©2007 Irene Spencer; (P)2007 Tantor
"Engrossing....An intense story." (Kirkus)
"Nothing short of astonishing....Emotional and shocking." (Publishers Weekly)
For anyone interested in a polygamist's perspective, this is the go-to-book. It was interesting to hear the experiences, feelings, and emotions of Irene Spencer. For goodness sake, she eventually ended up having over 7 sister wives! To hear her describe her jealousy about sharing her husband was expected. I'm not sure what woman would genuinely not hold jealous feelings when being in a plural marriage. However, as she explained her first relationship - which was monogamous and how some in the Mormon community (not inluding her mother) manipulated her several times into absolving that relationship was terribly unfortunate. I could not imagine being in her shoes - however, she does a good job at explaining what it was like if I were. It is best to listen to this with an open mind - very open.
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Anti-climatic, but it is a 'true' story.
This was an interesting read about a religious practice/culture I do not believe is Biblical. However, I have a bit more insight and understanding why young women feel they are supposed to live this lifestyle.
Karen of Northern Michigan
Once again, I'm fascinated by the whole polygamy world. I can't imagine living through this. Irene Spencer gives a great account of what her childhood was like, why she believed in polygamy and how she ended up giving up true love to live a life as a polygamist wife. Her story is like many others I've listened to, one of having to deal with a husband that didn't love or respect her, sister wives whom she didn't get along with and having one child after another, while living in poverty and having no rights to speak of. The narrated, Laural Merlington, did a great job. Although my stomach turned and I felt anger at what she endured, I'm glad I listened to her story.. For those who think a woman would only put up with this kind of abuse because they're drama queens or because they "deserve it", after listening to her story, you will hopefully have a better understanding of how some religious communities can brainwash people into believing they must put up with these situations in order to be accepted in heaven.. sad, and amazing, all at the same time.
I cannot begin to tell you how fascinating and puzzling polygamy is. I was wrought with curiousity throughout the whole book and was of course in awe of the lifestyle as many others are when learning about their culture. It is a side of society that people still know very little about.
I can't imagine even with all the details of this woman's life how difficult it must have been to be born into this culture. Unfortunately, her focus on the undying sacrifices and un-ending pain and suffering associated with her lifestyle quickly became redundant. The entire book felt like a poor me memoir and although it sounds impossible, she had many many opportunities to leave that life, which she eventually did towards middle age. It should have been sooner rather than later; but it felt as though she enjoyed the misery, pain and suffering. There comes a point where the details of her unfortunate circumstances go from evoking sympathy from the reader to frustration towards the 12th chapter. If I had a search feature, I could quite honestly count the many times where she starts crying uncontrollably while throwing herself on the bed to about 25-30 times. So much so that she admits into the story how sick her husband was with her constant crying. By the end, you will be sick of her crying too.
Decent story, difficult character to like.
Oh My Goodness
This book was amazing, and I don't use that word loosely...I was with her the entire book. I recommended this book to anyone and plan on reading it several more times.
I'm not sure, I've never read the print version
I really enjoyed the honest and straightforward approach to this book. I'm glad Irene Spencer decided to tell her story.
I did cry a few times. It was a beautiful story, sad at times.
Thank you Irene for giving us this insight into what polygamy is really about with regard to early Mormonism and Fundamentalism. As a long-time Mormon I could really identify with, and certify, the wreckage that results from following the "teachings of men" blindly. This was well-written and well-read by Laural Merlington.
I have no doubt that polygamous marraige lifestyle sets up women to be victims in the name of God, and pits the wives against each other in a competitive and sick way. However, Irene comes across as a whiner because she orchestrates the messes she whines about. Then she seems incredulous about her circumstances. It's difficult to empathize with her. I didn't find her spunky as she tried to get us to believe, but bratty. Read Escape by Carolyn Jessop instead.
Trying to figure out why she was a victim? I am not a member of any form of Mormon church, but grew up in Murray Utah and remember many of the families she speaks of in this book. Even though she had been born into polygamy her mother and family had left and actively discouraged her from following that path. It was her choice to pursue LeBaron and become his 'wife' and then she spends the rest of the book listing on why this was a bad choice. If she had married Glen I wonder if she would have written a book on that bad choice. There are polygamus wives who had little or no choice of who they married or when they married and truly suffer and do without and are treated as little more than property but it seems like LaBaron's first wives had a choice and made it. Kinda like marrying a drunk and then complaining they drink.
This child/woman writes of her decision and commitment to live a life of "principle" and then proceeds to describe her constant dissatisfaction, complaining, crying, whining, sulking, ranting, raging and resentment at everyone about having to do so. This diatribe was so painful to hear that I could barely continue to listen hoping to learn about what I assumed to be an interesting religious practice with a first-person explanation of its application. The former outweighed the latter so intensely that I was left to skim the last quarter of the book, intentionally missing the details of one male's psychotic rampaging power play under the legitimacy of righteous polygamy. Listening to this biography was a thoroughly disappointing experience.
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