This one starts out alright but there are a LOT of things that one can find wrong with the experiments spoken about later on. This is only 3hrs but it's worth even less, about 45min. Instead, skip this truncated summation of psychological experiments and suggestions to do illogical things for training purposes and go straight to "The Willpower Instinct" which contains descriptions of all the best psychological studies AND realistic ways of both understanding and improving upon your willpower.
This is a WEIRD book. The author seems to have invented a world and then explained how our world is that world with the assumptions that his creative thoughts are physical laws. That said, whether or not it is true might not actually matter. You’d be a LOT happier if you believed everything this guy says.
Some things said here:
-Bad things don’t happen
-Reincarnation is decided by you and real; life is eternal
-All things are ‘god’ (or all people at least)
My advice: If you are like me and never had read/studied ‘Metaphysics’ or…whatever this is (and regularly use your brain, logic and science)…strain yourself through the first hour or so (where it sounds like a degrading joke or some kind of cult sermon)…but then keep listening.
The concepts on what your perspective should be IS Positive. Can you choose to believe something that isn’t true for the relief and joy it would imply? If you can keep your knowing and your feeling (the perception from your subconscious) separate, maybe you can.
Some other things said here:
-Accept responsibility for your actions
-Think happy thoughts and do your best
-Be thoughtful but have your best interests in mind too
-spread love and joy
You see where I am coming from? In all honesty, it doesn’t REALLY matter if you believe we are aliens or whatever or not if you can get into the mindset the author suggests.
Btw, scientists- he dumps on us quite a bit; he’s just jealous though. There is still a positive message in there even though he can’t appreciate us.
Being able to find the best even in the horrendous is a practice I carry through my life; but when a truly traumatic event occurs that has bearing over extended periods of time - the dismal can set in and the fact that you can, in fact, find the best in everything becomes blurry. This was a very helpful reminder during a time when I was enduring a majorly traumatic event.
Religious individuals will like this book particularly as it is a strong proponent of people possessing some level of faith. I would have liked the author to have compared the success of religious individuals to those who: have large and strong family support, those believing (unfalteringly) in fate (but not god related) and dependents (those possessing a caretaker).
This book is interactive – if you are listening you may have to pause in order to complete evaluations (which are more complicated than yes/no) therefore I would not recommend using this book while in a vehicle in which you would be frustrated to have to pause it.
I promote the reading/listening of this book although, even with the good research that has been done by Dr. Lyubomirsky, it looks like there is a lot that isn’t covered. I recommend reading “The Willpower Instinct” to supplement. Both books are strong proponents of goals (which makes sense) though “The Willpower Instinct” can assist further when it actually comes to pursuit of them. “The How of Happiness” focuses on happiness being derived from the pursuit of goals, not necessarily achieving them while “The Willpower Instinct” aims to assist in the achievement and evolution of goals. Although it isn’t distinctly covered in “The How of Happiness” – the pursuit of goals being better or just as good as achieving them or not probably varies depending on the type of goal. If the goal is to get to Paris, sure…but if the goal is to lose weight/be healthier you might not be deriving a tremendous amount of happiness if you aren’t actually succeeding regarding the steps to this achievement.
Yes, this can be an excellent addition to understanding the reasoning behind why certain gestures are working, and why others, that aren't, might be misguided.
He is one of my favorite narrators. His demeanor is that of a knowledgeable educator.
I must admit, I had been trying to communicate with somebody listed under those to give up on (a person likely to have either borderline or narcissistic issues) and this book helped me sort through how my various attempts at communication with a difficult case could be categorized and how, in almost any other situation, it would be effective.
I have actually gained a much more positive impression of my mother- who is an increasingly better communicator and follows a lot of the suggestions mentioned in this book.
“Just Listen” does have a strong business lean to it but it is really applicable to people looking to communicate with anybody. This book can help, also, with the basic understanding of some of the neuroscience behind communicating with others (ex. the description of ‘mirror neurons’). This book doesn’t assume an all-powerful stance as might be suggested by the title that mentions getting through to “absolutely everyone”. There is a chapter dedicated to the identification of people who have major psychological issues (narcissists, borderline personality disorder and sociopaths) that truly do not want to be reached and are incapable (or nearly) of caring about others.
It does contain a lot of information that might be considered common knowledge but it adds a supplement to it that is not to be undermined. This is a worthwhile listen.
This book is so good I’ve listened to it twice already. Some books will tell you what to do; other books will tell you what to do, why, and how to do it. This book is one of those books. It covers all the bases and uses actual scientific research to back itself. The gold in this book is the techniques it presents, perspectives that you might not have previously taken and multiple ways to attack the issue – not just one that may or may not be appropriate for your particular mentality.It’s AWESOME and I HIGHLY recommend it.
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