An awe-inspiring, often hilarious, and unerringly honest story of one mother's exercise in extreme parenting, revealing the rewards - and the costs - of raising her children the Chinese way.
All decent parents want to do what's best for their children. What Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother reveals is that the Chinese just have a totally different idea of how to do that. Western parents try to respect their children's individuality, encouraging them to pursue their true passions and providing a nurturing environment. The Chinese believe that the best way to protect your children is by preparing them for the future and arming them with skills, strong work habits, and inner confidence. Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother chronicles Chua's iron-willed decision to raise her daughters, Sophia and Lulu, her way - the Chinese way - and the remarkable results her choice inspires.
The truth is Lulu and Sophia would never have had time for a playdate. They were too busy practicing their instruments (two to three hours a day and double sessions on the weekend) and perfecting their Mandarin. Of course no one is perfect, including Chua herself. Witness this scene: "According to Sophia, here are three things I actually said to her at the piano as I supervised her practicing: 1. Oh my God, you're just getting worse and worse. 2. I'm going to count to three, then I want musicality. 3. If the next time's not PERFECT, I'm going to take all your stuffed animals and burn them!"
But Chua demands as much of herself as she does of her daughters. And in her sacrifices - the exacting attention spent studying her daughters' performances, the office hours lost shuttling the girls to lessons - the depth of her love for her children becomes clear.
Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother is an eye-opening exploration of the differences in Eastern and Western parenting - and the lessons parents and children everywhere teach one another.
©2010 Amy Chua (P)2011 Penguin Audio
When listening I could relate to what the author was sharing
Yes, although it loses strength at the end
I really liked knowing a bit about chinese culture.
Definitely a must read for young parents--how NOT to parent! I appreciate Amy's honesty, but her harsh parenting is sometimes difficult to fathom. Amy reads a five or six page list of violin instructions she wrote down for her daughter--that she is to complete during EACH daily practice. I had to ponder how Amy could possibly do all she wrote in her book that she did and still worked full-time in a very demanding career. Her performance in narrating was excellent.
A few of my books, I have listened to multiple times, BHotTM is one of them, and I still laugh! one of my top ten!
Probably when she and her husband are arging over how to support the hopes and dreams of their girls, and Cocoa.
I make all my pregnant or young parent friends read this book. then I quiz them on it.
One of my friends recommended this and I was really skeptical, but I enjoyed it way more than I thought I would. It gave me a different perspective on parenting that, while not my style, certainly made me more empathetic to "Chinese mothers" that I know (that are of many different ethnicities). It is definitely worth a listen if you are a parent, or just want to expose yourself to a different point of view.
From what I understand from some other people, especially those in the psychology field, this book is controversial because Amy Chua is seen as abusive, but really...come on. What Amy Chua is, is a smart ambitious woman who happens to be raising very smart and ambitious children. This woman isn't abusing her kids. She is simply being ambitious for them. I commend her for writing an honest and funny memoir about her particular parenting style. It was a good story, and was well worth listening to.
Is Amy Chua neurotic? Yes, yes she is. Is she wrong about how she parents her children? No, not at all. Her parenting style could be considered authoritarian, and popular psychology would have parents believe that authoritarian parenting styles do not necessarily have the best outcomes, but that point is debatable.
This book provides interesting insight, and I personally appreciate this woman letting us all glimpse the perspectives of an Asian-American woman.
With all of the publicity that this book has received, I was somewhat interested in hearing it. I really expected this woman to be a militant, closed-minded person with no interest at all in the American way. It turns out to be an amazing story in which we are made to understand why she did the things she did and how this mom grew over the years. I was surprised when I found myself laughing out loud listening to some of the power struggles that started from the very early years of her daughters' lives. One thing is for sure, there really aren't many American moms with the level of commitment and endurance that this mother has. I'm hopeful that the daughters will write their own books from their perspectives later in their lives.
I didn't read the book in print, but I enjoyed hearing the narration of the author.
I don't there there was one moment, but it was hard to stop listening.
I have not.
I could have, but I listne to books while commutting, so I only heard it a chunck at a time.
I really enjoyed the book and naration.
Amy Chua did a great job with narrating her story. I appreciate the first hand insight into another Tiger Mother. Whether you are a Western Mom or an Asian Mom, this book is helpful to see who you are as your children's parent and guide in life and decide what role you want to take with them.
As both a mother and a teacher this book hit home. No style of parenting is perfect. Children will always grow up with "issues". If American children could be half as successful as these then we would be ok. This book made me think and I did take away from it the idea of not to spread the children's activities too thin. You are better being good at a few activities then being mediocre at many.
Conservative Catholic Curmudgeon
This book is much misunderstood, as many have missed the self-parody and self-examination and have taken it to be some sort of child-rearing manual. Viewed in the correct light, it is an entertaining and engaging account of cultural adaptation and self-discovery.
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