Having listened to Joe Navarro's "What EveryBODY Is Saying", I felt this audiobook provided similar content, but with excellent suggestions for honing questions that an interviewer might ask of a potential hire, or an employer of an employee in an otherwise uncomfortable situation. My only misgiving is when the reading refers to "Figure 1" or "Figure 2", etc., and there was no companion download to include what might be important images. I'll never know how important they were to include unless they are available or unless I get the hard copy somewhere... please Audible, let the reader decide on their importance rather than make the decision on our behalf.
I heart mysteries, political non-fiction, and memoirs, especially all in one book.
Spy the Lie starts out a bit slow, with quite a bit of background and sports analogies. After Chapter Two, once you fully believe the authors are bright and well meaning, the fun begins. Listening to such a book made me want to take notes, so that I could better retain the information. Spy the Lie is basically a how-to on "The Method" for detecting deception. It won't make you a human lie detector, but it certainly can help you get to the truth. Plus, the analysis of OJ Simpson, Jerry Sandusky, and Christine O'Donnell are fascinating. The appendix includes sample questions for your child if you suspect he/she is doing drugs, and another sample list in case you think your significant other is cheating. I used "The Method" to uncover why a family member was behaving so strangely and it worked unbelievably well. Both party left the conversation feeling good because the truth had come out.
All this makes tremendous sense and most likely works really well when used by an experienced practitioner. Well worth a look for anyone who is interested in behavior, psychology, or just managing in the world.
This audio book fell far below my expectations. I felt like there could've been far more substance to the methodology which they teach and subscribe too. Many case studies were used to substantiate their claims but after an hour, it's like they're using this medium to boast about their accomplishments. This causes one to loose sight of the methodology and get swamped by story after story.
It's also very difficult to believe in some of the case studies. One that jumps to mind - The CIA informant - 20 years in the field - who goes to a standard, run-of-the-mill interview. In the space of 5 minutes, the interviewer is able to crack the informant. He goes from admitting to being a double agent for 20 years to falling just short of confessing about the time where he picked up a penny and didn't hand it in to the police.
I suggest this book to people who are able to filter a Google search. There are some lessons but first you've got to sort through the 'ad-infested-green-card-lotto-winning sites'.
How to ask the right questions.
I'm not sure that I can compare this book to others in this genre, but I can say that having read What Every Body is Saying that it is an excellent, and natural further study on the subject of detecting deception.
I definately need another listen or two, but I will have far more confidence in asking direct questions after reading this book. Usually I'm the one who feels uncomfortable when I feel someone is being dishonest - hopefully now I can handle a situation with more confidence and ask the right questions, in the right way and watch and listen for the reactions. All in all a good listen.
Just seemed to repeat and repeat the same thing throughout the reading. Dull, uninteresting and lacking in the things I wanted to hear. The book cited several examples of successful use of the author's techniques which I found completely unbelievable and contrived. Sure, a spy is going to give up his previous life of spying for another governent with a mere question.... uh, huh. Yup. Not in my lifetime!!
Actual examples of alledged incidents could have held promise
He did fine, but the material was repetitious
Interesting premise which could have been provided within an hour!!
I don't recommend this one to my friends and family!!
A great reference on reading people and their comfort level. They don't tell you who's not telling the truth, but they'll teach you when a response is inconsistent with your expectations, indicating you should do a little more work (ask more questions) in that area.
I would listen to it again because there is so much helpful information contained in the book. As the author says, the only way to hone the ability to spot lies is to practice. To do that, you need to review. A very interesting book.
His voice was exactly what you would expect for this kind of CIA/investigation narration. Almost amusing, but at the end of the day a smooth voice to listen to and appropriate to the material.
You miss 100 percent of the shots you never take. —Wayne Gretzky
Books about human behavior are my favorite. But this one in particular is a must have. There is so much useful information condensed in this book that I wished it was twice as long.
If you read and liked What every body is saying you certainly like this book as well. But keep in mind these 2 books have different focus. Spy the lie focus on how to detect a lie based on the excuses people make up when confronted with direct questions, while what every body is saying is more focused on body language,
I didn't rate this book 5 stars because sometimes it seems that the authors are holding back more information, because they work for the CIA I guess. But If they ever manage to publish a second book I'll definitely buy it.
I had listened to the preview and was sort of 'meh' about it. But I gambled and got it anyway.
So very glad I did. It was a very entertaining read, that gives you knowledge on how one can spot liars easily, whether it is during interviews, business talks, spouses or when your children lie about silly things.
They clearly outline what techniques are employed where, and how and when they should be.
They show us interviews of OJ Simpson and Sandusky, and dissect them to show us how they knew they were guilty even before their convictions just based on the interviews the CIA agents had listened to.
Overall, an amazing book if you want to have a introductory/intermediate book for deception detection.