I never give 5 stars for anything as I want to reserve it for books that are truly excellent. Why Does He Do That is one such book. I found myself asking this exact question and so the title of the book drew me in immediately. The author then eliminates the confused state you've found yourself in with every chapter that breaks down why your partner acts the way he does. If your partner or ex partner fits the description of the abusers in the book whether it's physical or non-physical abuse, then the book will explain why you have a partner who resembles Jekyll and Hyde.
I like how the book lays out a multitude of questions that women may find themselves asking and then answers each one of them as the book progresses. The author is experienced and understanding and it's actually off-putting to hear a man advocate for women's rights so fervently. It's not something you see a lot on society. And it's not about him being an extreme feminist, but him saying everyone has the right to be treated with love and respect and he combats the abuser's perspective resolutely by saying there is absolutely no excuse for their behavior and he describes what that behavior is.
The author gets into the details of what abuse is because you may not even know that it's happening as the victim or an onlooker. Things we brush off everyday because me telltale signs of abuse. The overall message of the book is that abusers do not change without external pressure to do so and that we need to educate and empower individuals to create a community where abuse is snuffed out as a value society does not tolerate. Because that's really the only way abuse is going to stop. It's a lofty, idealistic goal, but sometimes you have to be lofty, idealistic, educated and resolute in order to influence great change.
I recommend this book to anyone who just wants another perspective on their relationship. If it feels like something isn't right, you're not happy, you're partner is tears you down, takes things out on you, scares you, threatens you to the point where you feel like you're suffering or walking on egg shells, holding your tongue about things, always questioning how to keep him happy or stay on his good side...then you need to read this book. This may be one situation where thinking about yourself is an absolutely must and being nurturing and understanding is only going to destroy you from the inside out. After reading this, I just felt better not being confused anymore. It's sometimes difficult to explain to people what you're experiencing when you're not even sure. So if nothing else, this book was very healing for me. I'm absolutely sure this book can help other women, especially if they're in a situation that is life threatening or involves children. There's also sections for everyone involved with abusive situations which is why this is a must read! If you're a family member or friend or clergyman or counselor or judge or probation officer--there is something in here for everyone not just the victim. End the confusion and be empowered through knowledge. Five stars!!!!!
This book is a great story if you know absolutely nothing about how Washington works. Barofsky takes the reader from the beginning where he was just a lawyer from the south district of NY investigating & prosecuting fraud and drug crimes. His boss who passed him up for one promotion was now recommending him for a job in Washington as an insider. Barofsky's entire perspective is the journey of a man who becomes a Washington insider by taking a job he never expected to get in a town and political climate he never fancied.
Chapter 1-2 are about how he came to be confirmed as an inspector general. He gives great anecdotes and quotes from people he came into contact with or people he worked with or from his own family members to paint a picture.
I'm currently on Chapter 3 where he now has the job, he recruited a talented buddy of his to be his partner although only one of them would get the risk and reward for any of their work done. He describes his office, his interaction with Henry "Hank" Paulson. How wet behind the ears he was in Washington even being naive at times. It's a great account for anyone taking a job in Washington where they're having to start an entire dept/operation (well funded operation) in Washington from the ground up. Human mistakes will be made.
There were things I wanted to know about Colin as a man who is black in America, high ranking in the military and associated with the Republican party. I have a greater understanding of who he is. It's probably as in depth as any speech he would given to a lecture hall full of students so it's nice and it does the job if you're interested in who he is, it opens your eyes to how he came to love the military, the media's effect on perception of military engagements and what exactly it is that this guy does as he scales the ladder of the military career. It also mentions his view on running for President. I won't spoiler alert that. But you could also skip this read. By no means is this a must read.
You're with someone who isn't good for you and you keep giving them chances, but they never really improve your relationship or return to being that great person you fell in love with. Your day-to-day or long term relationship looks bleak and you don't know what to do. You do know what to do, but you're scared and 2nd guessing that decision for some reason. If you want help analyzing your decisions to break up & stay with this person and need help going from optimist to realist or even pessimist (because then you'd be living life by the rules not the exceptions and giving bozo the chance to prove you wrong) this book will allow you the chance to do that.
Better than friends and family, this book will allow you ALL THE TIME you need to comb through the details of your messy relationship and it will reinforce your self-confidence and intuition which you certainly need at the moment you're considering reading this book.
It was a not a male bashing book at all as some other reviews have stated. And I'm a girl's girl so I know what male bashing looks like. This book just gives you reassurance that No, It's Not You and details the 5 types of deal breakers. If this were a male bashing book, it would go on to say "and even if it is you, screw him because he's not good enough for you". I got through the 5 types of problematic men, realized my guy was most if not all of them, fell asleep through the rest of the book and woke up knowing my decision to break up with him was the best thing for both of us. And if I needed more time to mull over my decision, I could always replay the book.
The best parts are the "how bad is it?" levels that the author gives you. Just in case you're still thinking about working on it. She tells you the cases where you should work on it and other cases where it's difficult to see this person changing and you should probably get out of dodge. So if he calls back promising to change, you already know if he's a moderate or severe problem.
This book will help you get through the pain and confusion and identify the things that are so hard to see because you're using your heart more than your head.
I enjoyed the story itself during the telling of it immensely!! 5 stars. Compared to some books like 50 Shades of Grey where the narrator was horrible at switching voices and tones between characters, Will Patton was truly talented and a joy to listen to. There were a lot of great one liners from the characters with complicated moral compasses. Which was almost EVERYONE. Every character was well developed and interesting. And gray. You had to figure out were they more good or bad. The story was told at a nice varied pace from slow and wistful to thrilling and suspenseful. It's interesting that the author uses his own daughter as a character in his book. I wonder how similar in personality the real daughter is compared to the fictional one.
This would be a great book for a long traveling day or week. I'm just not sure how I feel about the ending. It's probably left open as opposed to completely nail-in-the-coffin resolved because the author likes to continue writing about these characters, bringing them back in later books.
I saw this book advertised in an airline magazine and was looking forward to it for an auditory taste of Louisiana, a place with rich history for me, and I was not disappointed. I will be interested in the next Dave Robicheaux adventure for sure!
Friedman & Mandelbaum do what their title says they will do. They discuss all the ways America has become self-delusional in it's own success and as a result not seen the error its ways to maintain itself as a superpower. We've begun to falter and now it's too late to turn this boat string of bad decisions around without making serious sacrifices..is the argument being made here.
I like how this book isn't democrat or republican it's truth and real solutions. It's thoughtful and not political. Perfect for the independent thinker who likes hearing truth and good ideas from whoever they originate. This book covers so much that even Tiger Mom got mentioned. There's so much discussed that I had to take a break with part 1. I'll come back to part 2 I suppose when I get frustrated with politics once again and ...again start looking for answers outside of that world.
Another problem with this audiobook presenting so much information, you sometimes want to stop and further research statements or references made. So it takes you even longer to get through and you wish you really had the physical book so that you could do some actual bookmarking. As a visual, hands-on person sometimes I wish I had the REAL book to go along with my audiobook.
But anyway, politics, the global economy, education, china/BRIC, the "good ole days" in America, should we become more like China?, America's ability to compete in the global economy, what type of jobs will we see in the future, which will become obsolete? So many many interesting topics discussed here. If done as a lecture series or discussion group this would easily be an entire semester's worth of material and you would still have a million assignments to do at home.
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