As a pediatrician, I recommend this book daily to parents as overview of goals in parenting: raise a child with a conscious who can self regulate, parent to emotions and create your family culture. If you read one parenting book this is it.
Dr. Dembo outlines a great philosophy that the role of parents is to coach children. I like a lot of the concepts and philosophy that he outlines and will try to use many of the ideas. Athough we might tweak them a bit so they don't sound so academic or negative. For example , rather than having a family meeting maybe we call it the family check in. I also like his suggestions for family rituals and responding to children without emotions. I would actually be very interested in hearing more of his thoughts on responding to childens accomplishments. The book does not really spend time describing how to respond to children's accomplishments and successes, instead it focuses on how parents deal with events they find challenging.
I have to agree with others who commented that the narration was very even toned. I didn't find it as annoying as some of the other readers. After a while you get used to his slow-pace. I think it reflects how he tries to work with children and parents in stressful situations (by remaining calm at all times.) While his attempts at humor are not lol funny, I though they were endearing because you know he's genuinely trying to keep things lighthearted.
My only critique of the books content is that at times the doctor is too academic in his explanation. At times I got lost in his general explanation of the theory. I think it would be more helpful to use more examples to illustrate the concepts; as well as provide alternative responses that parents could have used instead. I assume this is intentional on the doctor's part, that he wants parents to find their own solutions. However, for me examples are the best way to learn soft skills like this that require more practice.
For instance, honoring the intentions of the child's feelings is fairly vague. A few more examples might make the desired behavior clearer. Likewise the cop and Mohawk examples he provides on responding vs reactioning were helpful. I wish he had given more examples or even compared / contrasting responses vs reaction. A side by side comparison would have helped me start to recognize the patterns.
Overall I really enjoyed the book gave it 4 out of 5 stars because I think that concepts are what matters and you can get over the sometimes academic approach.
This was a truly inspiring discussion on realigning our views of success for ourselves, our kids and society as a whole. The author offers real strategies that you can implement with the family today and make changes for tomorrow. It is not an idealist movement where you feel as society will shun you for trying these things. One final note, Dr. Denbow's voice is "nasal'y" but given his story and the very principles of the book you will come to understand the importance in him narrating it himself. And it's not too bad, you'll get over it.
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The Author narrates this book and I couldn't get through the first chapter. He stumbles through his own writing. He's unbearable to listen to.
I didn't know I needed to hear the words in this book when I started listening, but I quickly realized the advice was exactly what I needed.
The author gives plenty of examples of family situations, with at least one that is sure to resonate with you, as well as techniques for managing them.
I want to buy the hardcopy version to use as a reference book. I will be buying a new yellow highlighter too!
Echoing the other reviews, the narration was difficult, and is the first I listened to on 2x speed!
The information was cloudy, and I am still not entirely sure what the author meant by his concepts like "honor the intention of their feelings" but that was basically the core of the book. If you know dr. Dembos work from elsewhere, you might enjoy this, if it is new to you like it was new to me, don't bother.
Let me start off by agreeing that the author perhaps might not have been the best person to narrate his work. That being said, it wasn't distracting enough to really detract from the advice for parents. It took me a while to catch on. At first, I think it was a little difficult to get into the book. I felt like I was about halfway through before I got to the practical advice or concrete examples of how to implement his suggestions. I've certainly started paying more attention in my interactions with my child and attempting to repeat to myself that I should respond and not react. This is worth listening to for any parent
Makes me look at things in a different way with my very difficult 19 year old son. I was about to disown him and instead am trying what I learned from the book. We will see if it works, but I was at the end of my rope. Thank you for the information.