Some books are romantic some are spiritual, His Needs Her Needs is down right pragmatic. I read a few reviews from Amazon before using a credit on this just to be safe. They seemed to fall into two categories the larger by far was positive with many couples responding. The second was very negative and centered around religious or moral objections to the estimations of human nature made in the book.
HNHN certainly distills the romance out of marriage, and challenges modern concepts about what it means to be and stay in love, but despite this Harley is mostly right. The author suggests that everyone has a sub-contious love bank for which each person we meet has an account. By doing things which please us an individual's balance grows and our love for them deepens. By doing things which displease us our loved ones balance shrinks, and leaves us wanting. The author then identifies 10 of the most commons needs that go unmet as identified by his is counseling practice, 5 male and 5 female. A warning for the prude or romantic some the suggestions are sex, attractiveness and bringing home the bacon.
Some would say that the book is dated but I honestly think that if you follow the advice your marriage would be stronger, and more meaningful. I'm 26, fairly modern and in the two weeks since I've finished it my marriage has been improved by following the advice, further or relationship hasn't felt mechanical or forced or cheapened. A worth while read by that measure.
So I was initially very turned off by this book. I was excited about the content but the performance had so much emotion and over the top inflection that it sounded like she was about to burst into tears on every sentence. That gets REALLY distracting really quick. So I cranked up the speed to 1.25x, which I rarely do, and the listenability was greatly improved.
Really liked the book though thanks!
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