Say something about yourself!
I like the different ways to increase your charisma.
Nice voice- easy listening
People have noticed positive change in me.
Amazing Book. This book breaks down how we can fix certain self-sabotaging thoughts and behaviors. This book will grow your confidence, self-esteem, and re-duce stress. Really an effective life changing book.
Everyone should have this book. It is a fun read and truly beneficial. And guess what once you pick this book up you will read it...unlike the other self-help books you eventually give up on.
The good and bad thing about this audiobook is that the most important tips & techniques are given right away, at the beginning. The descriptions of charisma as "warmth, presence, and power" were extremely helpful. I think about that all the time now. But the rest of the audio was basic, such as how to make eye contact, listen, and shake hands. Scattered throughout, there were some good tips on monitoring the pace and intonation of your voice. I just wish there had been more elaborate descriptions on how people perceive one another and maybe subtleties within the three "warmth, presence, power"... She does discuss combinations of the 3 and encourages people to make use of their "natural" talents rather than feeling like they have to be all things to all people.
I feel as though some of the information in this book is a little robotic and unnatural. I fully admit that doing any kind of new activity is going to feel a little unnatural at first but this is to a strange extreme. For instance the author suggests living life at times "method acting". This is where a person thinks of a scene which brings up feelings that you want to convey. For instance, if you want to convey warmth, think about something before hand that makes you feel the feelings of warmth. This to me is phony.
There are however very good and extremely practical applications which can be easily done without feeling fake. An example would be to take a full second or two before speaking to ensure that you absorb what the other person is saying. That isn't being fake, that is just good, common people skills.
For the reason that the book is scattered with some hints of genuinely good advice and applications, I don't give the book a terribly negative review. This book however is by no means perfect. I don't like criticizing but if you go to the books website and watch the author speak, she kind of lacks the very same warmth she purports to be able to project. I think this has to do with the fact that in the book she talks about deciding which kind of charisma to turn on and which ones to turn off. She was probably trying to turn on the "authority charisma" and turn everything else down... but I just don't buy it. I didn't see it working from her and I frankly can't see it working for me. The most charismatic people are the ones who are most interested in other people, genuinely. That in mind, go read the go-giver or the go-giver sells more. Not as much science, not as many hours but all of it is solid, good, applicable advice.
Despite the title, the book didn't dispel the myth for me that charisma can be learned. If you've read articles or books on public speaking, you'll find many of the same recommendations in this book -- be authentic, really listen to people, be willing to be vulnerable and reveal something personal about yourself, practice and visualize your presentations, and mirror the person whom you want to build a rapport. There were a few suggestions that were new for me: divide and conquer (convince your detractors separately, not when they're all together in a big, important meeting), dress well and comfortable (look good but not go overboard that you're uncomfortable and give off negative body language), and reframe stressful situations into positive ones (such as instead of thinking about how you might mess up a presentation, think about how you got this assignment because your boss has such confidence in your abilities).
While the author may have helped her clients become charismatic, I don't think it's something that can simply be learned from a book. It probably requires a coach understanding what you're facing and giving advice that specifically address your problems. If charisma could be gained through authentically wanting to connect with the person, listening intently, and mirroring, we would have learned it in high school.
Great book, incredibly insightful. I found myself finally understanding specifically where I have gone wrong in the past with interpersonal relationships. I am in the process of listening to it a second time.
Already have. The narrator had a good voice.
Not an extreme reaction, but I worked some of these theories into my everyday life.
I am a happy, contented person. Love reading sci fi fantasy novels and well written business books.
Can be learned
Her voice is so pleasing to the ears.
Have to listern again to fully grasp and remember all the techniques need to work on.
Growing up in the household of a Baptist minister I had witnessed many newly ordained ministers begin their trial sermons stumbling, loosing track of their thoughts, and standing in only one spot through out their entire delivery, become this fireball energetic orator that walked down the aisles looking people in the eye, touching some on the shoulders as he passed by while instinctively exciting others to jump out of their seats and yell hallelujah; all within less than a years time. So yes, these skills can definitely be taught and mastered. The ministers I grew up around were also taught to move between the three phases of charisma mentioned in the book depending on the given situation they were faced with: from friendly charisma when greeting new people, to authoritative when heading a church auxiliary meeting, to sympathetic while conducting a counseling session. They for the most part were taught through the guidance and tutorship of the more experienced senior pastors. Not only them, but members of the congregation such as myself have had the privilege of learning these valuable skills just by watching them.
Because of this I for one have never had a problem with public speaking, even going so far as to comfortably ad lib my words when spontaneously called to the front of a room or group. So yes, the methods in this book can definitely be taught to most anyone.
Prior to this book I listened to another audiobook that spoke on another type of personal characteristic titled: "The Introvert Advantage," by Marti Olsen Laney, which shed a positive light on the characteristics and traits of socially Introverted people. Coupled together with this book even the inwardly projected introvert could learn to work the room or audience with ease.
If you need more sleep this is the book for you. Otherwise, I'd steer clear.
It is all things I already knew.