An awe-inspiring, often hilarious, and unerringly honest story of one mother's exercise in extreme parenting, revealing the rewards - and the costs - of raising her children the Chinese way.
All decent parents want to do what's best for their children. What Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother reveals is that the Chinese just have a totally different idea of how to do that. Western parents try to respect their children's individuality, encouraging them to pursue their true passions and providing a nurturing environment. The Chinese believe that the best way to protect your children is by preparing them for the future and arming them with skills, strong work habits, and inner confidence. Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother chronicles Chua's iron-willed decision to raise her daughters, Sophia and Lulu, her way - the Chinese way - and the remarkable results her choice inspires.
The truth is Lulu and Sophia would never have had time for a playdate. They were too busy practicing their instruments (two to three hours a day and double sessions on the weekend) and perfecting their Mandarin. Of course no one is perfect, including Chua herself. Witness this scene: "According to Sophia, here are three things I actually said to her at the piano as I supervised her practicing: 1. Oh my God, you're just getting worse and worse. 2. I'm going to count to three, then I want musicality. 3. If the next time's not PERFECT, I'm going to take all your stuffed animals and burn them!"
But Chua demands as much of herself as she does of her daughters. And in her sacrifices - the exacting attention spent studying her daughters' performances, the office hours lost shuttling the girls to lessons - the depth of her love for her children becomes clear.
Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother is an eye-opening exploration of the differences in Eastern and Western parenting - and the lessons parents and children everywhere teach one another.
©2010 Amy Chua (P)2011 Penguin Audio
Maybe. Depends on the topic. The story was good but it was a little rote. I guess that goes with the theme of the book though.
We could argue what's best for our kids, but few of us have the discipline to really do what we think is the best as she does. She is not the type who only pushes her kids but doesn't try to excel at her own job. She is a well-respected Yale professor and loved by her students. In addition, whenever her other family members (mother-in-law, sister) needed her, she is really there for them too. I respect Amy Chua for that.
Comic relief parenting
This book is HILARIOUS! Are people not seeing it? Honestly, the humor of how her kids rebel and her desire to train a dumb dog to have a purpose are awesome! I know so many Chinese people like this and you will laugh so hard if you can just picture the reality of it all. Plus I like to learn what lessons she used to teach her kids. If you don't laugh during this book you are missing the humor in Chinese life.
Great reader. Nails the punch line every time. "Happy b-day Mommy with love" said Loulou... "I don't want your card, I want a better one. I have a special box where I keep good cards and this one can't go in there!"
Laugh. You will laugh!
Totally worth your time. I learned one or two things, nothing super insightful. The reason you want this book is to laugh at two little girls fighting with their mom.
I was swept up by the story telling and the triumph of learning and discovery.
I've never listened to (or read) Amy Chua.
That mothers know best...but they also need to know each of their children
I could not wait to jump in my car and continue the story of Amy Chua's family. I saw myself in her and the struggles to raise her children the Chinese way in America. When I first heard about this book, I thought it would be a full admonition of Western Child rearing, but while I'm not as extreme as Amy, I find myself getting "criticism" for pushing my kids too hard and "stressing them out". I don't feed into a mindset of mediocrity either, so I laughed out loud in several places with her story telling, but I also saw her vulnerabilities AND her point of view which I found interesting. I also have decided to take a few points from her Chinese mother ways and use them with my children. Thank you to Amy for sharing!!!
You listen to this woman and your mind boggles. Fascinating. Kept me interested. I'd love a sequel about her poor messed-up kids.
When listening I could relate to what the author was sharing
Yes, although it loses strength at the end
I really liked knowing a bit about chinese culture.
Definitely a must read for young parents--how NOT to parent! I appreciate Amy's honesty, but her harsh parenting is sometimes difficult to fathom. Amy reads a five or six page list of violin instructions she wrote down for her daughter--that she is to complete during EACH daily practice. I had to ponder how Amy could possibly do all she wrote in her book that she did and still worked full-time in a very demanding career. Her performance in narrating was excellent.
A few of my books, I have listened to multiple times, BHotTM is one of them, and I still laugh! one of my top ten!
Probably when she and her husband are arging over how to support the hopes and dreams of their girls, and Cocoa.
I make all my pregnant or young parent friends read this book. then I quiz them on it.
Yes, I have recommended it to several friends.
I liked her point about learning. "Learning isn't fun. It is hard work. Anything worth learning is hard work. We should quit telling kids learning is fun."
It was interesting to hear it in her voice.
several sittings - while driving
Just when I was saying to myself, "This woman is a total nut job. . . " I found myself also saying, "Well, she really has a valid point there." It was very thought provoking. I recommended to my book club group.
One of my friends recommended this and I was really skeptical, but I enjoyed it way more than I thought I would. It gave me a different perspective on parenting that, while not my style, certainly made me more empathetic to "Chinese mothers" that I know (that are of many different ethnicities). It is definitely worth a listen if you are a parent, or just want to expose yourself to a different point of view.
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