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Bringing Up Bebe: One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom of French Parenting | [Pamela Druckerman]

Bringing Up Bebe: One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom of French Parenting

The secret behind France's astonishingly well-behaved children is here. When American journalist Pamela Druckerman has a baby in Paris, she doesn't aspire to become a "French parent". French parenting isn't a known thing, like French fashion or French cheese. Even French parents themselves insist they aren't doing anything special. But French children are far better behaved and more in command of themselves than American kids....
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The secret behind France's astonishingly well-behaved children is here.

When American journalist Pamela Druckerman has a baby in Paris, she doesn't aspire to become a "French parent". French parenting isn't a known thing, like French fashion or French cheese. Even French parents themselves insist they aren't doing anything special.

Yet the French children Druckerman knows sleep through the night at two or three months old while those of her American friends take a year or more. French kids eat well-rounded meals that are more likely to include braised leeks than chicken nuggets. And while her American friends spend their visits resolving spats between their kids, her French friends sip coffee while the kids play.

Motherhood itself is a whole different experience in France. There's no role model, as there is in America, for the harried new mom with no life of her own. French mothers assume that even good parents aren't at the constant service of their children and that there's no need to feel guilty about this. They have an easy, calm authority with their kids that Druckerman can only envy.

Of course, French parenting wouldn't be worth talking about if it produced robotic, joyless children. In fact, French kids are just as boisterous, curious, and creative as Americans. They're just far better behaved and more in command of themselves. While some American toddlers are getting Mandarin tutors and preliteracy training, French kids are - by design - toddling around and discovering the world at their own pace.

With a notebook stashed in her diaper bag, Druckerman, a former reporter for The Wall Street Journal, sets out to learn the secrets to raising a society of good little sleepers, gourmet eaters, and reasonably relaxed parents. She discovers that French parents are extremely strict about some things and strikingly permissive about others. And she realizes that to be a different kind of parent, you don't just need a different parenting philosophy. You need a very different view of what a child actually is.

While finding her own firm non, Druckerman discovers that children - including her own - are capable of feats she'd never imagined.

©2012 Pamela Druckerman (P)2012 Random House

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    Emily - Audible Maplewood, NJ, United States 04-15-12
    Emily - Audible Maplewood, NJ, United States 04-15-12 Member Since 2008

    As an Audible Editor I listen for a living! British classics, YA novels, speculative fiction, and anything quirky, fascinating, or heart-wrenching.

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    "Inspiring"

    I started listening to Bringing Up Bébé the very same day it came out. Having a “bébé” of my own who is rapidly morphing into a destructive whirl of Tasmanian Devil-style energy, I was immediately sucked in by the title of the opening chapter of Pamela Druckerman’s book: “French Children Don’t Throw Food.” Oh really… I’m listening.

    I’m not sure that there’s any one big Holy Grail of child-rearing here but this book proved to be charming, funny, and VERY informative, and I’ve found it’s been helpful in guiding my thinking about what kinds of values I want to try to instill in my child. Some of these have been surprising. For instance, Druckerman writes that in American households we force “please” and “thank you” down our kids’ throats - convinced that if they can master these two critical mantras of etiquette then they will be society ready. In France they teach this too, but there are two other, even more critical, words: “hello” and “goodbye”. French children don’t slink into the room or run to the TV when their parents' friends are visiting. They look the adult in the eye and say “hello”. The reverse plays out when the visitor leaves. French parents feel that this confers respect – that doing this forces their children to acknowledge the humanity of another person. Listening to this while driving to work I found myself practically fist-pumping. “Yes! I want my daughter to acknowledge the humanity of other people too!” She goes on to point out that much of the hostility that American tourists experience from the French originates from the fact that we don’t say “bonjour” upon getting in a cab or entering a restaurant. Who knew?

    Overall this was a truly enlightening listen, filled with lots of inspiring little tidbits like this. Druckerman is funny and relatable and Abby Craden as the narrator was perfection. I was actually surprised it wasn’t the author reading it because her delivery is so natural and she sounds so connected to the material.

    21 of 21 people found this review helpful
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    kimberly claremont, CA, United States 02-13-12
    kimberly claremont, CA, United States 02-13-12 Member Since 2006
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    I liked it. This book gives a glimpse into the French way of parenting. It turns out there is a lot to admire and emulate. The author did a good job of high-lighting the things that drive me crazy about what a lot of Americans moms tend to do (I'm guilty!), but in a light way. I don't see this book's premise as a another reason to feel bad as parents, though. I look at it as food for thought. Speaking of food, I've been introducing more variety w/ my kids (based on the French way),...voila! it worked!

    20 of 21 people found this review helpful
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    Jessica St Paul, MN, United States 02-24-12
    Jessica St Paul, MN, United States 02-24-12 Member Since 2011
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    "Great book!"

    The premise of this book is an interesting one. I enjoyed the way that Druckerman gave her stats and kind of let the reader take from it what they wanted to. I read on a review on another site where someone said that she raves about parenting in France and bags on American parenting. I didn't find that to be true. It's a good book, I took away a lot of ideas. Abby Craden is a good narrator. I haven't had a lot of experience listening to non fiction, but I will now.

    6 of 6 people found this review helpful
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    John PRINCETON, NJ, United States 03-10-12
    John PRINCETON, NJ, United States 03-10-12
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    "Light and Entertaining"

    I listen to audiobooks when I run or do housework, so I prefer something that is a little light and easy to digest in chunks here and there. This book (and recording) fit the bill.

    If you are a mother who is a little annoyed by all of the hyper-parenting going on around you, then you will enjoy this book. I found some of Druckerman's insights very interesting, especially the part about the French national eating schedule and how this encourages patience.

    The one thing that was annoying to me is when the narrator used a thick French accent when relaying something a French person said. The accent sounded too over-emphasized and fake, like she was over acting. Other than that, a very quick and enjoyable listen.

    4 of 4 people found this review helpful
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    Jessie OAKLAND, CA, United States 03-10-12
    Jessie OAKLAND, CA, United States 03-10-12 Member Since 2004
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    "Great Read! Review From First Time Mom"
    Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

    This book made me laugh. My daughter is 11 months old and I read most of it while juggleing her from place to place. Well written and funny. I gave it to my sisters.


    What did you like best about this story?

    The writer is honest and also adds in a lot of facts about France- I learned a lot along my audio journey.


    What insight do you think you’ll apply from Bringing Up Bebe?

    To moms: trust yourself. You know more than both you and the oober mommy culture think you do.


    Any additional comments?

    This is the first book on parenting I've enjoyed reading... Come to think of it, it's the first book on parenting I've actually managed to finish. This book made me feel both hopeful and amused.

    4 of 4 people found this review helpful
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    Cyndi South Lake Tahoe, CA, United States 03-04-12
    Cyndi South Lake Tahoe, CA, United States 03-04-12
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    "Loved this - and I don't even have children"

    Humerous and sometimes serious account of living in Paris and raising children there. I found it interesting to listen to the differences and want to apply some of the advice for myself (no snacking between meals, but for a planned one in the afternoon). Fun book!

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    Lisa Holland, MI, United States 03-08-13
    Lisa Holland, MI, United States 03-08-13 Member Since 2011
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    "We Aren't All Neurotic New Yorkers"

    The so-called "wisdom" of French parenting in this book is a lot like the good 'ole common sense American parenting that you can find alive and well in the middle of this country, away from New York City and California. Perhaps Ms. Druckerman needs to travel in her own country a bit more - and step outside of her circles that only seem to include rich, privileged, obsessive, neurotic, ineffective helicopter parents. She uses the phrase, "middle-class families" a lot, but most Americans I know can't afford the nannies, camps, vacations, extra classes and cross-Atlantic flights that Ms. Druckerman mentions. For that matter, most of us can't afford to live in Paris. I know plenty of truly middle class parents whose kids eat their vegetables, sleep through the night, play independently at the playground, and use their manners. In fact, I don't recognize the profiles of most of the American parents she talks about. Parents who allow their children to be the boss and rule their lives are just bad parents, and there are bad parents in every country. From the evidence in this book, there just happens to be a high concentration of them in NYC.

    7 of 8 people found this review helpful
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    Kirsten Brooklyn, NY, United States 03-05-12
    Kirsten Brooklyn, NY, United States 03-05-12 Member Since 2004
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    "Very worthwhile and entertaining"

    I wish I heard the book when my kids were smaller! I would highly recommend it to parents of young children.

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    M Machias, ME, United States 12-18-12
    M Machias, ME, United States 12-18-12 Member Since 2010
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    "Not A Fan of the Book"

    This book was more the author's personal life (her relationship and work) than actual class between her culture's parenting and parenting in France. She presents herself as a type of New York mom that I can't related to despite being from the US -- so the idea that it is US parenting vs French parenting falls flat.

    Readers who do accents crack me up! My partner overheard this book and kept making fun of the reader's faux French accent. Made for lasting amusement whenever we discuss parenting...

    I would recommend the "French Children Eat Everything" book. It is more focused on eating/feeding differences. And at least for me, I could relate more to the author of that book. [And I read it rather than listening.]

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    Bimal San Jose, CA, United States 03-28-12
    Bimal San Jose, CA, United States 03-28-12 Member Since 2011
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    "Good perspective on parenting"
    Would you listen to Bringing Up Bebe again? Why?

    Yes. Being a young parent myself in a foreign land this book introduces a different perspective to raising disciplined kids.


    How would you have changed the story to make it more enjoyable?

    Reduce repetition ...


    Which scene was your favorite?

    Bean saying


    Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

    nope. Due to repetitive concepts its best to listen in parts


    2 of 2 people found this review helpful
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  • Sara
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    "Maman knows best"

    I am a mother of a toddler, and as such have read a few books and articles about how I should be doing my job. I first read an article about Druckerman which led me to download the whole book. It's written by an American talking about French parenting, and as an English mother, I found it really interesting to be able to read it from a third perspective and have no personal issues with either style of parenting. I can imagine that some people may be defensive of either culture's ways, but I was pleased to simply listen to the evidence and take what I think is useful and relevant from it.

    Regarding evidence, Druckerman has done a lot of research, I was concerned this would just be an anecdotal opinion piece, and was pleased to find that there was actually a lot of scientific and historical research quoted to back up the observations she was making.

    Overall I thought this was a really interesting book, with some definite - if not sometimes obvious and common sense - methods which could be put into practise. But as I've found so far in parenthood - indeed in life, sometimes you do need the obvious to be stated in order to simply recognise and consciously decide to act on it. However I do agree with the previous reviewer, the narrator's French accent is terrible sometimes, and I accept the fact that not everyone can do accents, but perhaps they should have found a fluent French speaker to read the book, as there are quite a lot of French phrases used throughout and it did rather undermine what was being said.

    5 of 5 people found this review helpful
  • Jordanna
    Wood Green, United Kingdom
    2/29/12
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    "Would be great if it wasn't for the fake accent"

    Its an interesting book that has definitely given me a lot to think about. However I felt it was let down by the INCREDIBLY irritating, horrific french accent that the narrator puts on when she wants to quote a french person. I've had to take a break from listening to it simply because of that.

    9 of 10 people found this review helpful
  • Heather
    Ireland
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    "The fake accent is grating"

    I enjoy the topic and the writing. But the choice to use the fake French and British accents was a bad decision on the part of the producers. Now, the voice of the recording is very grating, and I also can't help hearing the narrator's creaky vocal fry. Yikes. The voice is the most important thing for an audio book. I think I'll be returning this one.

    2 of 2 people found this review helpful
  • Rebecca
    6/5/12
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    "Fun but don't take too seriously"

    Quite interesting and some food for thought. I think I'd have liked the book more with this one as it's the kind of book you would want to dip into and skim areas, also the narrator speaks so quickly I missed a lot of what she said which I found very frustrating. I nearly gave up on this a few times but quite enjoyed coming back to bits of it.

    1 of 1 people found this review helpful
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    "Great book, but strange narration choices"
    If you could sum up Bringing Up Bebe in three words, what would they be?

    French style education


    What did you like best about this story?

    Wonderful book, a great combination of information and autobiography. Actually has incredibly interesting and useful information about how French parents raise their children. Well researched book, with enough background information about parenting philosophies and helpful, practical advice that you can apply yourself. Also an entertaining story about Americans making a life in Paris and learning the French culture.


    What three words best describe Abby Craden’s performance?

    The narrating itself is fine, but why she decided to do EVERY bit that was a quote from someone French in a thick French accent is beyond me. It actually makes it more difficult to make out what she is saying, and I don't appreciate the notion that all French people speak with that same cliché accent. This doesn't only happen whe she quotes a dialogue between the author and a French person (of which there is a lot in the book) but also when French literature is quoted (which also happens a lot in the book). For me this was the big let-down of this book.


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