Sheryl Sandberg had me at, “I gained 70 lbs!”
I had heard a lot about this book, but I really wasn’t sure that I could relate to this woman. At all. I expected a book by a carefully made up, wealthy, privileged woman with an excellent education in a token leadership position. I expected someone with a lot of help who could “do it all”, with little – if any – credit to the people who helped her do it.
I, on the other hand, joined the Army for the college benefits, and I put myself through law school. I don’t aspire to manage a corporation. In fact, indirectly, I work for one of the people she mentions in her book. I am an attorney, and I want to be the best litigator I can be. I am also the proud mother of two teenagers, and I worry that I shouldn’t have worked outside of the home – but that wasn’t a choice I had.
I was wrong about Sandberg. Like me, and the rest of us, she is real. Sandberg’s a sociologist, a critic, a coach, a realist. Sandberg gives props to important leaders from Warren Buffet to Betty Freidan, and to her administrative assistant and her friends. Bravo! Sandberg, get out your pom-poms - Tip O’Neil is calling from the grave.
Sandberg doesn’t mention “Games Mother Never Taught You” by Betty Lehan Harrigan (1987), but that is analogous to some of the tactics she recommends. Yes, it would be better if we (women) didn’t have to bend to the (male) rules, but we do. Harrigan’s book is a guidebook, and as helpful as Freidan’s “The Feminine Mystique” in some ways.
There is a hysterically funny tale involving an eBay corporate jet and an itchy child’s head, but for real fun, skip to Chapter 6 (7 on audible) and listen to the first minute. Sandberg reminds us even while we should do what we would do if we weren't afraid, motherhood keeps us grounded.
Oh, and did I mention – Sandberg is the COO of Facebook – and she really does know what she’s doing?
This book is fantastic. Lean In!
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I write this review as a way to invite EVERYONE to read this book.
The only character is my favorite - the woman who cares to make her life engaging and important to herself and those around her.
This is a book written as a manifesto and manual for changing the way women behave and are regarded. How you regard yourself and how our culture regards you.
I became accustomed to the narrator but would have preferred a more mature and mellifluous voice. I think the more mature voice might have also had more credibility.
For me, there is a nasal edge that grates ever so slightly the entire book.
All I could think was "Ms. Sandberg must have been mentoring or sponsoring this person".
No. In fact, this book is to be really listened to - the more attention paid, the better the results.
Also, there is a companion website that is spectacularly effective and interesting for building skills.
I might actually purchase the book as well as having listened to it. There are sections I will want to read again and again.
Full disclosure: I'm a guy.
Wow, if women in corporate America have been walking around with these insecurities for the past too many years, there is a lot of repairing to do. Sandberg lays out a wide range of sensible solutions to pick from; all designed to allow women (or men) to perform at their highest level. If enough folks read this book and are able to bring its solutions to the workplace, we could probably add another percentage point or two to GDP growth! Narration is great.
Sheryl Sandberg isn't afraid to share. Everything is extremely personal and inspiring. I am recommending this book to my male friends. I believe that they will be able to understand and help with gender equalities if they read Sheryl's book.
Elisa's voice is similar to that of Sheryl's. I am glad that I listen to it rather than read it.
I would recommend this book to any woman and man who is looking for ways to make away with gender issues in the workplace. We need people in power, both men and women, who can open the dialog needed to make the workplace a friendlier place for women, those with families and those without.Ms. Sandberg, using her own experiences and those of people close to her, makes a case for the advancement of women in the workplace using scientific and business data. Between those damned "work-life" juggles, to acknowledging your ambition and siting at the table, to how to engage your partner to become an equal partner if you're interested in childrearing and advancing in your professional career. She makes a convincing case for acknowledging social conventions for the sexes and blowing past them.In some ways this book is a feminist manifesto but all the way she acknowledges that no two people are the same and what is right for some women is not for others. The gender gap hasn't been closed, so let's lean in and make it happen.
The whole book is filled with anecdotes which will make you laugh, cry and even cringe a bit.
The introduction and first chapters of this book made me cry, because I am the woman described. The one always selling myself short and observing social conventions to be liked. Ms. Sanderberg made me realize even women at the top, have made mistakes on the way there.
This is an easy read with a little of everything... stories, statistics, and facts about women in the workforce. Women don't think about how they might be limiting their choices, like not accepting a new job or challenging responsibilities because they might want to start a family someday. They're giving up on compensation increases and experience because they don't know how being a mother with fit in with a demanding job. This bias applies to all women, not just those who are mothers. When a man is assertive, he's ambitious. When a woman is assertive, she's a bitch. The author gives many examples of when men are view positively while women are negatively given the same circumstances. This book makes you stop and think about your own bias. It is not a book about how to fix the workplace. It's a book to prompt people to have conversations.
Sherly Sandberg has redefined feminism to what women of my generation had always hoped it could become, a movement that gives people of both genders the freeedom to become all they choose to be. The book is well written and honest with specific suggestions on how women and men can make the workplace and home more supportive to allow for these choices. She shares her own personal experiences and success without arrogance, but in a manner that shares her learning with others to support them in their own journey.I bought the book in print for my son and daughter-in-law who are expecting their first child in July - a daughter. I bought the book for my daughter and all of her friends. She is early twenties just beginning her career. Sheryl has provided a road map by sharing her knowledge that will provide young women with information many of us wish we had had during our careers. Outstanding book which I believe will become a turning point in the feminist movement world wide.
Book nerd for life!
The entire story! Sheryl was open and authentic, honest and forthright. She gave us information about her path as well as suggestions for how women can do it better. An official favorite.
Highly recommended, for women AND men.
A must read!
Maybe some women don't need to hear this; maybe they are already aware and changing or simply not this way, but as an executive with almost two decades of experience, this one captured my attention and then left me gaping in horror--I was hearing her describe me! Only, I thought I was alone. I wanted to hear more--who was this intruder and how did she escape?
This is one I will keep in my office and hand out like candy
I would definitely reccomend this to a friend.
Even way (and I mean, wayyyyy) before I was a mother to my two children, I had always wondered how I would ever be able to juggle both work and motherhood. As a now stay at home small business owner, I still struggle to find the answers to my self or the family.
The author tackles the issue with her own highly professional career experiences with plenty of scientific data to back up.
Easy to read and very inspiring. Definitely a huge eye opener.
By the time I finished reading, I felt like as if I was given a clear path to the solutions, although it will not come without the help of my husband, now I see where I should put my full effort in achieving a good balance between work and home.
One thing though that I wished to see was how companies could provide a flexible work time without economical penalties... If there's any way!
But overall I'm very happy to have read the book and also given the media attention this book is getting already, I'm thrilled to see the movements that are coming along the way!
Thank you Sheryl for inspiring us women!