An awe-inspiring, often hilarious, and unerringly honest story of one mother's exercise in extreme parenting, revealing the rewards - and the costs - of raising her children the Chinese way.
All decent parents want to do what's best for their children. What Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother reveals is that the Chinese just have a totally different idea of how to do that. Western parents try to respect their children's individuality, encouraging them to pursue their true passions and providing a nurturing environment. The Chinese believe that the best way to protect your children is by preparing them for the future and arming them with skills, strong work habits, and inner confidence. Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother chronicles Chua's iron-willed decision to raise her daughters, Sophia and Lulu, her way - the Chinese way - and the remarkable results her choice inspires.
The truth is Lulu and Sophia would never have had time for a playdate. They were too busy practicing their instruments (two to three hours a day and double sessions on the weekend) and perfecting their Mandarin. Of course no one is perfect, including Chua herself. Witness this scene: "According to Sophia, here are three things I actually said to her at the piano as I supervised her practicing: 1. Oh my God, you're just getting worse and worse. 2. I'm going to count to three, then I want musicality. 3. If the next time's not PERFECT, I'm going to take all your stuffed animals and burn them!"
But Chua demands as much of herself as she does of her daughters. And in her sacrifices - the exacting attention spent studying her daughters' performances, the office hours lost shuttling the girls to lessons - the depth of her love for her children becomes clear.
Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother is an eye-opening exploration of the differences in Eastern and Western parenting - and the lessons parents and children everywhere teach one another.
©2010 Amy Chua (P)2011 Penguin Audio
Yes, I have recommended it to several friends.
I liked her point about learning. "Learning isn't fun. It is hard work. Anything worth learning is hard work. We should quit telling kids learning is fun."
It was interesting to hear it in her voice.
several sittings - while driving
Just when I was saying to myself, "This woman is a total nut job. . . " I found myself also saying, "Well, she really has a valid point there." It was very thought provoking. I recommended to my book club group.
I purchased the book because it was rated highly in entertainment weekly magazine. The story did bring to light some differant views on parenting but it feels like a work in progerss and not a true guide. The children raised by this method both seemed to benefit but initially reacted in oppisite ways. It is great for people who want a new perspective but not as an answer to what is the better way.
how to parent and how not to parent. I didn't like her parenting style for the most part but some things were quite useful. it helped me think of parenting in a new light.
Insightful, interesting, and intimidating.
I enjoyed having the author read the book, it brought a lot of authenticity to the story. It also made me believe the unbelievable parts.
I'm going to proudly be a Western mother of Asian descent, but I might sign my kid up for a music class.
I enjoyed this perspective of parenting. It gave me a little bit to aspire to and a lot to let go.
Yes I'd recommend for another point of view. Ms. Chua's approach is perhaps not for everyone, but the book offers some unique reflections on how to train your children.
More yet to be written. Ripe for a follow up that can reflect on the results of parenting "the Chinese way".
Calm, deliberate, cool
I may not listen to it again, but I'm very glad I heard her thoughts on parenting - what she did, what mistakes she made, and how it all turned out.
Her daughters were really the stars of the book.
I felt her voice was a huge part of hearing her story and I likely have more insight on what happened between the members of her family due to the opportunity to hear the inflection in her voice.
When lulu was outside in the cold, so stubborn!
Some of the story was quite shocking, my mouth open while riding in my car and listening. I also enjoyed hearing about the growth and changes she's made over the years.
Amy Chua did nothing to make us like her, and very often I wanted to ring her neck. At the same time I wish I'd had a parent that was so dedicated to my learning to be that involved. I learned a lot from the book, not just about being an "Asian parent" but also about how much dedication and perseverance it takes to become proficient.
I cannot imagine who would enjoy this read. The author/narrator was so full of her own accomplishments, no matter how unappreciated they were, that it was like reading a dictionary!
I was reminded of the journals of the Lewis & Clarke expeditions which painstakingly listed all the supplies loaded, etc.
Ms. Chua starts each day at 3am, runs with the dogs, teaches, writes, harangues her daughters, alienates her neighbors, etc. Ad nauseum!
There were a few funny stories, and a few touching stories.
An avid reader, demanding of the story, characters and narrator. Mysteries and historical fiction are my favorites.
I liked this book very much, especially because I have 2 American-raised teenagers who regularly tell me I am too strict. NEVER AGAIN will you hear those words with the same understanding after reading about Amy Chua's traditional Chinese approach to child rearing. A quick read.
I related well to the story, having been a piano and violin student in the pre-college division of Juilliard. Most people do not realize the effort put into the practice sessions of a performer. I am not Chinese, and was not raised by a Chinese mother, nor did I have the experience of Lulu and Julia, but much of the story rings true.
This book is a definite read for young adults who have a musical bent.
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