I am a chaplain and speak with a lot of people. I have found myself recommending this book more than any other. The books is not a list of techniques used to manipulate people. It is a discussion about how to truly serve others in the way they want to be served. We often serve others in the way that we would like to be served. Then, we wonder why they don’t respond. Dr. Chapman helps us to overcome this mistake and discover the means by which our spouses and children like to receive love. Throughout the book, he also gives us practical advice on how to fulfill those needs.
The fundamentals are especially helpful in marital and family relationships and can be applied, in a limited manner to casual relationships as well.
One should not be surprised that the book has distinctly Christian worldview. It is published by Oasis. I do not know of a book they publish that is not distinctly Christian.
A couple of years ago, I read Dekker's trilogy, Black, Red, and White. I looked forward to another good read. This was not it. Many times I had trouble believing the lengths to which the characters went to achieve their goals. The timing and good fortune was also incredible. I realise the obsession involved, but this was too far-fetched and unbelievable.
By the end of part one, I really did not look forward to part two (like I currently look forward to part two of Odd Thomas by Dean Koontz). I finished this book only because I had it with me and I had a four hour drive.
On the positive side, it was generally unoffensive as far as language and situations.
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