIS, MN, United States 11-22-11
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    "Wish it was narrated by the author, but very good"

    I far prefer hearing Dan Savage in his own voice. I recognized pieces of this book from This American Life pieces, and I just really prefer the author's voice to the narrator. But the book was entertaining, funny, and heartwarming. Great story of a family and a realtionship.

    2 of 4 people found this review helpful
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    Science Teacher 01-14-13

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    "Outdated"

    This book is outdated. Dan Savage and his "boyfriend" got married in Seattle last month on the day same-sex marriage became legal.

    By the way, this book has one of the worst first chapters I have ever read/listened to. It is so unpleasant to begin with an extended complaint about his "boyfriend's" faults.

    1 of 3 people found this review helpful
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    Derek LOVES PARK, IL, United States 03-27-12
    Derek LOVES PARK, IL, United States 03-27-12 Member Since 2014
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    "Entertaining and Touching"
    If you could sum up The Commitment in three words, what would they be?

    Favorite of mine.


    What other book might you compare The Commitment to and why?

    Pretty much any of Dan's other books. His signature wit and sense of humor are all over this one.


    Have you listened to any of Paul Michael Garcia’s other performances before? How does this one compare?

    No I have not, but I liked this performance a lot. It would have been nice to have heard Dan read it, but this performance was very well done.


    Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

    A lot of laughs. I don't know how many times I actually laughed out loud at this audiobook... Too many times to count. A lot of the stories are very touching too.


    1 of 3 people found this review helpful
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    Althea Guildford, NSW, Australia 04-20-13
    Althea Guildford, NSW, Australia 04-20-13

    I'm an illustrator/concept artist currently living about an hour away from town via public transport. During these times, audiobooks, radioplays and podcasts are my best friends.

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    "Have your cake and eat it too"

    Being a regular listener to Savage Love, it was unusual to hear Dan's words spoken by someone else but I grew accustomed to it quickly. It was very nice to know Dan and his family better; where some of his famous ideas and values come from. It is as consistently entertaining as his work on SLOG and the podcast.

    I regret absolutely nothing from purchasing this audiobook... except for maybe the fact that I now have a strong craving for cake. Thanks Dan.

    0 of 1 people found this review helpful

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