In this irresistible memoir, the New York Times best-selling author and winner of the Pulitzer Prize Anna Quindlen writes about looking back and ahead - and celebrating it all - as she considers marriage, girlfriends, our mothers, faith, loss, all the stuff in our closets, and more.
As she did in her beloved New York Times columns, and in A Short Guide to a Happy Life, Quindlen says for us here what we may wish we could have said ourselves. Using her past, present, and future to explore what matters most to women at different ages, Quindlen talks about:
Marriage: “A safety net of small white lies can be the bedrock of a successful marriage. You wouldn’t believe how cheaply I can do a kitchen renovation.”
Girlfriends: “Ask any woman how she makes it through the day, and she may mention her calendar, her to-do lists, her babysitter. But if you push her on how she really makes it through her day, she will mention her girlfriends. Sometimes I will see a photo of an actress in an unflattering dress or a blouse too young for her or with a heavy-handed makeup job, and I mutter, ‘She must not have any girlfriends.’”
Stuff: “Here’s what it comes down to, really: there is now so much stuff in my head, so many years, so many memories, that it’s taken the place of primacy away from the things in the bedrooms, on the porch. My doctor says that, contrary to conventional wisdom, she doesn’t believe our memories flag because of a drop in estrogen but because of how crowded it is in the drawers of our minds. Between the stuff at work and the stuff at home, the appointments and the news and the gossip and the rest, the past and the present and the plans for the future, the filing cabinets in our heads are not only full, they’re overflowing.”
Our bodies: “I’ve finally recognized my body for what it is: a personality-delivery system, designed expressly to carry my character from place to place, now and in the years to come. It’s like a car, and while I like a red convertible or even a Bentley as well as the next person, what I really need are four tires and an engine.”
Parenting: “Being a parent is not transactional. We do not get what we give. It is the ultimate pay-it-forward endeavor: We are good parents not so they will be loving enough to stay with us but so they will be strong enough to leave us.”
From childhood memories to manic motherhood to middle age, Quindlen uses the events of her own life to illuminate our own. Along with the downsides of age, she says, can come wisdom, a perspective on life that makes it satisfying and even joyful. Candid, funny, moving, Lots of Candles, Plenty of Cake is filled with the sharp insights and revealing observations that have long confirmed Quindlen’s status as America’s laureate of real life.
©2012 Anna Quindlen (P)2012 Random House
“A reporter by training, a storyteller at heart, [Quindlen’s] writing is personal, humorous, and thought-provoking.” (Seattle Post-Intelligencer)
“Quindlen is an astonishingly graceful writer.” (San Francisco Examiner)
“Thank goodness for Anna Quindlen. [She] is smart. And compassionate. And witty. And wise.” (Detroit Free-Press)
Yes. I am in my mid fifties and starting to look at life from a diferent perspective. This book is a thought provoking look at mid life from a woman with a bright and positive outlook.
It resonated with where I am in my life right now. It is as if I could have written it myself.
This is my first Anna Quindlan audio book although I have read all her others. She is my favorite author of all time. I don't think this book could have been performed by anyone but her. I really liked hearing it in her voice.
No, because I didn't want it to end!
I have recommended it to all my friends.
Loved this book so much that I got it for several of my girlfriends. She really nailed so many things for women in our age group! I've listened to it twice and just get new gems each time. Job well done!
Lots of Candles, Plenty of Cake was sam excellent audiobook. It kept your interest and was easy to listen too. Although I did not totally agree with some of the subject matter, I thought the audiobook was excellently done and performed. I really like Anna Quindilen's work and presentation that I would highly recommend this to everyone who wants to be informed and spend an enjoyable time listening to her.
Love Anna Quindlen's insightful perspectives across the decades of her life. Being able to identify with her experiences as a woman and mother made the book interesting, enriching, and thought provoking. I liked hearing Anna's stories read aloud in her voice.
Anna became a good friend as I listened to her stories and world-wise wisdom. Almost every word in this book spoke to me. I couldn't help thinking I want to share this book with my friends. Thanks Anna.
Anna Quindlen shares her thoughts on life and on aging. The book is full of wisdom and humour and she reads it so well---I thoroughly enjoyed listening.
I listened to Black and Blue some years ago---this is a very different book as that one was a novel while Plenty of Cake is Quindlen's memoir. While I liked Black and Blue, I think this is by far the better and deeper book.
I highly recommend this audible selection. I'm not usually someone who loves memoirs but I so appreciated Quindlen's thoughtful and intelligent appreciation of life and living.
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