This book, for me, was so wonderful in the way that the author helped me to realize that I am normal! I am always being labeled as "paranoid" or "neurotic" and it's always by somebody who has a family unit in place. I understand now that what makes me different from my spouse and all of my friends when it comes to parenting is that I grew up without the closeness of a mother and the absence of a father. I grew up with the realization that I could only depend on 1 grandparent, who loved me very much but, had a dysfunctional relationship with her own daughter, which was my mother. I was conditioned to be very independent which made life tough once I reached high school because at that time I was unwilling to follow direction from a parent. I stopped living with my mother at 15 and the relationship ceased at that time and is still void as I speak. I had my daughter in 2006 and it really caught me off guard when I heard that my mother was bragging about becoming a grandmother to other family members. Actually, when I heard that she was saying that, it pissed me off. My mother did contact me shortly after the birth of my daughter and I realized that I was not ready to explore that relationship ever again and that my daughter is never going to know her grandmother on her mother's side. My mother never did want a child and it showed all throughout my childhood. I suffer from the same insecurities and fears as other "motherless" mothers do. Even though my mother is still alive, she is still empty inside and feels no connection to me the way a mother who loves her child would feel. This book helped me to clear out the unknowns in my head and gave me a boost of confidence in how I will be as a mother to my own daughter. I absolutely love this book and highly suggest it to anyone who has been denied a relationship with their mother. It will show you that you are normal to feel the way you do and it's ok to guard yourself of those fears. Enjoy!
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