Shame can have devastating energy and effect, and for me it seems to occur around those people that I love the most. I don't want to hurt or worry them when I am going through these feelings. Brene has helped me understand the ugliest side of shame and has giving me the tools to work through those feelings rather then being ruled by them. After reading this book I was able to give my daughters some examples of my behavior that they had a keen memory of and explained that this book would help them understand why I felt and acted the way I did. I went on to explain to them that if they took the time to read this book they would be exposed to an extremely helpful concept that would help them the rest of their lives. This would help them to not only understand themselves better, but to understand those people around them better.
It is so helpful that Brene is so honest and open about her own experiences. I felt like I was in the room with her and felt such empathy for her story. It allowed me to feel empathy for my own memories in which I still feel shame.
The concept of turning shame into anger and lashing out helped me to understand my own behaviors and those of people close to me. I was able to forgive and understand some comments that had been said to me from my mother. I now understand that these hurtful comments were about her own feelings of shame.
It was also so helpful to hear about men's shame. This gave me very useful insight into what drives us in our relationships. It gave me the ability to have much more empathy for men, but for all people really.
Report Inappropriate Content