I may refer to it. I'm not sure if I'd like to listen to it over again. It's somewhat difficult to hear and it's very emotionally draining to actively try to recognize and change your behaviors.
I'm not sure. The entire thing had very profound moments.
No. However, I absolutely loved her voice narrating this. She did a wonderful job.
I will apply this to my relationship.
I already knew that I had an abusive past. I am a Psychology major and I've been very introspective. I also knew that I was in a constant battle of emotional abuse in my current relationship. However, I knew I wasn't innocent, and I knew he wasn't either. We played off of each other. When one person was emotionally abusive, the other person would just emotionally abuse them later. We both came from parents that emotionally abused us. After reading this book, I realized that we were both reenacting our pasts in an attempt to solve them and end up with a better outcome. I have some similarities with his mother and he has some similarities with my father. However, he doesn't see it this way.
That's why I needed to find this book, so I could attempt to discover ways to change my patterns, and hopefully, in turn, change his as well. It's only been a couple days, but I already notice a difference in how I perceive my feelings and how he reacts to my words. I express myself by saying how I actually FEEL instead of blaming and threatening to leave. When he insults or degrades me, I point it out assertively but not painstakingly and he admits to it, and stops. I have a lot of hope that our relationship will benefit from this. I know we can get past our communication challenges. It was an amazing book.
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