Man, did this book hit home. What do I hate most about myself? I am such a hater, a real critic. I'm 46 and for at least a dozen years, while showering in the morning, I've told myself that I want to stop judging people for at least one day - just one day. The result: sometimes I don't make it out of the shower without already being critical of someone.
This book was an excellent example of my horrid thought process. I read the reviews, and decided to give it a try. As soon as I began, I told myself, "What? Are you kidding? Not one reviewer mentioned that the narrator was the author, with his awful accent?!" For the first few minutes, I was seriously considering not listening. Obviously the author has an accent, but why am I so critical? Am I a bigot? No. In fact, I have had great relationships with individuals from that part of the world. The author actually answered this for me - it's the "judge" in me - this idiot in the back of my head who has me so pissed off, always highly critical of everyone and everything. I am actually a pretty positive guy, and the "sage" in me needs to be more active.
I have listened to this audio book half a dozen times. I can honestly say that it has had more impact on me than any book I have ever read - and I've read perhaps a hundred self-help or motivational books in my life.
It's really funny. I have no idea how I found this book. I wasn't trying to find a book about being positive. But this book has made me want to be a better person - in the month that I've owned it. I can feel the change already; I know my girlfriend can tell the difference. Tonight, she asked where the bread knife was, and suggested, "We must have thrown it away in the garbage that was picked up today. I'm sure it was left in the pizza box that you threw away." My girlfriend is the most wonderful woman on the planet; my attraction to her is her positivity. What I hated about myself was that even someone as strong as her can succumb to negativity. Because of this book, I thought about my response for a second, and answered, "Honey, I'm sure I'll find it. I'll look for it right now!" Sure enough, I found it in a drawer and went over and hugged her afterwards. Before, my response would have been, "What are you talking about? We didn't throw away the knife! Jeeezz..."
This book, and the book the author recommends, Positivity, have really been the one-two punch I needed. I feel I'm doing better in other parts of my life. Obviously, it's me, the guy that wants to improve, that is the catalyst. But, this book really happened to make a great deal of sense to me, and brought to my attention, how ineffective I was in dealing with my internal demons. I don't want my college kids to be as critical as I am; I don't want to negatively influence anyone. This book, along with Barbara Frederickson's Positivity, have shed light on a byproduct of positivity - success in other areas due to a better thought process.
To conclude, positivity is contagious. I have a friend, who doesn't even know that I'm reading/listening to such books, tell me, "Oh... Here comes Mr. Positive..." LOL! I've received more smiles from passers-by the past month than I have in years.
I'm a happy guy again. This is the reason my girlfriend of ten years and I clicked in the first place - we're both positive and happy people. Thank you Mr. Chamine.
Okay, there is no Holy Grail!
I know that I find value in an audiobook when I have listened to it several times. This is one of a couple that fall in that category.
I've had a recent explosion in my life. I'm happier, more positive, I'm doing better, I'm getting things done, I'm more confident, and as I alluded to in a previous review, I kid you not, I've had more smiles thrown my way than in my lifetime! Yes, I've shed a few pounds, but I think there is a little positive aura following me instead of that dark cloud.
In fairness, It's not just one book. In fact, the initial spark was me needing change. I was at one of those points in life where I needed to be more productive, happier, etc. Point is, I needed to go somewhere - I just didn't know where or how, and a few books are helping me pave a path.
I got sick of listening to "rah, rah" books, instead searching for books that provide scientific proof of why I act in certain manners, many times contrary to my goals. This is one of several books that are relevant in my recent successes: Positive Intelligence, Positivity, Getting Things Done and The Power of Habit are others. These books have provided me with serious fuel, instead of just a momentary spike in motivation.
The nice thing about enjoying a book is that the author often turns you on to one or two books - Willpower made reference to Getting Things Done - that book as been good for me as well. It works for me, and that's important.
Willpower led me to change a few bad habits. It has taught me, as has The Power of Habit, that I can replace bad habits - and do so with baby steps - something that had a negative connotation in my life before for whatever reason. By performing what seem like insignificant good little habits, we start tweaking our brains and then, intelligently, ask ourselves after spotting a not-so-good habit, "Gee, why do I do this?" I've just never made this kind of progress and I feel great about it. I dislike reviewing books after just reading it because it will be more positive than the results. I'm cautious, but I've turned a corner boys and girls, and these books are helping. I plan on making some serious dents to my saboteurs. Trust me, I've had an army of them, and they've been disguised very well.
As a side note, I have found that listening to the audiobooks repeatedly helps not only my comprehension, but it's kind of like a mental workout - I'll show up where I need to with a stronger, active, positive, curious brain instead of the ol' reptile brain.
It's interesting, but I guess that the bottom line is that I don't remember much about the audio book even though I just listened to it not more than a week ago, but that would be okay since my memory betrays me according to the author. It's another book to make the drive to and from work more interesting...
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