"Unexpected Brilliance"
In one word, amazing! I will make this honest & to the point. As I am Australian we kind of like our info served straight up and no beating around the bush. I get tired of reading reviews that sound over the top of many peoples heads & those that make you wonder if they were paid to write it. Let me tell you this, from start to finish this guy knows his stuff. These Love languages Dr Chapman talks about transcend culture & speech language. They would work for anyone, anywhere in the world that has a desire to seek more from their partnership and is willing to listen. Dont let his funky southern accent put you off, it will actually endear you to him as you grow to admire his insights and find your own penny dropping inside. Everything he said made sense, plain english and would apply to everyone's situation whether married, in a relationship or not. Its real info that can be used to reopen and then keep the channels of communication open between partners. Also info that will make giving & receiving love as well as being lovable so much easier. It doesnt focus so much on the differences between men and women like in the Mars Venus Series of John Gray but more on the WAY we love. It explains why those suggestions you get in magazines dont always work so well. SO refreshing and info that I didnt even know I needed! Our marriage was in a rut & I can honestly say that when trying some suggestions from the book my husband immediately responded. He even wanted to listen to the book with me and we disussed things as we listened. It has brought us so much closer and helped us to connect again while learning more about ourselves and each other. We plan to go further with our "reading" as we have a new hobby, listening to books together. I hope Dr Chapman will keep writing! Thanks Dr!
"Women aren't All Monsters"
It’s time someone published the truth about this book. I had high hopes for this book with all the wonderful reviews from Men & the odd woman. My gosh was I shocked, I read somewhere not to buy it as it was badmouthing women in general for the whole book. True! I honestly felt like I was "bitched" out for two hours even though I already do most of the things that she suggests, though she suggests very little. For those women that really don't put their men before themselves, then this is for you if you are brave enough to admit it & strong enough to take a whoopin! I am a stay a home mother and have always made myself pretty for my man, had his dinner ready, clothes washed and kept him busy at night, yet I felt like I was still a bad person. She puts across her beliefs in one long session with very few of what are chapter breaks or even headings so we know what she is supposed to be talking about other than we are all selfish and low lives. I do agree men are wonderful and yes simple in what they need & want in life. Even my hubby says that. I was just looking for anything more that I could do for my man, after being in a rut for a while but I had much more success from other books like Dr Gary Chapman’s Five Languages of Love from Audible. Sometimes just doing all the "right things" & putting him first isn’t enough, its a two way street and we need to learn how to love each other in the way that suits each of us. Try Dr Chapman’s books and give this one a miss if you want real suggestions & encouragement for improving your relationships. Some women may get the message that they are wrong, but there isn’t much in the way of how to go about changing or suggestions for loving. I do believe there is a lot to be said for old fashioned values, putting each other first will always be a good start, but Dr Laura just wants us to be second rate, if we are not, then we are no good. I just felt like crap after listening to this one.