Prospective buyers should know this book comes from a worldview that regards marriage and family life as morally indifferent matters of personal choice. Most of the couples profiled by the book are unmarried live-ins or sexual partners. One couple is homosexual. Some people will find that unproblematic, but attachment theories may sometimes be associated with people like William Sears and other Christian or pro-family figures. I thought it might be helpful to point out where the book is really coming from.
Personally, I did find some of the relationship advice to be fairly good, though not nearly so original as the authors imply. Much of this material is covered in marraige and communication books. It can be helpful to know if you are dealing with an avoidant or anxious person, so you can respond to them as individuals. Those who are really interested in the material in the book will probably find that reading the book is a better choice. That way, one can skim the chapters that don't seem so relevant, and carefully look at the material they can best use.
Those still dating would be well advised to understand the attachment style of their partners and to make decisions with eyes wide open. Still, if you are young and forming your moral compass, be aware of just how powerful authoritative books like this really are. It is inconsistent to talk about "deep, personal bonds", and then to promote live-in arrangements and unbonded sexual relationships on the next page. It is in the permanence of a solid marriage that people have their best opportunities for lasting happiness.
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