This ranks as my first audio book ever so its the 'best' so far! I'm very pleased i found it useful & entertaining.
I compare it to books in the 'power and influence' genre of nonfiction so books such as 'The 48 Laws of Power', 'The Art of Seduction', and 'How to Read People Like a Book' come to mind. Tonya's book gears me toward direct and indirect use of personal power. Its an excellent primer on being both observed and observer of situations, proactive and subtle. The other books i mention are just examples of this field but this book also adds to your repertoir by helping you use your senses in practiced and practical manners. These other books are rooted in descriptive examples but this book is rooted in prescriptive action.
I learned that a most valuable thing you can do to influence people is to make your body language 'effortlessly attractive'. Step back while communicating with others by being present to critique that other person will reveal just how much 'leakage' in nonverbal communication is going on. Those clues are everywhere so the more signals you pick up on, the more likely you'll know what to do to control the situation (or to not control). I especially liked the parts about identifying genuine happy facial expressions!
The only thing which bothered me was the sheer amount of advice being dispensed. I can't remember it all so it becomes overwhelming. It would be nice to have from Tonya some kind of memnonic or framework for keeping most of this knowledge organized in my mind.
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