Book starts out with solid information about Charisma. But ends up being a compilation of good advice about emotional intelligence in general. In the middle of the book I lost interest because there was nothing really new.
Despite the title, the book didn't dispel the myth for me that charisma can be learned. If you've read articles or books on public speaking, you'll find many of the same recommendations in this book -- be authentic, really listen to people, be willing to be vulnerable and reveal something personal about yourself, practice and visualize your presentations, and mirror the person whom you want to build a rapport. There were a few suggestions that were new for me: divide and conquer (convince your detractors separately, not when they're all together in a big, important meeting), dress well and comfortable (look good but not go overboard that you're uncomfortable and give off negative body language), and reframe stressful situations into positive ones (such as instead of thinking about how you might mess up a presentation, think about how you got this assignment because your boss has such confidence in your abilities).
While the author may have helped her clients become charismatic, I don't think it's something that can simply be learned from a book. It probably requires a coach understanding what you're facing and giving advice that specifically address your problems. If charisma could be gained through authentically wanting to connect with the person, listening intently, and mirroring, we would have learned it in high school.
The plus is that the speaker's got a great voice, fun to listen to! Some opportunities: It would be helpful is the speaker offered sign posts when moving to a new section by pausing before starting it. In a written book, we can see the headers; not so, in an audio. Also it's really annoying that the reference is to "the box below". Why not ask the author/performer to modify the audiobook edition to that the speaker talks through the sidebars? I noticed in Bill OReilly's books, he makes small modifications ("in this audiobook, we'll discuss xyz"). Finally, and most importantly, the author emphasizes the importance of completing various worksheets. Why not make the worksheets easily downloadable for audio book listeners.
GK Chesterton (or maybe CS Lewis) said we need to be reminded of what we know more than we need to be taught something new. Many of these concepts are things we all know ... the reminder of their importance is invaluable!
I feel as though some of the information in this book is a little robotic and unnatural. I fully admit that doing any kind of new activity is going to feel a little unnatural at first but this is to a strange extreme. For instance the author suggests living life at times "method acting". This is where a person thinks of a scene which brings up feelings that you want to convey. For instance, if you want to convey warmth, think about something before hand that makes you feel the feelings of warmth. This to me is phony.
There are however very good and extremely practical applications which can be easily done without feeling fake. An example would be to take a full second or two before speaking to ensure that you absorb what the other person is saying. That isn't being fake, that is just good, common people skills.
For the reason that the book is scattered with some hints of genuinely good advice and applications, I don't give the book a terribly negative review. This book however is by no means perfect. I don't like criticizing but if you go to the books website and watch the author speak, she kind of lacks the very same warmth she purports to be able to project. I think this has to do with the fact that in the book she talks about deciding which kind of charisma to turn on and which ones to turn off. She was probably trying to turn on the "authority charisma" and turn everything else down... but I just don't buy it. I didn't see it working from her and I frankly can't see it working for me. The most charismatic people are the ones who are most interested in other people, genuinely. That in mind, go read the go-giver or the go-giver sells more. Not as much science, not as many hours but all of it is solid, good, applicable advice.
Yes, Gives you many ideas in a simple language that you can understand and put it to use immediately.
Mind is connected to body and body to mind. By working one or the other you can elevate your charisma myth.
Clear enunciation and melodic voice
Be present in the moment and too trick the mind to always project charisma.
Say something about yourself!
I like the different ways to increase your charisma.
Nice voice- easy listening
People have noticed positive change in me.
Amazing Book. This book breaks down how we can fix certain self-sabotaging thoughts and behaviors. This book will grow your confidence, self-esteem, and re-duce stress. Really an effective life changing book.
Everyone should have this book. It is a fun read and truly beneficial. And guess what once you pick this book up you will read it...unlike the other self-help books you eventually give up on.
Firs the best part of this book - the title - great title!However... I ignored what many reviews said - but its true - this book constantly refers to the lessons - from the print version - but the audio or the website has no support for the lessons. So you are left with a big bag of lessons and points in every chapter to act on right away - ( the author attempts to guilt you into doing the lessons - and thats fine - IF the format of audio book took that into consideration.)Different formats need specific producers. You will hear over and over " just look at the lesson below and start now..." as you are driving down the highway. The reader read a verbate of the book - how she did this knowing the use of her reading seems beyond me. But thats a small irritant compared to the book in any form. I have found great inspiration and life changing movement from many 'self help' books. This is not one of them, It has every overused generalized cliche from feel your angel wings to strut like a general. And I lost count at 147 points you should try and use every day.. I needed a book of crib notes for the book.It respectfully has a few good points in chapter 8 - that should be THE CHARISMA LEAFLET. But I had to wade through HOURS and HOURS of superlative drivel to get there.Its unfair to ask Audible for a refund but I would love the author to personally write me a check for the cost of the book and the cost of my time.
IF the author goes back to square one, started from chapter 8, sticks to the topic and goes MUCH deeper, and more authentically and then cuts out ALL the self help 101 - i would consider it. But with a title like this and then to deliver the kitchen sink of beginners self help was very iratating .
It should not have occurred
Pain, disappointment etc., As my nephew said about a bad movie " Well thats ( in my case) 12 hours i'll never get back"
Please Audible - make sure the contents are specifically supported in the audio format, I have never written a negative review of a book here or on Amazon - but this book needs serious curation at many levels.
Not sure!! I would have loved to have a workbook so that I could get the most out of it.
I have already applied some of the insights and it works. I have people telling me how warm I am and they keep asking me if I am the manager for my sales region.
Get it and follow the advice.
Great book, incredibly insightful. I found myself finally understanding specifically where I have gone wrong in the past with interpersonal relationships. I am in the process of listening to it a second time.