I cannot begin to tell you how fascinating and puzzling polygamy is. I was wrought with curiousity throughout the whole book and was of course in awe of the lifestyle as many others are when learning about their culture. It is a side of society that people still know very little about.
I can't imagine even with all the details of this woman's life how difficult it must have been to be born into this culture. Unfortunately, her focus on the undying sacrifices and un-ending pain and suffering associated with her lifestyle quickly became redundant. The entire book felt like a poor me memoir and although it sounds impossible, she had many many opportunities to leave that life, which she eventually did towards middle age. It should have been sooner rather than later; but it felt as though she enjoyed the misery, pain and suffering. There comes a point where the details of her unfortunate circumstances go from evoking sympathy from the reader to frustration towards the 12th chapter. If I had a search feature, I could quite honestly count the many times where she starts crying uncontrollably while throwing herself on the bed to about 25-30 times. So much so that she admits into the story how sick her husband was with her constant crying. By the end, you will be sick of her crying too.
Decent story, difficult character to like.
Great topic. I live in a meth riddled area and have seen the devastation and wanted to know a little more about the prevelance across the nation. This book reads much like a documentary. Nick follows a handful of people closely throughout the book and depicts the rise and fall of their lives. There are parts that are fascinating such as the statistics, illustrations of the chaos that meth causes in families and communities.
However, this is an extremely long winded book. It is riddled with far too many details that are not needed to supplement the story. 11 hours of reading had me in a dizzy and I often wondered off from the mundane details that droned on for what felt like hours.
I actually have not finished this book, I stopped at the 9th hour. I got the idea well after the seventh hour. If you enjoy long books and don't mind large amounts of details, this is not a horrible book. It is informative and well thought out. Just needs to be edited way more than it has been. Colors and layout of land, interviews with every person he meets on the street and their entire life story is not particularly necessary.
This book is not for the family member or friend learning how to deal with someone with BPD. There were a handful of chapters with case studies of individuals with BPD. There were a handful of chapters about treatment, pharmacological and therapeutic methods. It dives into the trauma associated with BPD which is not really a surprise given the myriad of other disorders one could form from childhood trauma, this is just one of them.
There was not one chapter on learning how to deal with the BPD's tantrums. The only information included was what the spouses were doing wrong when faced with drama; not what you can do right or make things easier on yourself.
This book is probably very enlightening for the person with BPD. But is was a bit decieving in its title and synopsis of how to deal with one.
Don't buy this book if you do not have BPD.
I've listened to about an hour and half of it and I have to say I don't understand what the ratings are about. This is not addicting, actually, I stopped paying attention so many times that I never knew what just happened. Doesn't engage me.
The story is played out, I've heard this plot so many times. Its predictable.
And above all, I can't stand the story being read to me because the narration is so bad. I must be the only one that finds Grovers voice irritating.
He is nasaly and high pitched. Sometimes he has an east coast accent with the main character and then sometimes he doesn't. He doesn't have appropriate fluctuations with the content in the book most of the time.
I will intentionally avoid audio books that are narrated by Grover.
And I don't think I will finish this story so it was a pretty big waste. Oh well.
I absolutely loved this book. I listen to it on my hour long commute and sit in the car of my breaks to keep listening. I appreciate the amount of research and study that Dr. Stout put into this book. Now I see other people saying they wish she would have gone deeper. ....Well you can't get much deeper than a whole chapter on the neurological basis of the behavior, genetics, nature vs. nurture, case studies conducted for over 40 years, and experimentation on sociopaths neurological reactions to emotional phrases. We don't have answers to every question, we don't have all disorders completely figured out. People need to take the information they are given and continue to do their own research or remain patient until technology catches up with us.
Dr. Stout even gave clues as to whether you could possibly be associating with a sociopath. I was surprised by this. Many other books on biological behavior that I have studied very rarely address hidden signs or clues to look for. Probably in fear of people going to far with it and thinking everyone they know is sociopathic because they seem selfish.
This is an extremely educational read and I would highly recommend it to anyone who enjoys learning about human behavior and how it afffects society....or you.
Wonderful performance, her tone was perfect for the material she was reading.
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