The Internet has made contact with other people who now can talk about this issue with each other much easier, this book has been like a book club -- community and a good read.
Gradually in a relationship one person can stop being somebody and become something -- a comforting constant. When this happens -- well, teddy bears don't have needs of their own, they are tools for solving problems, transitional objects, beloved parts of the people that love them.
Xe Sands had the perfect voice for this book.
It's easier to not become a comfort object to another person in the first place, but it's not that hard to stop the dynamics from continuing to progress, and the simple understanding of the dynamics stopped a lot of pain for me right away, and the changed stayed with me.
This is a great book to listen to either playing into the room so that everyone can hear, or, for a controlling person to read.
I loved the book that was not written, Without going out and saying so explicitly every time Carl Hart made a choice that changed the direction of his life at least one other "how this could have gone down" was clearly available. It was like an origami book, folding in on itself every which way.
I don't know if this counts as a book but my first reaction to finishing it was to go to people I had not talked to in years, make re connections, and collect their stories while they still could. This book reminds me of the best of what autobiographies can do and made me wish to collect my own.
I wish that this book could be read by everyone, especially people who are at the social far ends.
I'm going to be listening to the back half of this book over and over again. The ongoing research and instructions for lucid dreaming will take time to learn but puts into words something that I have done myself since my teen years.
The idea that your dream life can be a video game of your waking life allowing you to create new paths to go on, to practice and rehearse, and to explore so that you have the opportunity to experience in your waking time a far richer and more confident "time when it counts".
How to succeed in Dreamland without really trying
The beginning of the book covers the history of sleep research, which I think everyone knows. I enjoyed his retelling of Thomas Edison's flexibility with the truth as far as how much he in fact slept. Taking another look at The Wizard of Menlo Park's life as opposed to his legends is pretty common lately but both Peter Noble and author Richard Wiseman gave an especially funny "behind the curtain" look at a not so well known figure in history.
I've listened to it more than once and will be listening again.
The rich, personal and true to the moment exchanges between the people who created history. It's possible to have a dialog with a book and this is one of the best examples I've ever read on how someone can have as a mentor someone hundreds of years in the past.
The most gut wrenching moment for me was the author's candid, frank and short explanation of why this period produced no women who were great lights. This came early in the book and in it explained how so much learning never passed out of the courts and to the common people.
I hope to find more of the source material and read it, then return and read this book again.
I Loved the contradictions and internal disconnect -- I've rarely seen the concept of a person without empathy more clearly acted out. For someone to express that they are broken, abused and stunted while at the same time crowing that they are the apex and possibly an improved part of the human condition -- yes, that's these people at their most two dimensional. What I liked least was the lingering feeling of pity. The mood brought on by reading hung on after like a bad smell.
The concepts were overexplained and the book could have gotten in and out in a much shorter time.
I enjoyed the varieties of experience, many points of view within the nonbelieving community.
If you are looking for a book putting forward the virtues of the Freethinking experience, this is more of the reverse -- some of the strongest negative language is reserved for descriptions of groups of freethinkers. Interesting . . . .
I'll be listening to this book again, at least once. I will be putting time into some changes based on the compassion fatigue concept and the lek concept -- really new ideas for me.
The idea that people don't burn out due to overwork but instead underwin -- I'm going to be putting that into action right away.
There's all kinds of myth about the founding of Tae Kwon Do and the effect that ITF and WTF have now. If you want the underbelly, with lots of documentation, this is your book. You'll be going to resources again and again to supply some historical background for the events described, and you will read it again and again.
This was a book to work with in sections, and best with community, and the author provides a community online. Very well done.
Any book by Eleanor Cameron, or Sylvia Waugh. There's a just next to of this reality, fully realized alternate reality to play in. People who love the Mennyms will enjoy this book.
The ending was a choker, but in a good way.
I will be looking for more books by this author.
This is a blue collar flavored tale. Part of the time I thought he was running some sort of Colbert Report, making a character and half the time I thought he was serious. Every time he mentioned "that time of the month" I certainly gritted my teeth.
When someone suddenly can't stand the sight of you and you can't even figure out who this person is and where the person you love went, consider the possibility that they are experiencing guilt at the very sight of you. My mom knew this. She used to say "The thing about mudslinging, mud sticks best to clean skin." Great advice. Wish she had taken it for herself, right at the beginning of my parent's struggles.
Men can deal with the situations described, I'm sure of it. However the women I know are more likely to deal with the problems mentioned. An eye opening look at the savage side of love.
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